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- The Functions Of Emotions – How Avoidance Keeps Us Stuck
Written by: Brandi Ducote, Executive Contributor Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise. What do substance abuse, obsessive-compulsive behaviors, doom scrolling, workaholism, compulsive spending, and many other mental health concerns have in common? Avoidance. More specifically, avoidance of unwanted or uncomfortable emotions. Many people enter my office with the assumption that there are certain “bad” or negative emotions to eliminate from their lives. It is this belief, however, that often contributes to an individual remaining stuck in unhealthy avoidance patterns. Instead, I offer a perspective shift to view all emotions as neutral. Once we begin to view our emotional world through this lens, we are free to be curious about what they are trying to communicate and what we need to change in our lives. Here we’ll look at 5 core emotions ̶ fear, sadness, anger, and joy. As they are connected to our basic survival responses of fight and flight, emotions are intended to provide us with information about ourselves and give us the energy needed to take action to meet our needs. Each emotion has an action urge attached to it, which signals its function. Fear, often related to the flight response, gives us the energy to move away (flee) from a threat. The purpose of fear is self-preservation. Without it, we would walk right into that cave in the woods, ignoring the growl of the bear that rests within. Sadness, which tells us to seek support from others, serves the purpose of pulling communities together. Anger tells us to attack or aggress and is connected to the fight response. It motivates us to set boundaries where necessary and protect what is important to us. Anger can also be described as a secondary emotion, as it stands up for the more vulnerable feelings of fear and sadness. Joy shows up as a signal that one of our needs has been met. It tells us to seek more of the things that are important to us. Avoidance Emotional avoidance can look a lot of different ways. In short, it is anything that we do to stuff down our unwanted feelings. This prevents our emotions from serving their intended purpose and the energy attached to them becomes trapped within us, often creating other issues like anxiety and depression. How do we begin to break this pattern of avoidance? The first step is to acknowledge the feeling. Name it to tame it Initially coined by Dr. Daniel Siegel, founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA, “Name It to Tame It”, describes the technique of identifying your feelings in the moment to signal to your body that you are paying attention, rather than avoiding the cues it is sending to you. By simply stating out loud, “I feel…” we can gain valuable insight about what it is that we really need (hint: it’s probably not another pair of shoes or a plate of cookies). So, next time you begin to feel any emotion, rather than picking up your phone to scroll through social media to stuff down the discomfort of the feeling, simply state out loud, “I feel [insert unwanted emotion]” and notice what feels different in your body. Visit my website for more info! Read more from Brandi! Brandi Ducote, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Brandi Ducote is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the owner of Somatic Psychotherapy San Diego. As a highly sensitive person (HSP) who has struggled with chronic anxiety and associated somatic symptoms throughout her life, she has learned what it takes to break free of deeply engrained, destructive patterns of coping and how to build a life full of meaning and joy. In her practice today, she passes on this valuable knowledge to help others live in a way that is more congruent with who they are at their core.
- The Gift That Keeps On Giving – A Survival Guide To The Holidays With In-Laws
Written by: Desiree Marion, Special Guest Writer The familiar throbbing in your temples begin as you start the long walk up the driveway to the front door. The doorbell rings and you hear footsteps shuffling from inside. Your heart races. In a silent panic, you scour your mind searching to find that thing you forgot at the store on the way. What was it again? The door opens and immediately you are met with… What comes to mind as you think about this holiday season with your in-laws? Dread? Worry? Excitement? Whatever comes up for you, navigating the holidays with your in-laws can be a challenge. By cultivating a strategy to aid you with engaging in practical self-care, implementing boundaries, or rallying your allies, you can survive this holiday season. Practical self-care Self-care doesn’t have to be this mythical creature that no one ever really sees. It is something we can access moment by moment. Whether it be jump starting the day, on the way to the holiday dinner party, or in an effort to recover from some uncomfortable interactions, these examples of self-care can be your first step at surviving the holidays with in-laws. Practice breathwork Take this opportunity to pause and inhale deeply for four seconds, hold for four seconds, exhale for four seconds, and hold for four seconds. Repeat as many times as needed. This simple breathing technique can increase emotion regulation and calm the nervous system. Practice mindfulness 5+4+3+2+1 Exercise 5 - Describe 5 things you can see and what they look like (colors, shapes etc.). 4 - Describe 4 things you can physically touch and what they feel like (texture, temperature, etc.). 3 - Describe 3 things you can hear and what they sound like (volume, pitch, try to copy the sounds if possible). 2 - Describe 2 things you can smell or that you enjoy the scent/fragrance of. 1 - Say 1 kind thing about yourself (e.g., I am brave). This exercise can interrupt anxious thought patterns and can bring someone back into the present moment. H.A.L.T. Check In What is one small thing you can do for yourself at this moment? Hungry - Fuel your body with food and water, etc. Angry - Journal, go for a walk, listen to music, etc. Lonely - Call a friend, spend time with loved ones, etc. Tired - Take a break, take a nap, go to bed earlier, etc. This quick check in can assist you in focusing on your most tangible needs that allow you to function day to day. Practice gratitude What are three to five things, no matter how small, that you were able to accomplish today? What are three to five things you are grateful for at this moment? Who is one person that you are grateful for and why? Practicing gratitude is like examining a photograph or an image. It an acknowledgement of what is happening in the picture, while adjusting our lens to also focus on additional details that we notice in the picture too. In an oversaturated world of “self-care” slogans that don’t often seem accessible or realistic, I invite you to give yourself permission to redefine what self-care can look like. Implementing boundaries Societal messages around the holidays often instruct us to overextend ourselves, but what if we didn’t? Sometimes being invited to the in-laws comes with requests to make unrealistic contributions to the gifts, answering invasive questions, or other forms of boundary violations. Another strategy for your survival this holiday season is to practice becoming comfortable with the discomfort of stating your boundaries; even when others are not comfortable receiving them. Sometimes boundaries can be challenging to verbalize if you are not aware of what your boundaries actually are. Oftentimes people don’t recognize a boundary until it is crossed. Common emotions that you may feel when boundaries are not respected can be sadness, disappointment, embarrassment, frustration, anger, and sometimes resentment. An intro to boundaries Complete the following as it corresponds to what you would ideally like to communicate when navigating holidays with your in-laws: I am not comfortable with… Next time I would prefer it if…instead. Thank you for thinking of me, but... Unfortunately, I am unable to do that for you this time, but I can... Let me check my calendar and get back to you about... Once you’ve practiced formulating your boundaries, take some time to practice speaking these out loud with someone or in the mirror. Practice can help you build your confidence to express your needs at the holiday gathering. Rallying your allies Allyship is the practice of supporting others, who are part of a group that is being treated unfairly, even though you are not yourself a member of this group. These allies can be spouses, friends, siblings, etc. who are committed to supporting you. Once you have identified your allies, take some time together and process what it would be like to communicate your boundaries. If you notice yourself feeling guilt or shame for vocalizing your needs, I want to share this gentle reminder: It is okay to feel guilty and to still say no. Create a code word to use that will alert your allies in person, via text, or over the phone that you are becoming overwhelmed and need back up. Collaboratively discuss what they can do to support you in these moments. Examples of this could be reiterating the boundary, redirecting the conversation, checking in on you via text while at the gathering, or sticking together. Have an exit strategy If your boundaries find themselves in combat with boundary-pushers, have an exit strategy to remove yourself from the situation or conversation that is creating distress. This can look like: Excusing yourself to use the restroom. Stating that you need to “take care of some things” and need to get off the phone. Texting or calling allies and stating that you need to “take a phone call”. Directly express that you are needing to take a moment for yourself. Whichever you choose as your out, take a moment to practice the self-care strategies mentioned above to regroup as needed. Remember that your survival guide is intended to be customizable for your use all year round. May this guide help you experience more peace this holiday season.
- Why Keeping Things Fair And Equal With Twins Is Shooting Yourself In The Foot
Keeping things fair and equal satisfies parents’ need to ensure no one is favored, no one misses out, Keeping the score fair and equal helps mitigate this guilt to some extent and provides a minimal sense The pitfalls of fair and equality with twins 3 main problems arise from the need to keep things fair This is a very common outcome of trying to keep things fair and equal.
- 3 Reasons That Keep Leaders Lonely
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- Best Ways To Keep Up Your Fitness Routine During Vacation
Be Flexible Vacation is the perfect time to loosen up your fitness routine and keep things fun and flexible your usual routine, think of your vacation as a chance to explore a broader range of activities that keep your fitness routine on vacation is about maintaining your intentions and prioritizing self-care to keep Morning Meditation: A daily meditation practice can help ground you, set the tone for your day, and keep What strategies can you implement to keep up with your fitness routine while on vacation? 1.
- Keep Calm And Crypto On – Crash Or Correction?
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- Should You Keep Creating Value-Based Content For Your Brand?
When your content consistently delivers value, your audience will keep coming back, eagerly waiting for Spice up your content mix Value can come in many forms, and mixing up your content is vital to keeping This variety keeps your audience curious and eager to see what you’ll share next, making them more likely
- 3 Things You're Doing That Are Keeping You From Healing
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- 5 Ways To Keep Your Sanity While Adjusting To Parenthood
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- 5 Ways To Keep a Good Mood In 2023
There are a few ways that I keep my good mood throughout the day, week, month, year, etc. The main point here is to keep it easy on yourself. Meditation is the gift that keeps on giving. Here is the best part. Keep it simple. Focus on your breath. Focus on a mantra or affirmation. Focus on the quiet. yourself each and every day why you made the decision to seek and hold onto your good mood, you won’t keep
- 5 Love Languages For Business – Finding And Keeping Loyal Customers
Written by: Joerg Weishaupt, Executive Contributor Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise. In his book, "The 5 Love Languages," Dr. Gary Chapman explored how people express and receive love. Fast forward to today, and it's clear these insights don't just apply to personal relationships—they're incredibly relevant to the business, too. Imagine if your business could speak the love language of every customer, creating connections that go beyond the superficial and foster genuine loyalty. By understanding and applying the five love languages—Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch—you can engage your customers in a way that resonates deeply with them. Words of affirmation Just as in personal relationships, the power of affirming words cannot be underestimated. Words of Affirmation, one of Dr. Gary Chapman's five love languages, emphasizes the importance of verbal acknowledgments of appreciation and affection. When translated into a business context, this love language underscores the value of personalized customer service—a strategy that makes customers feel genuinely appreciated and seen. Digital implementation According to Google, 90% of leading marketers say personalization significantly contributes to business profitability. Personalization can take many forms. Automated yet personalized email campaigns that address customers by their first name celebrate their milestones (like birthdays or anniversaries with your brand), or follow up on a recent purchase with tailored recommendations can significantly boost customer satisfaction and loyalty. Social media shoutouts for customer milestones or simply engaging with their content by liking or commenting can also make customers feel recognized and connected to your brand. In-person application For brick-and-mortar businesses, personalization might include acknowledging regular customers by name, remembering their preferences, or thanking them personally for their loyalty through handwritten notes included with their purchase. Staff training on the importance of personal interactions and creating genuine connections with customers can transform a routine transaction into a memorable experience. Acts of service Translating the love language of Acts of Service into a business framework involves actions that demonstrate your dedication to customer satisfaction by going beyond what's expected. This approach not only solves customer problems but also provides services that add significant value, enhancing the overall customer experience. The essence of Acts of Service in a business context is to anticipate customer needs and address them proactively. It's about making life easier for your customers, showing that your business isn’t just about transactions but about genuinely caring for their well-being and satisfaction. Here are some ideas for value-added services Proactive support: Implementing a system that anticipates and addresses customer issues before they escalate. This could mean following up on purchases to ensure satisfaction or offering help guides and tutorials for products that require some setup. Customized solutions: Tailoring your services or products to fit the unique needs of your customers. For example, they could offer to customize a product at no extra charge or provide one-on-one consultations to ensure the customer gets what they need. Unexpected benefits: Surprising customers with free upgrades, complimentary services, or unexpected gifts can turn a standard business interaction into a delightful experience. For instance, sending a small gift along with a purchase or offering a complimentary service as a thank you for their loyalty. Convenience services: Make your customers’ lives easier by offering services like free returns, extended customer service hours, or mobile services that save them time and effort. In fact, 87% of shoppers surveyed say free returns are still an important purchasing factor. Implementing acts of service in your business In the digital space, enhancing customer experience can be as straightforward as utilizing ser-friendly website builders, like Sites & More, that make shopping or finding information a breeze, offer live chat support to address customer queries instantly, or provide personalized recommendations based on previous purchases. Acts of Service, when done right, can significantly enhance the customer experience, turning casual buyers into loyal customers. By going above and beyond, businesses can show their customers that they are valued and appreciated, not just for their wallets but for the trust they place in your brand. This deepened relationship, fostered by genuine acts of service, can become a key differentiator in a competitive market. Receiving gifts Incorporating the love language of Receiving Gifts into your business strategy involves giving your customers tangible tokens of appreciation. This practice not only enriches customer relationships but also serves as a powerful incentive for repeat business. Thoughtful gifts, rewards, or loyalty bonuses act as a physical manifestation of your brand’s appreciation and commitment to its customers. Strengthening customer relationships through gifts Gift-giving in a business context translates to offering rewards that have genuine value to your customers. It's a tangible way to say "thank you" and "you matter to us." This could be as simple as a discount on their next purchase, a free product for regular customers, or exclusive access to sales or events. The key is ensuring these gifts are meaningful and tailored to the interests and needs of your customer base. Tips for creating a meaningful loyalty program Personalize the rewards: Use customer data to offer personalized rewards that cater to the individual preferences and purchase history of your customers. This shows that you pay attention to their needs and value their business. Tiered loyalty programs: Implement a tiered loyalty system where customers can earn more significant rewards the more they engage with your brand. This not only encourages more purchases but also fosters a sense of achievement and exclusivity. Celebrate milestones: Recognize and reward customers on special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, or after a certain number of purchases. This personal touch can make customers feel valued on a personal level. Feedback for rewards: Encourage customers to provide feedback in exchange for rewards. This not only provides you with valuable insights but also engages customers in a way that makes them feel their opinions are valued and impactful. Surprise and delight: Occasionally surprise your loyal customers with unexpected gifts. This unpredictability adds an element of excitement and can significantly boost customer satisfaction and loyalty. Leveraging gifts in marketing Digital platforms offer unique opportunities to extend these tangible tokens of appreciation. For instance, offering digital coupons, exclusive access to online events, or virtual gifts that can be redeemed online. Moreover, integrating your loyalty program with your online platforms can enhance the customer experience by making it easy for customers to track and redeem their rewards. By thoughtfully integrating the love language of Receiving Gifts into your customer loyalty strategies, you can create more profound, meaningful connections with your customers. These tangible tokens of appreciation are powerful tools for reinforcing positive feelings towards your brand, encouraging repeat business, and ultimately building a loyal community of customers who feel genuinely valued and appreciated. Quality time Embracing the love language of Quality Time in the business world means prioritizing meaningful interactions where customers receive your undivided attention. This can significantly deepen customer relationships, transforming transactions into meaningful exchanges. Whether through events, workshops, or direct engagement on social media platforms, giving customers your time and attention speaks volumes about your commitment to their satisfaction and well-being. Emphasizing the importance of engagement Quality time with customers can take many forms but is fundamentally about creating spaces for genuine interaction and engagement. Hosting events or workshops provides an excellent opportunity to educate your customers about your products or industry while listening to their feedback and questions in real time. Similarly, active engagement on social media platforms—responding to comments, participating in discussions, and sharing relevant content—makes your brand more approachable and relatable. Strategies for ensuring quality interactions Host engaging events and workshops: Plan events or workshops that not only showcase your products or services but also provide real value to your customers. Whether it's a how-to session, a seminar on trends in your industry, or a community-building activity, make these interactions count. Be active and responsive on social media: Use social media not just as a broadcasting channel but as a platform for dialogue. Respond to comments, ask your followers questions, and create content that encourages interaction. Show that there are real people behind your brand who care about their community. Personalize customer support: Ensure your customer support team is trained to treat each interaction as unique. Empathy, listening skills, and personalized solutions can turn a routine support call into a moment of meaningful engagement. Utilize technology to enhance personal connections: Tools like Sites & More CRM can help personalize customer interactions by providing customer service representatives with historical data on each customer's preferences and previous interactions with your brand. Schedule regular check-ins: For long-term projects or services, schedule regular check-ins with customers to gather feedback, offer help, and ensure they're satisfied with your service. This demonstrates an ongoing commitment to their needs. Quality time in the age of smartphones Even in an increasingly digital world, the principle of quality time remains relevant. Webinars, live Q&A sessions, and interactive online communities can serve as digital equivalents of face-to-face interactions. These platforms offer unique ways to connect with a broader audience while maintaining a level of personal engagement. By prioritizing Quality Time as a core component of your customer relationship strategy, you convey to your customers that they are more than just a number. This dedicated attention fosters a sense of belonging and loyalty, encouraging customers to not only stick with your brand but also become its advocates. In the end, it's these quality interactions that build the foundation of lasting customer relationships. Physical touch The love language of Physical Touch transcends its literal meaning to embrace the tangible aspects that create a memorable brand experience. It’s about making every physical interaction with your brand something memorable and meaningful, whether through creative packaging, the ambiance of your physical store, or the tactile quality of your products. This sensory aspect of your brand can significantly enhance customer experience and forge a deeper emotional connection with your audience. The significance of sensory experiences Physical touch, in a business sense, underscores the importance of the sensory experience associated with your brand. It's about creating an impression that stays with the customer long after the interaction. Strategies for creating tangible connections Elevate the unboxing experience: Invest in high-quality, unique packaging that evokes excitement and pleasure upon opening. This first physical interaction with your product can set the tone for the customer's entire experience. Optimize the in-store experience: For brick-and-mortar locations, ensure your store environment is inviting, well-designed, and sensory-rich. Consider elements like lighting, music, scent, and product arrangement to create a cohesive and enjoyable shopping experience. Focus on product quality and feel: The tactile quality of your products can significantly influence customer satisfaction. Ensure your products not only look good but also feel good in the hands of your customers. High-quality materials and craftsmanship can speak volumes about your brand’s commitment to excellence. Personalize physical interactions: Even in an era dominated by digital communication, personalized physical interactions, like handwritten thank-you notes included in orders or customized packaging, can make a significant impact. Leverage technology for physical engagement: Use technology to enhance physical interactions with your brand. For example, augmented reality (AR) can create immersive experiences that blend the digital and physical worlds, offering customers a new way to engage with your products. The power of sensory branding Physical Touch in business is closely linked to sensory branding, which leverages the power of the senses to influence customer perceptions and behaviors. By paying attention to the physical and sensory aspects of your brand, you can create a distinctive and memorable customer experience that sets you apart from competitors. In conclusion, adapting the love language of Physical Touch to your business is about recognizing and harnessing the power of tangible connections. By focusing on the physical and sensory aspects of your service or product, you can enhance the overall customer experience, making your brand not just seen but felt. This approach helps to build a memorable brand that customers are drawn to time and again, solidifying their loyalty and fostering lasting relationships. Conclusion In transforming customer interactions into enduring relationships, understanding and integrating the 5 Love Languages into your business strategy emerges as a profound approach. This concept, inspired by Dr. Gary Chapman’s insights, transcends the personal domain to offer valuable strategies for businesses aiming to foster deep, loyal customer relationships. Each love language presents unique avenues for businesses to connect with their customers on a more personal and meaningful level. The power of personalized connections The adaptation of the 5 Love Languages in a business context underscores the importance of personalized connections. It’s about recognizing that each customer is unique and appreciates different forms of value and acknowledgment. Whether it's through personalized communication, exceeding service expectations, rewarding loyalty, dedicating time to engage, or enhancing the tangible aspects of your brand, these strategies collectively contribute to a more satisfying and memorable customer experience. Encouraging business adaptation Businesses are encouraged to identify and implement the love languages that resonate most with their brand ethos and customer base. It’s not about applying all five languages uniformly but about discerning which languages align best with your brand’s values and your customers' expectations. This selective adaptation ensures that your efforts are focused, genuine, and likely to yield the most significant impact. Strategic implementation for maximum impact Assess your brand’s strengths: Identify which love languages naturally align with your brand’s strengths and values. This alignment ensures authenticity in your customer engagement strategies. Understand your customer base: Gain deep insights into your customers’ preferences and behaviors. This understanding will guide you in choosing the most effective love languages to focus on. Integrate across touchpoints: Seamlessly integrate the selected love languages across all customer touchpoints. Consistency in application amplifies the impact of your efforts. Measure and iterate: Continuously measure the effectiveness of your strategies and be willing to iterate. Customer preferences can evolve, and so should your approach to engaging with them. As we conclude, businesses are called upon to embrace the 5 Love Languages as a dynamic framework for enhancing customer relationships. By thoughtfully integrating these languages into your business strategy, you open doors to deeper connections, heightened loyalty, and, ultimately, a more successful brand. Remember, the most enduring brands are those that not only meet their customers' needs but also connect with them on an emotional level, speaking their preferred language of appreciation and value. In adopting the 5 Love Languages, your business does not just aim to satisfy but to seek to enchant, making every interaction a stepping stone towards a lasting bond. Embracing love languages in business isn't just an investment in customer relationships. It's a commitment to building a brand that is cherished, respected, and loved. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and YouTube, or visit my website for more info! Read more from Joerg! Joerg Weishaupt, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Joerg Weishaupt is a highly experienced software developer, and IT services professional with over 30 years of experience in the industry. He is the founder and managing director of Sites & More, established in 2022, which is dedicated to helping founders and entrepreneurs launch their online business. Jörg has a proven track record of success in the industry, having previously founded and run successful IT companies in Germany, Armenia, USA and the Philippines. With a deep understanding of the software development process, he has been able to lead Sites & More to become a reputable and reliable all-in-one solution.
- How To Conquer FONKU (Fear Of Not Keeping Up)
The fear of not keeping up (FONKU) can prevent us from reaching our full potential and living our best Stop Judging Yourself When people are afraid of not keeping up with the latest trends, they often judge If you're feeling stressed or anxious because you haven't been able to keep up with everything in your