Written by Dr. Pooja Anand Sharma, Healing Therapist & Life Coach Dr. Pooja Anand Sharma is the Founder and Chairperson of Vishwas Healing and Healthcare LLP, a renowned Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Alternative Healing Master with over 22 years of experience in the healing industry. Dr. Pooja’s passion for healing and counseling goes beyond just a profession; it is her true calling. Infertility is a major cause of stress and emotional and relationship problems among many people and couples of childbearing age. Although IVF and medications are the primary ways of dealing with the problem, more and more people turn to combined treatment that includes psychotherapy and other healing techniques. This approach is not only focused on the physical side of infertility but also focuses on the psychological, emotional, and spiritual state of the patient, which may lead to better results. The role of psychotherapy in fertility treatmen t Counselling is very useful in helping patients cope with the psychological and emotional aspect of infertility. Various therapeutic modalities can be employed to support individuals and couples on their fertility journey: 1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) CBT assists people in modifying the cognitive and behavioral processes that may lead to stress and anxiety. This way, people can work on improving their ways of dealing with the emotional aspect of fertility treatments, which is a ride. 2. Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Some of the activities that can help one to be mindful include meditation and yoga which can help in reducing stress and increase emotional intelligence. MBSR helps people learn how to be in the moment and accept the experience they are having in the moment, which can be very helpful during the often long and unpredictable journey of conceiving. 3. Couples therapy It has been noted that infertility can put a lot of stress on the couple. Couples therapy is the process through which the couple is able to share their feelings, enhance their communication and build a better relationship. Couples can also seek the services of therapists to assist them in the numerous choices and the emotional aspect of fertility treatments. 4. Psychodynamic therapy This therapy explores the thoughts and feelings that are not always visible and can influence the patient’s response to infertility. Thus, by identifying and working through these core problems, people can experience less distress and more calmness in their lives. Alternative healing methods In addition to psychotherapy, various alternative healing methods can complement traditional fertility treatments, promoting overall well-being and potentially enhancing fertility outcomes: 1. Energy healing Some of the methods that are used include Reiki and Healing Touch, which are used to balance the body's energy fields. Experts also hold the view that energy imbalances have impacts on the physical health of an individual, including fertility. Energy healing can assist in the reduction of stress, the management of stress, and the improvement of emotional health. 2. Herbal medicine The use of TCM and other herbal medicine practices has been used to enhance the reproductive system. Some of the herbs include Vitex, Maca, and Red Clover, which are thought to help regulate hormones and boost fertility. 3. Nutritional therapy It is important to take foods that contain nutrients that are important for the reproductive system of the body. Nutritional therapy is a process of prescribing specific diets to improve fertility and other related factors such as hormonal imbalance and inflammation. 4. Yoga and Tai Chi These practices involve the coordination of movement of the body with the breath and relaxation, which helps in stress relief. Practice can help enhance one’s physical fitness, lower anxiety, and boost one’s mental health. 5. Acupuncture Acupuncture is the process of inserting needles at certain points of the body to help regulate the flow of energy or Qi. Studies have also indicated that acupuncture helps in increasing the amount of blood flow in the reproductive organs, reduces stress, and increases the chances of success of fertility treatments. The integrated approach An integrated approach to addressing fertility issues combines medical treatments with psychotherapy and alternative healing methods, offering a comprehensive plan to support individuals and couples: 1. Holistic assessment A detailed assessment by doctors, physiotherapists, and other holistic caregivers to come up with a treatment plan. 2. Collaboration among practitioners The cooperation between medical doctors, psychotherapists, and alternative healers is done frequently to ensure that there is good coordination in the treatment process. 3. Customized treatment plans Combining the various approaches in the treatment of the individual or the couple, as the case may be. For instance, using IVF together with acupuncture, CBT, and nutritional therapy. 4. Ongoing support Ongoing emotional and psychological care during the fertility process, to help people deal with the highs and lows of the process. 5. Empowerment and education Informing people and couples about their fertility and health options and helping them make the right choices. Conclusion Fertility problems can be tackled through an integrated framework that encompasses psychotherapies and other forms of healing modalities, and this can greatly help the health of individuals and couples in their quest for fertility. This approach is more effective and sensitive to the patient as it addresses the physical, mental, and spiritual aspects of the patient in order to achieve the goal of parenthood. Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website for more info! Read more from Dr. Pooja Anand Sharma Dr. Pooja Anand Sharma, Healing Therapist & Life Coach Dr. Pooja, an exceptional communicator, seeks to revolutionize holistic healing by emphasizing the profound interconnectedness of the mind and body. Her philosophy rests on the belief that mental and physical health are inseparable. Any ailment affecting one inevitably reverberates through the other. With this vision, Dr. Pooja has transformed countless lives.

Written by Suría Toussaint Calzadilla, Certified Integrative Health Coach Suría Toussaint Calzadilla is a Certified Integrative Health Coach, a Gallup Certified Strengths Coach, has a Master's Degree in Organizational Psychology, and is the founder of Healing Journey con Suría (Healing Journey with Suría). Her purpose and passion is to support people with their well-being goals in an integrated and sustainable way. Have you ever been intentional in thinking: What are my well-being goals? What do I want to accomplish for my physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health? Do I have a holistic view of health? In my personal experience, it took me many years to understand that being healthy is not only having physical or mental health and that healing is a continuous, never-ending process. I used to think that if I ate balanced meals and worked out, I was healthy; if I could manage stress (or believe that I was managing stress), I was okay. But the reality is that when life caught up and gave me a wake-up call, I learned that being and feeling healthy has much more to do than just being aware of what I ate and the physical activity I did.   A few years back, after acknowledging that I was 31 and a cancer patient, I thought to myself, “How can this be? I just turned 31. I’m a healthy person. I have my whole life ahead of me!” I couldn’t believe that after having what I thought was a “healthy lifestyle,” I was faced with this health situation. Nonetheless, I realized that life holds many lessons and gifts in every situation. The key to this is the perspective with which you see things and how you change your thinking process to “For what reasons is this happening to me?” instead of “Why is this happening to me?”. But this is a topic for another article!   By shifting my mindset, I had an “aha moment” and realized that healing is a continuous, integrated process. I wanted to heal physically, but I needed to work on other aspects of my life, like expressing my emotions and connecting with my purpose and something greater than myself. I had to work with my health holistically in a way that worked and made sense to me. I understood that being healthy meant much more than doing everything physically possible for my cancer to go away. I started seeing my healing journey in a much more integrated way.   As a result of this and the learnings I had in the past three years, I decided to become an Integrative Health Coach to support people in understanding that every decision they make regarding their well-being is a step towards the objectives they want to accomplish for their health.   So, the point I want to get across is that you need to be clear and aligned with what you really want for your well-being and how this resonates with you and your purpose. One of the best ways to make sustainable shifts and willingly decide on healthy habits is to connect with your bio-individuality. There’s no “one size fits all” approach to taking care of your Integrative Health. Holistically caring for your health looks and feels different for everyone. Accepting that your journey is different from others will give you peace in knowing that you are doing what you truly need to be doing and, thus, feel healthy. I always tell my clients that to make new habits sustainable you need to connect with what resonates with you, your needs, and preferences. There needs to be an emotional connection with what you’re doing and why  you are doing it.   5 steps to identify and achieve your wellness goals 1. Make a list of what you want for your health a. Think about what you want to accomplish and how you want to feel (physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually).   2. Identify and jot down why this is important to you   3. Write what you have done up to now to support your well-being a. Has this worked? Why or why not?   4. Reflect on steps 1-3 and set specific well-being objectives a. Be reasonable in identifying these objectives. Start with the ones you connect with the most in this moment.   5. Identify a habit, activity, or mindset to support each goal a. Remember to think about your bio-individual needs and preferences, and how this connects with you. b. Consider realistic options that you can sustain.   Sharing with you part of my story helps me get across that living a healthy lifestyle requires much more than one aspect of health. It requires recognizing the importance of multi-dimensional health and your bio-individual needs.   Shifting your perspective on health may take time. The first step is to identify the objectives you want to accomplish for your well-being and how you’ll do this, in addition to connecting with what truly resonates with you. Working with experts in this field, like an Integrative Health Coach, can facilitate the process and support you in your healing journey. Remember, you have everything you need to start living your best life. Just stay true to yourself!   Follow me on Instagram , LinkedIn ,  and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Suría Toussaint Calzadilla Suría Toussaint Calzadilla, Certified Integrative Health Coach Suría Toussaint Calzadilla is an experienced Coach in personal and professional development, focused on guiding people to maximize their talents, potential and well-being. After being diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma and undergoing treatment and procedures to achieve full remission, Suría experienced her own healing journey and developed a different perspective on life. She has since completed the Health Coach Training Program with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN) and continues to expand her skills and knowledge with related courses. She has launched her Certified Integrative Health Coaching career through Healing Journey con Suría (Healing Journey with Suría) and has supported women between 30 and 45 years old to live their best life.

Written by Suría Toussaint Calzadilla, Certified Integrative Health Coach Suría Toussaint Calzadilla is a Certified Integrative Health Coach, a Gallup Certified Strengths Coach, has a Master's Degree in Organizational Psychology and is the founder of Healing Journey con Suría (Healing Journey with Suría). Her purpose and passion is to support people with their well-being goals in an integrated and sustainable way. Some people say you are born with a purpose. Others say you create your purpose through life. But what if both can be true? What if you come to this world to impact others through your presence and purpose, and you define (and redefine) your purpose through the different experiences you have in life? By dictionary definition, purpose is the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. So, if you think about yourself in context with this definition, what is the reason for your existence? It may be that you have or have not thought about this before. We live in a fast-paced world where we can feel that we don’t have the time to pause and reflect on why  we’re doing things or for what  reasons are we doing things. We may automatically do things without acknowledging the purpose behind it. If I take myself for example, I’ve always felt that I came to this world to help and support others. I enjoy seeing people evolve and feel proud of who they are, whether it’s in a personal or professional scenario. Guiding others to live their best life is how I would describe my purpose today. But I didn’t define it this way from the get-go.  Knowing what I was good at and what I enjoyed doing is one thing, but feeling connected to what  and why  I do things is something different. I would say that everything I’ve lived personally and professionally in the past four years has redefined my purpose from solving or guiding people through their problems to supporting their healing journey and guiding them to live their best life. This is very much aligned with the reason why I think I came to this world, but in a sense, it’s much more defined and grounded to who I am today, what I think I do exceptionally well, and how it makes me feel. Connection plays a big role in identifying your purpose. You may be great at doing many things, but it’s how  it makes you feel that makes the difference. When you connect with what you do, you feel an unexplainable joy and satisfaction when doing it. You feel that it’s not a chore or an obligation, but rather something that feeds your happiness and well-being. This is what confines you to know that what you are doing is aligned with your purpose. Once you recognize this, you start being more intentional in the activities that you do, the words that you say, the content you consume, etc. And this shapes and reshapes your purpose in life. Living your purpose is an essential part of your integrative health and well-being because when you live with and act through your purpose, you heal. You are feeding yourself with happiness, fulfillment, creativity, excitement, intention, significance, motivation, impact, values, and meaning. There is so much your body, mind and spirit feed off from living your purpose that your mood can improve, your connection with yourself can be strengthened, and your decisions and actions in life can shift for the better. And all of this is health. All of this heals you. There is no right or wrong way to identify, define, or redefine your purpose. Nonetheless, here are three reflections you can try out to guide you in the process. Think about what you do exceptionally well and at the same time you enjoy doing.  When thinking about this, recognize how  your body feels and where  do you feel that emotion, passion, or “butterfly sensation”. This is a good indicator of the emotional connection between what you do and how it impacts your well-being. Reflect on your values and the impact you want to create with what you do. This is the effect you will have on others when living your purpose. Remember, only you know what you’re good at, what makes you happy, what drives and motivates you, and what you connect with. Living your purpose impacts others and supports your well-being. It may be that you are 25 years old and already know what your purpose in life is, as you may be 55 and are redefining your purpose because of your life experiences. The key is to, once in a while, reflect on where you’re at and ask yourself “Am I living my purpose?”. Follow me on Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website for more info! Read more from Suría Toussaint Calzadilla Suría Toussaint Calzadilla, Certified Integrative Health Coach Suría Toussaint Calzadilla is an experienced Coach in personal and professional development, focused on guiding people to maximize their talents, potential and well-being. After being diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma and undergoing treatment and procedures to achieve full remission, Suría experienced her own healing journey and developed a different perspective on life. She has since completed the Health Coach Training Program with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN) and continues to expand her skills and knowledge with related courses. She has launched her Certified Integrative Health Coaching career through Healing Journey con Suría (Healing Journey with Suría) and has supported women between 30 and 45 years old to live their best life.

Written by Siân Marron, Spinal Energetics Practitioner & Coach Siân Marron is trauma-informed Spinal Energetics Practitioner & Intuitive Coach with expertise in mind-body alignment. She helps people reconnect with their body's innate wisdom so they can release unprocessed trauma and emotions from the body. I drift in and out of focus. I feel myself trying to pretend like his words don’t physically hurt. I hear them, but they don’t feel like they belong to me.  ‘I don’t love you.’  ‘I’ve been content without you.’  ‘I haven’t missed you. I thought I would, but I haven’t.’ ‘I don’t want to try.’  ‘I don’t love you.’ The words linger and echo but don’t evaporate. I blink to try and bat them away. They stick to my skin. It feels like they’re seared into my lungs and I can’t catch my breath. I feel everything and absolutely nothing. Surely, this is just a big misunderstanding. I signed up for life. There must have been a mistake. How has it come to this? He’s meant to be my person. My head spins, and I kick into auto-drive.  ‘So what are you saying?’ I ask.  He stays silent. ‘What are you saying?’ I ask again. ‘I’m saying I don’t want to try,’ he said quietly, avoiding eye contact. ‘You want a divorce,’ I say as a calm statement as my throat closes.  It feels like his words have sucked the oxygen from the air around me. I can’t breathe. When my ex-husband uttered those words, “shocked” doesn’t cover it. Sure, I knew things between us weren’t perfect at the time but him giving up on what I felt was our first marital hurdle shook me to the fucking core. I couldn’t comprehend it. I honestly thought it was a joke, not haha funny but something he would realise was ridiculous. He doesn’t know what he’s saying, he will change his mind, he’s just going through a difficult time, we will get through this, we’re ‘ones’, we agreed forever, I delusionally reassured myself.  If you’ve ever found yourself at the receiving end of a surprise divorce, you’ll know it feels like your whole world has caved in around you. Everything you thought was true, isn’t. The promises, broken. The future you planned, gone. For me, it was a shitstorm of questions, confusion and quite frankly the worst pain I’ve ever endured. The one that relentlessly and desperately echoed in my head, why doesn’t he love me? 3 years after those words, I honestly can’t believe where I am now and what a fricken journey it’s been looking back. I can safely say that my divorce took me to the most desperate, dark time in my life so far. I had never considered a life without my ex-husband. I had no idea what I wanted. I had no idea how to manage the intolerable, overwhelming feelings. I didn’t know how or whether I wanted to create a life without him. Sounds dramatic but he was my world. Everything revolved around him. He was my ‘why?’ for so long, my safety, my home which made for a very sobering unravelling when everything fell apart.  Despite the despair, confusion and all consuming shit storm, I can honestly say that I have never been happier and am living a life I could only have dreamt of back then. For a long while there though , I couldn’t see a way through.  If you’re in the thick of it and trying to find your way through, these are three things I wish I knew back then 1. Let yourself fall apart & grieve The body stores unprocessed emotion and trauma if we don’t feel safe to express it. When we don’t allow ourselves to feel it all, the sadness, the anger, the grief, the disappointment, often that energy will show up as pain and dis-ease in the body. I would’ve saved myself alot of physical pain if I’d cultivated the safety and given myself permission to feel it all earlier. For a good while, I was actually scared to lean into what I was feeling. I’d allow myself to cry but I had a limit, it was contained. I thought that if I really let my feelings out the bag, they might drown me. Having struggled with anxiety and depression in the past, I was worried I wouldn’t be able to pull myself out of my hole. Losing your person and the future you’d planned together is loss, allow yourself to feel it. You don’t have to hold it together. Give yourself permission to unravel. Cry, wail, scream, be angry, be sad, lean into whatever wants to be expressed.  2. Let people support you I have always been more of the supporter than the supportee. It’s always felt a lot more comfortable giving support than receiving it. My divorce helped me learn to accept people’s care and support, because I was an absolute mess and didn’t really have a choice. Whether it’s people you trust or a therapist, don’t do it alone. Divorce can be a lonely, confusing journey and even if people around you don’t get it, moments of respite and realising that you have people who love and care for you makes such a difference. 3. Find something that makes you feel alive I don’t know about you but my ex-husband really was the centre of my universe. I channelled so much energy into him, what I thought he wanted, supporting him and planning our life. It felt bizarre to have that void when we split up. It felt icky at first, I had no idea what to do with myself. I had all this time and energy available that I didn’t before. My life had opened up but I had no clue what to fill it with.  I allocated the majority of this energy to worrying about the future, ruminating over the past, asking unanswerable myself tormenting answerable questions like ‘why doesn’t he love me?’ One of the most powerful things on my healing journey was reconnecting with things that I enjoy and make me feel truly alive. I started to do the things on my ‘one day’ list that hadn’t happened because I was hoping he’d want to do them with me. I started climbing mountains again. For me, being in nature and at the top of a mountain is a uniquely awesome feeling where I feel like I can conquer anything. I joined an awesome hiking group and met some amazing people. I started living life for myself again. It helped me rediscover who I was, what made me happy, and frankly, got me out the house and dressed in the heavy, early days of separation.  What's next after divorce? If you’re going through a surprise divorce and dealing with the loss of your marriage or relationship right now, this is what I also wish I’d known this: You are going to be ok, life is going to get better, the pain will eventually fade and become less intense, you are going to see things differently as time goes on. This is going to be hard, this is going to change you but this is also going to transform you and your life in the most unexpected and liberating ways. If you’re negotiating a surprise divorce yourself and want extra support, I’ve written a book called Why Doesn’t He Love Me?; How My Whole Life Imploding Made Me Realise I Was Asking The Wrong Question.  It is a personal account of my divorce, healing journey and a practical guide for anyone else trying to come to terms with losing their partner and the life they had planned out for them. It includes more things I wish I’d knew, meditations, journal prompts, healing activities and support options. If you’re in that darkness, know that I see you and you are not alone. Grab Your Copy Follow me on Facebook , Instagram  or visit my website  for more info! Read more from Siân Marron Siân Marron, Spinal Energetics Practitioner & Coach Siân Marron is trauma-informed Spinal Energetics Practitioner & Coach with expertise in mind-body alignment. She is an ex-probation officer with extensive experience with emotional health issues, who found energy and somatic work in the throes of burnout and anxiety. When it helped her completely heal from a 'lifelong' autoimmune disease, eliminate the anxiety, and get through a difficult divorce, she knew with every cell in body that she'd found her next calling. Now, nothing lights her up more than helping others heal and live brighter, more vibrant lives.

After a body and life altering sledding accident in Switzerland, Surgeons, Doctors, and Physical Therapists from Zürich's Swiss Olympic Medical Center agreed Georgette would face a lifetime of Pain Management and Orthotic Aids. Drawing on her knowledge from growing up Barefooting the rocky cliffs and tidepools of Southern California's and Mexico's coastlines, her Apache Roots, and updated findings in Sports Science, Georgette made a medically unimaginable recovery – without residual pain and orthotics. She's now using these protocols to help others realize their full mobility potentials, and has opened PediPower, a Concept Foot Center in Zürich, Switzerland including Foot Therapy, Education, and multi-brand Barefoot Shoes. Georgette Dutoit, Restorative Foot Therapist Please tell us more about yourself. Growing up, I was considered an introverted child and preferred to be alone with a book rather than running with the cool kids. I was interested in things that made sense, always seeking the truth and asking questions until I could understand why. This sometimes caused problems, especially at Catholic Catechism and with Authority figures – but that only flamed my fire to find the bottom line. I guess you could say I wasn’t afraid of a challenge and went after definitive answers like a tireless archaeologist digging for tangible proof. Also, having Synesthesia altered the way I processed information and contributed to my need to understand what was going on around me deeply. What got you started as a Restorative Foot Therapist? I was raised on the rocky coastlines and tidepools of the San Pedro Peninsula in California and Mexico’s Punta Banda Peninsula. Going barefoot over these challenging Pacific shorelines provided a rich sensory feedback playground for my soles. As a result, my feet developed strong and smart, never causing me to think twice about them. Fast forward 39 years later, when I moved to Zürich and shortly after suffered a sledding accident that threatened my physical and mental state. This situation opened my eyes to the limitations of current Western medical options for foot and lower leg rehabilitation and inspired me to go back to the roots of my past experiences to develop alternatives beyond these limiting protocols. Who are your Role Models, and how do they inspire you? The people who inspire me are what my husband calls “Doers”. Those who think things are possible and find ways to do them. In school, learning about Galileo - how his factual findings were initially hidden to keep control over the masses. This was my introduction to how unchecked institutions can cause great harm. And although they tried to stop him, Galileo just kept on finding ways to do it until it was done. And in my lifetime, the women; I remember as a young adult watching Martha Stewart elevate everyday homemaking skills, turning them into a multi-level business empire. I first noticed Stewart on a TV Commercial where she was cutting up Credit Cards and reusing them for tiling her swimming pool – doing this with casual confidence, like it was completely okay to do. Stewart did something to those valuable little plastic cards that seemed profane at the time, and that was another eye-opener: another doer and a challenger of the status quo. And much earlier than Martha was Mattel’s iconic Barbie, who did and had everything she wanted, with no man, woman, or institution stopping her. Barbie demonstrated every possibility – outside of being a wife and mother – of what a woman could do with an effortless smile and ease. These two iconic figures were impressive role models – smart women who defied the female expectations of their time with grace and confidence. They were Doers and led me to believe a girl could do anything if she simply wanted to. What drives you to be your best? The people I work with and for push me to be my best. My Partner-Husband, Co-Workers, Clients, and Customers all make me want to do things right. If I can keep those I surround myself with engaged, happy, and coming back for more, I feel like I’m doing well. I aspire to inspire them by giving them what they need to succeed. Because when they succeed, that means I’m moving forward, too. What are the influences on your approach to foot therapy? My work is influenced by my Chiricahua and Mescalero Apache roots, as well as modern findings in Science and Biomechanics. The Apache were the last to surrender to the US Government. One of the things that made them so difficult to catch was their strong and adapted feet in harsh surroundings. They were faster than their adversaries not only because they knew the terrain more intimately but also because they could move faster barefoot or in their indigenous shoes versus the heavy and cumbersome shoes of their enemies. When I decided to study to become a Foot Therapist, I discovered the power of traditional Pedobarography – essentially making and reading footprints to recognize movement patterns. I was immediately drawn to this. It felt like second nature to me, and I saw it as a tool to hone my therapy approach. This fail-proof method shows the basic mechanics of what’s working or not in the feet and gives a concrete place to start with rehabilitation. I was taught this by an airplane mechanic, now a renowned running coach. He applied his knowledge of mechanics to the feet and hit an approach to making his runners winners. You can’t argue with the mechanics of the feet, and with updated Scientific studies to back it up, footprint reading became a strong part of my Foot Rehabilitation method. Understanding this also helped to explain why the Apache were so stealthy on their feet compared to their Cowboy counterparts. The Business What is your business name, and how do you help your Clients? The business name is PediPower. In our Concept Foot Center, we help people get out of foot pain and into their optimal mobility. We show them how to naturally restore their foundation and put them into the best-fitting functional shoes for their feet and lifestyles. What is your Motto? We actually have two mottos that work together like feet: Knowledge is Power and Be your own Superhero How did you come to create PediPower? Lack of anything like it. According to my research, there was no physical place for people to go for natural Foot Therapy options and educational advice about their feet, correct consulting on barefoot shoes, and especially to try on these shoes to find the best fit for their foot shape and lifestyle. I saw the void for all this, so I created it myself. What specific goals or vision do you aim to achieve? I’d like to change the way we regard our feet, improve options to recover our feet, and especially set new standards for shoe shopping. I’d like to see the people who work in brick-and-mortar locations be specifically educated about healthy functional feet and shoe fit and work as consultants instead of salespeople. This alone would make huge changes in our physical well-being and reduce common debilitating foot pains. What kind of audience do you target your business towards? Our Target Audience is people who want healthy and pain-free feet. People who have gone through the solutions provided by the medical system but have not been able to find the long-term relief they need, people who are following their intuitions about their feet, and people who don’t have foot problems and want to preserve this status for themselves. What services or products does PediPower offer? Our Brick-C-Mortar Concept Foot Center includes a Multi-Brand Barefoot Shoe Shop where you can get a basic Foot Analysis, try some foot restoration tools, try on a variety of Barefoot Shoes, and receive consultation on finding the best fitting Barefoot Shoes for your foot shape and lifestyle. We also have foot-shaped socks, flexible insole options, and a Learning Library of books to peruse while you’re visiting us. Our in-shop Studio offers by appointment; Restorative Functional Foot Therapy and Functional Foot Massage, Toega Group Fitness classes, Educational courses for Consumers, and Credential courses for Professionals. What are the criteria for a client to work with you? For a Client to work with me, they have to be willing to put in the effort to practice what they learn and upgrade their footwear. I can’t accept Clients who want a quick fix and won’t consider how their shoes affect their foundation. It would be a bad use of time and money. Is there a common challenge that your customers face? A common challenge that new Customers and Clients face is overcoming their ideas of what a shoe is and what it can do to them long term. Once they can understand the difference between function and form, it becomes easier to start making the necessary changes to gain stronger and pain-free feet. How are you helping them to face this challenge? We help our customers and clients face their foot and shoe challenges with enlightening education and the right counselling to find what’s best for their feet and lifestyle. Knowledge is Power, and once they have that knowledge, they can Become their own Superhero. What sets PediPower apart from the current approach to Foot Care? We’re offering options and education that the Medical and Insurance systems do not. We are offering a return to optimal foot strength and function, not methods that keep you weak and dependent and don’t work long-term. How does PediPower differentiate itself from its competitors? We don’t have Salespeople in our Shop. All our Staff are educated and trained Foot and Shoe Consultants who are passionate about guiding people correctly into the best shoe choices for their level and lifestyle and understand how powerful this knowledge is. They’re also required to contribute to the PediPower Foot Therapy Approach by participating as Instructors or Therapy Support. Our shop manager is also our studio’s functional foot masseuse, and on the floor, we have certified Toega instructors who teach Toega Group Fitness Classes. What are the current goals for your business? The current goal for the business is two-fold: One is to be able to expand our Shoe offers into targeted Departments – such as Business, Leisure, Formal, Hiking, Running, and other sports specifics like Soccer, Biking, Rowing, Climbing, etc. I’d like to offer all styles and brands of Foot Shaped footwear so that our customers and clients have the ultimate options to find what’s best for them. But to achieve that, their first need is to be producers making these products with the capabilities of being our business partners. I dream of this tipping point and do believe it’s coming. The second is to get the Foot Therapy approach into institutional medical learning so that it becomes standard to offer it as an option and is supported by the insurance systems. Could you share some success stories from your clients? Often, our Therapy Clients will return for Shoe Shopping and tell us how we’ve changed their lives for the better; that they’ve been able to get out of chronic pain, or get back to their sports, or hike with their partners, play with their kids, or simply walk their pet again without pain filled limitations. They return with renewed confidence and tell us stories of how they’ve wowed their Doctors and Physical Therapists with previously thought unachievable results. It never gets old to hear these stories. It’s absolutely why I created PediPower – to give people viable long-term options to feel stronger in their feet and give them the confidence to go farther into their happiness. For readers inspired by this conversation and eager to start their journey, what first steps would you recommend? I’d tell readers to take the next steps to go to our Website and have a look at the Workbook on the homepage. This gives basic information in an easy-to-understand format and provokes questions about what your feet and shoes should be doing for you. From there, you can start to understand how to ask the right questions about your foot concerns, and then search for a Therapist in your area who can help you update your approach to caring for your feet. Follow me on Instagram , and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Georgette Dutoit

Kelly Miller, NMD is the Author of Saving Your Brain and 7 other health books, Speaker, Brain Health Coach, and Founder of Saving Your Brain Training Centers in Florida and Kansas City. Dr. Miller is certified in the Melillo Method and is well-known for brain training and balancing the brain to address neurodevelopmental issues and diseases. Miller’s clinical practice covers over forty three years, treating over fifteen thousand patients. Miller is an international lecturer on the genetic, nutritional, and hormonal considerations related to heart health. Kelly Miller, Brain Health Coach, Naturopathic Doctor Please tell us about your life so we can get to know you better. I was born in Denver, Colorado, on December 10, 1955. My father was career army, enlisting at age 17, from 1929 to 1959 and my mother was a schoolteacher. When my father decided to go to college after retirement, he finished his Bachelor’s degree in 2 1/2 years. He taught history at middle school after that. I had two siblings- my brother Bruce Miller, who has a Masters in Mathematics and taught in middle school, and my sister George Ann Gregory, who has a PhD in teaching English as a second language. She has multiple books on Amazon. She was also the editor for my books. In 1959 we moved to Fort Smith Arkansas. I was 4 then and my brother was 11 and he had lived in 14 different cities by the time we moved to Fort Smith. My brother and sister lived in Panama and Puerto Rico during their lives before I was born.  Growing up basketball was my passion. I had shoulder length hair in high school and the basketball coach didn’t allow that, so I did not play. I walked on my freshman year at College of the Ozarks in Clarksville Arkansas and made the team but left to transfer to University of Arkansas, Fort smith. Later I played basketball at Logan University of Health Sciences in Chesterfield, Missouri while in graduate school. In 1974 I discovered rugby and that became my new passion and hobby for the next 20 years retiring in 1994 at age 39. It was a wonderful ride. Many of my lifetime friends came through rugby. I attended graduate school at the University of Arkansas, Fort Smith and University of Arkansas, Fayetteville after leaving College of the Ozarks. During Christmas 1976, I ran into an old friend in Fort Smith and he told me he was going to go to Chiropractic school in January. I was intrigued and immediately applied, and I was able to join the January class because school had been delayed for two weeks due to snowstorms throughout the MIdwest. Tell us about a pivotal moment in your life that brought you to where you are today. In a few days I knew I had found my calling and now had two passions in my life – Chiropractic and Rugby. I started playing rugby in Arkansas, but when I moved to St. Louis for graduate school, I joined the St. Louis Ramblers, the second oldest rugby club in the United States. I loved my time there and was fortunate to be their captain from 1978 to 1981. In 1982 I moved to Kansas City and played for the Kansas City Blues for the rest of my career till 1994. In 1978. I was selected to the Western United States Rugby team, one of 4 territorial teams in the United States and was selected from 1978 through 1982. I went to the Territorial Trials in Chicago for selection for the United States team during those years and was fortunate enough to be selected to play for the Western United States against many touring sides, such as London Welsh and played against England’s National side in Dallas, Texas in 1981. I married in 1983 and soon had two beautiful daughters, Lauren in 1984 and Abby in 1986. Today Lauen lives in Greenville, South Carolina and has a daughter, Parker, age 4,. Abby has two children –  Monroe age 7, and Milo age 5, and now lives in Bradenton, Florida near me. Can you share insights on how your training in functional diagnostic medicine has enhanced the effectiveness of your patient care? Furthering my education was always a part of my DNA. I became Certified in Industrial/Occupational Health in 1991 through Northwestern University of Health Sciences in Minneapolis Minnesota. I became certified in acupuncture in 1996. In 2001, there was an opportunity to become Certified as a Naturopathic Medical Doctor by submitting all the continuing education I had accumulated since 1980. In 2013 and 2014, I matriculated a Fellowship in Aging Regenerative Medicine through the Brazil American Academy for Ant-Aging and gave my dissertation on Heart Health in San Paulo, Brazil at Sao Paulo University in 2014. I acquired a Certification in Functional Medicine from Functional Medicine University that same year. During this time, I decided to sell my Kansas City practice and begin a new chapter in my life in Florida. My last day in Kansas City was October 13, 2013.  Early in my career, I discovered that I always wanted to be different than the majority of practitioners. Nutrition has always been a part of my practice since day one – the use of whole food diet modification, raw food juicing, and whole foods supplements were part of my patients' treatment plans. I did a unique non-forceful sensory updating technique called Bio-Energetic Synchronization Technique, B.E.S.T.. Later I learned Sacro-Occipital Technique, S.O.T., and Acupuncture to my arsenal. I discovered the more I stacked modalities, acupuncture, diet, stress-coping skills, and acupuncture, the better results I got and the more chronic and unusual cases I attracted. The stacking of therapies culminated in a multidisciplinary office where Chiropractic, Acupuncture, Physical Therapy, Medicine, and Podiatry were all under one roof. At this time, we had 22 different staff and serviced 60 to 80 new patients every month. We had all state-of-the-art technologies to deal with severe and chronic spinal problems and peripheral neuropathy. We had three acute spinal decompression units, six synaptic electrotherapy units, infrared light therapy, red light therapy, cold laser therapy, Videonystagmography, and VNG for assessments for balance, vestibular, and dizziness complaints. In 2012, I decided I wanted to simplify my clinical life, so I decided to sell this Practice and start a new one, and I was able to do that in October 2013. After having 22 employees I decided I wanted two things in the new practice – develop a model that needed less staff and one that did not deal with insurance. One of the observations I had when I was treating these hundreds of neuropathy patients is the vast majority of them seem to be suffering for some degree of cognitive decline. Many times, it would take the husband and wife combined to get a decent history. Many of these patients were on multiple medications, including gabapentin, blood pressure medication, and often statins. I recognize they had cognitive problems, but I did not have a solution for them yet. In 2014 I began applying more of my knowledge of the hormone system in my practice and began using Bio-identical Hormones. We would analyze the hormones by taking saliva samples five times throughout the day. We also began using more sophisticated Functional Medicine testing for analysis of the physiology and chemistry of our patients, including micro-nutrient testing, allergy/inflammation testing, organic acids testing, and environmental testing. As we did this, we continued to attract more chronically sick individuals that standard Allopathic Medicine seemed to have no solutions for. One of the most common findings dealing with people in a Functional Medicine practice is that most have a “leaky gut”. When we tested these patients for food sensitivity, they would always have a few foods that they reacted to that they rarely ate, but the vast majority of the foods they were reacting to seemed to be whatever they were eating the most of at the time of testing. These foods weren’t the usual offenders, such as gluten, dairy, corn, etc. These were foods that you would think were healthy – multiple fruits and vegetables. We would recommend supplementation to heal the gut and avoid positive foods, but it often seemed a short-lived fix. The questions I had was, “Why are all these people having problems with so-called healthy foods and why do all these people have “leaky guts”? Is it the foods that are causing “leaky guts” or because they have a “leaky gut”, they are reacting to everything they are eating? It was like the old adage, “What came first the chicken or the egg? “ What inspired you to write your series of health-related books, and how do they complement your practice? 2015 and 2016 were very productive years. I’d always wanted to write a book on the hormone system, and I decided to write one. This was called 13 Secrets to Optimal Aging and is available on Amazon. After the first book, I wrote five others. Although I was being very productive, I was aware that I seemed to be having increasing memory problems. This was especially true for new information. But I was also having trouble recalling details from the past. I would look at a photograph of a place I had visited in France while on vacation, and could not recall the name of the town. I was also having difficulty remembering technical information, like in chemistry, what “cis” versus “trans” meant. This was information I had been using for over 30 years. Soon after I finish my first book I met Dr. David Brownstein, the guru of the thyroid and author of multiple best-selling books at a medical conference and asked him to read my book and he was kind enough to do so and write the forward for me. He is a true gentleman. After I wrote my first book I decided why stop there, so I continued writing 6 more. Some of my books have not yet been published. They are still in long hand. Writing the books was an exercise of putting my cumulative knowledge into a written format. All my books were written from the perspective of my observations of the 15 000 patients I saw in that 35-year period. I would write what I felt was true in long hand. I would then scour Google Scholar and PubMed to find supporting evidence on my observations. Even when I was writing and looking up references. I had this feeling that there was something not quite right with my memory. With self-preservation as my motive, I started researching things that affected your memory, things that affected brain function, things that affected your brain as we age. After three years of research, this became my next book, Saving Your Brain: Causes, Prevention, and Reversal of Dementia/Alzheimer’s. In my search, I was looking for things that could affect my memory. There was no family history of dementia or Alzheimer’s. I did not have the ApoE4 gene which half of Alzheimer’s patients have. I did heavy metal testing on myself, I had high levels of Mercury, Cadmium, and Lead. All of these can have adverse effects on the brain. I can remember playing with liquid mercury as a kid in school. I used to paint houses in the summer during college and could’ have accumulated lead from the paint I got on my body. Growing up I lived near a smelter so I could have gotten the Cadmium through in inhalation. I started a slow chelation protocol on myself over the next 2 years to reduce the heavy metals in my body.  What else could cause problems with my brain? My teenage years were in the late 60s and early 70s and I was extremely experimental during these times. “If one of something was average then three should be even better” was my mentality then. Fortunately, I never fell off the cliff. I drank too much alcohol in college and in early adulthood. I was in a car crash where I was not in a seatbelt and cracked the windshield with my head and was knocked unconscious. Finally, I played 20 years of rugby and was involved in about 10,000 tackles, either in the delivery or receiving side. I suffered several mile concussions, including one in the game we upset the London Welsh in Dallas in 1978. I can remember I had to change my tackling style from chest level to below the waist because I was getting dazed after every tackle otherwise. I had quite a list of potential contributing factors that could cause brain dysfunction. The question was, “What to do about it?” That is really what my Saving Your Brain book is about is what we can do to make our brains healthier, keep our brains healthy, and things that can help us repair an injury from trauma or environmental stress to our brains. I chose only natural ways to address repairing the brain because (1) I am a natural healthcare provider and (2) there was absolutely no research that supported that any drug therapies help dementia or Alzheimer’s.  After three years of what I felt had been exhaustive research, I published my book Saving Your Brain: Causes, Prevention, and Reversal of Dementia/Alzheimer’s. This book was released in August, 2018. My book came out about two weeks after the popular book, The End of Alzheimer’s by Dr. Dale Bredson, MD, Alzheimer’s researcher, was released. His conclusions were the same as mine were. There is no single drug or group of drugs that will arrest reverse Alzheimer’s and that causes for this disease or multiple and cumulative.  Just when you think you know everything there is to know about something you get a reality check. Mine came within six weeks after I published the Saving Your Brain book when I was attending an A4M Academy for Anti-Aging conference in Florida. I visited a booth and there was a medical clairvoyant there. He told me I had a Mold/Mycotoxins infection in my sinuses. He told me how to test for it and how to remediate it. The whole time he was talking to him I was thinking to myself “this guy is so full of sh_t! “The next day at the conference one of the speakers was Jill Carnahan, MD and guess what her topic was about – Mold/Mycotoxins. Every thing the clairvoyant had said to me was repeated by Dr. Carnahan regarding the prevalence, danger, testing, and remediation. This time I listened. I tested myself, and sure enough, it was there. It was amazing to me that in all my research on environmental causes for dementia/ Alzheimer’s that I had not run across the Mold/Mycotoxin connection. There is a saying, “You don’t know what you don’t know!” How true this was in this instance. This inspired me to study the brain more. I initially took several classes at Carrick Institute and then began studying Dr. Robert Melillo’s work, I have become Melillo Method Certified and am now eligible for The Fellowship in Neurodevelopmental Brain. Since that time, I have found that about 75% percent of my patients who come to me for chronic brain conditions have mold/mycotoxin infections. I have found this in every early-onset Alzheimer’s patient. Early onset is considered before the age of 65. I have found it in 90% of autistic spectrum individuals, and I also have found it prevalent in ADHD-diagnosed individuals. In particular, Ochratoxin, which comes from water damaged buildings, inhibits the production of dopamine. Dopamine is in a deficit in ADHD individuals. Dopamine is necessary for initiative and sustained focus and attention. Many of the stimulant medications prescribed for ADHD individuals stimulate dopamine. However, this is only one aspect of ADHD. There are many others, including retained primitive reflexes, right hemispheric networking weaknesses, and multiple sensory immature brain development. You see, one in four people have a genetic predisposition to not being able to mount a proper immune response to Mold/Mycotoxins. That is why it is so prevalent. Unfortunately, 99% of healthcare providers are oblivious to assessing this in people with brain problems. I find it shocking! In fact, after seeing hundreds of people of all ages – 2 to 95, suffering from academic, behaviorial, psychological or mental health challenges, not only do many have mold/mycotoxins and other environmental body burdens, 100% of them have retained primitive reflexes or re-emerging primitive reflexes and hemispheric imbalance.  If you could change one thing about your industry, what would it be and why? The $64 million question is, “What are primitive reflexes, and what is their significance?” The presence of primitive reflexes is, in my opinion, the most significant neurological finding in a person and has a profound impact on their academic performance, behaviors, psychological profile, mental health status, physiology, and chemistry. Let me explain further. In fact, this is going to answer the question, “Why do so many people have “leaky guts”?, the question that baffled me for years. Primitive reflexes develop in utero and are used to facilitate the birthing process and movement in early life. Some of these reflexes are the rooting reflex used to find the mothers breast for milk, and the Palmer reflex, the grasping mechanism that occurs when you put your finger in a baby’s palm. There are about 10 main primitive reflexes. In normal neurodevelopment, these reflexes should be integrated by about 12 months. This means they should go away by 12 months. However, if they do not, it indicates that there was a lack of normal neurodevelopmental in the brainstem. The brainstem is where the primitive reflexes integrate. The presence of primitive reflexes cause multiple issues in an individual. The first is that retained primitive reflexes are associated with “hardwired “ negative neurobehaviors that do not respond fully to behavior modification methods. The second is that the brainstem is to the brain as a foundation is to a house. If your brainstem is immature, it is like an unlevel foundation for your house. What happens if your foundation is off? Your floors are sloped and crack. Your walls and ceilings crack. Similarly, if the brainstem is immature, the three primary sensory systems – the balance/postural system, the vestibular system (where am I in space at any given time?), and the oculomotor system (eye tracking and fixation functions) are often immature as well. One or all three systems will be immature and this will adversely affect neurodevelopment of the brain. The immature brainstem will cause an asymmetrical brain growth in one of the hemispheres. You see we are all born right brain dominant, and about age 3 there is a shift to the left brain development. This is when the hippocampus develops and we start recording audio and visual memories. However, this shift can come too early and cause a right hemispheric weakness or too late, causing a left hemispheric weakness. A right brain delay can be associated with conditions like ADHD, OCD, ODD, or autism spectrum in early life, and in severe cases schizophrenia later in life. Anxiety is a very common concomitant symptom with ADHD. The left brain delay is associated with dyslexia or dyscalculia early on in life or, if it becomes severe later in life – bipolar symptoms. The last significant problem created by having primitive reflexes and an immature brain is that the Vagas nerve, which controls the parasympathetic nervous system, or the “rest and digest”, “healing”, “down-regulating” part of our autonomic nervous system is under functioning. That means the counterpart, the sympathetic or “fight /flight part of our autonomic nervous system, is hyperfunctioning. The vagus nerve goes to every organ in the body. It also goes to the right basal ganglion and is involved in the indirect loop to our right brain. This is the part of our brain that controls the “Should I say or Do that?” and helps us filter out audio and visual input and stay focused on what we need to be focused on. The vagus nerve function is necessary for us to secrete adequate hydrochloric acid, pancreatic enzymes, and bile from the gallbladder to properly digest our protein and fat. Carbohydrate digestion starts with saliva in our mouth. Excess sympathetic influence, “fight/flight”, and lack of parasympathetic influence via poor vagal tone causes a dry mouth. A dry mouth can cause indigestion of carbohydrates. The Vagas nerve and parasympathetic nervous system influence the circulation to the gut and reduce gut permeability. So you see, if you have primitive reflexes, you have an underdeveloped brainstem, you have an underdeveloped vagal and parasympathetic system, and you have an excess of sympathetic influence. Therefore, you will not secret adequate hydrochloric acid, pancreatic enzymes, and bile to digest your protein and fats, and you will have an increased gut permeability. This is the reason for the “leaky gut”. There is an autonomic dysfunction associated with the lack of vagal tone and parasympathetic influence. Therefore, whatever you are eating is not digesting properly, and you have a leaky gut. undigested proteins and fats are getting through it, and our body is attacking these like we would a foreign invader. When I got this concept, it was one of the biggest “ah ha” moments in my life because it helped explain so much about the chronic inflammation and allergies so many people have. A patient may benefit temporarily from supplementing hydrochloride, pancreatic enzymes, ox bile for digestion, and supplements like L-glutamine or colostrum to help heal the leaky gut. However, it will only be a temporary fix, unless the vagal tone is improved. The primitive reflexes have to be integrated which will improve vagal tone which will improve the parasympathetic influence of the autonomic nervous system, the “rest and digest” system. Once the primitive reflexes are integrated, the brain stem is matured, and the sensory systems – balance/postural, vestibular, and oculomotor systems mature and function better. The hemispheric imbalance can be addressed by doing specific sensory/motor activities while co-activating sensory inputs like vibration, electrical stimulation, smells, and sounds on the weaker cerebellum side. The simultaneous activation of the primitive reflexes, coupled with the co-activation of the sensory systems to the weaker cerebellum side, has proven to be successful in all kinds of academic, behavioral, psychological, and mental health issues. It has also been successful in helping auto-immune cases and many other chronic inflammatory conditions. The significance that primitive reflexes adversely affect our autonomic nervous system, physiology, and chemistry cannot be undervalued. It is something that should be taught and emphasized to all healthcare providers. It is amazing to me that pediatricians do not routinely check for their presence in neurodevelopmentally delayed children after the age of 1, and it is incomprehensible. I have spoken to three different presidents of Chiropractic universities and pounded the table that testing for primitive reflexes should be part of the core curriculum at an early stage for all chiropractors. Hopefully, this will change in the near future. Neurodevelopmental problems are on the rise in the adolescent and adult populations. ADHD is now 11%, dyslexia is at 10-15%, and Autism Spectrum is up to 2.5% in children. Conservatively, that is 1 in 5 children today have developmental challenges, more boys than girls. In the adult population, 1 in 3 college students have an anxiety diagnosis. Alzheimer’s is now the 5th leading cause of death, and Parkinson’s is the fastest growing neurodegenerative condition for the aging population. It is time we start saving our brains. Contact here and get a free PDF copy of Saving Your Brain: Causes, Prevention, and Reversal of Dementia/Alzheimer’s. The website also contains a telehealth link to connect with the doctor. Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , and visit my LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Dr. Kelly Miller

Brainz Magazine Exclusive Interview Fabienne Prevoo is a Career Coach who empowers corporate senior leaders to lead with confidence and transition to their dream careers. Her signature “Dream Career Coaching Program” is a customized system for leaders who feel unfulfilled or stuck in their current careers. She partners with corporate senior leaders through individual coaching and a group program. She also provides assessments and energy leadership training to companies. Her mission is to lead her best life and help her clients lead theirs with balance, passion, and fulfillment. Can you provide an overview of your background and experience? I have a solid background in the corporate world, with nearly two decades spent in audit and finance roles where I held senior leadership positions. Since making a career transition three years ago, my work has focused on empowering corporate senior leaders to transition confidently to careers that truly fulfill them. I developed the Dream Career Coaching Program to help them achieve this, focusing on personal and professional well-being. Based in the Netherlands, I coach clients worldwide through online sessions, allowing me to make a global impact from my home office. Reflecting on your journey, how did you find your way to your current role and career path? Becoming a career coach began at a pivotal moment in my life. Balancing a demanding corporate role with my responsibilities as a mother to a child with special needs was highly challenging, and I often felt unsuccessful in juggling both. One day, after a particularly tough moment with my daughter, I realized I wanted to align my personal and professional life better. I enrolled in a coach training program to become an ICF-certified coach. Eventually, I left my corporate role, realizing I could be successful on my terms by doing the work I love, being present for my children, and living my best life. I coach other leaders to find that alignment, helping them move toward careers that give them energy and purpose. For some, this means restoring a healthy work-life balance and becoming more authentic leaders who dare to show their vulnerabilities and lead confidently. For others, it means identifying and transitioning to their dream careers, which can involve landing a new role in a different organization or industry or leaving their corporate leadership role behind to start their entrepreneurial journey. What inspired you to become a career coach and focus specifically on empowering corporate senior leaders to have the careers and lives they dream of? My transition from corporate leadership to entrepreneurship was the driving force behind my career coaching work. Having experienced firsthand the challenges and rewards of a corporate senior leadership role and a career transition toward entrepreneurship, I wanted to support others going through similar journeys. Leaders often approach me because I’ve successfully navigated this path myself. My mission is to help them realize that they can find work that aligns with their values and dreams. My greatest reward is helping clients transform their feelings of stuckness and unfulfillment into energy and passion for their careers and lives. After all, it is up to you to create the success you desire, and it is genuinely fulfilling to be a part of my client's journeys toward success on their terms. Can you elaborate on some specific tools or techniques you use? I developed the Dream Career Coaching Program, a customized system for leaders who feel unfulfilled in their current careers. The program consists of four steps and includes tools like the Energy Leadership Index™ assessment. This assessment with the debrief is a process that helps you recondition yourself to see the world and yourself differently. This will trigger different thoughts, emotions, and actions, which will, therefore, produce different results. Several exercises, such as the life vision and values assignment, are also included to help clients reconnect with who they are and what truly matters to them. These tools and techniques allow leaders to reset, regain their confidence and energy, and cultivate inner peace and balance, which is often hard to achieve in the fast-paced corporate world. What fuels your passion and motivation in your day-to-day work? My passion is fueled by the transformations I see in my clients. Seeing someone find their sparkle and joy as they align their work with their life goals is incredibly rewarding. Another motivation is my daughter, who has taught me the value of living in the moment and inspires me daily. Her neurodivergence reminds me that everyone’s journey is unique, and I bring that understanding to my coaching. Each client has distinct talents and strengths; my role is to help them use those to live their best lives professionally and personally. Are there any exciting projects on the horizon for you? What's next on your plate? I’m developing a new group coaching program to bring like-minded leaders together in a safe space where they can network, exchange thoughts, have mutual learnings, and receive my coaching and training on common themes. This work is very close to my heart because I believe in helping leaders create deeply satisfying careers without compromising their personal lives and the power of connection. Building a successful business is no small feat. Tell us about your company and what inspired you to start it. After years in the corporate world, I started my coaching business to bring much-needed balance to senior leaders who are often overstretched and unfulfilled. My leadership and coaching background, as well as my personal life and career experiences, allowed me to create a program specifically tailored to these leaders. I saw that leaders often spend a significant part of their lives at work without truly feeling fulfilled, and I wanted to change that. My company enables me to coach clients personally, helping them discover careers that give them energy, purpose, and joy while allowing them to live their best lives. My entrepreneurial journey involves continuous learning and exploring new fields and talents. It brings me joy and fulfillment and makes me smile every day. For more info, follow Fabienne on Instagram , LinkedIn and visit her Website !

Written by Desiree M Goldey, Director of Marketing and Culture Desiree Goldey, Director of Marketing and Culture at ZRG Partners and founder of Do Better Consulting, brings over 25 years of experience in sales, hospitality, marketing, and talent management. In times of post-election uncertainty, leaders face the critical task of guiding teams through shifting landscapes and evolving dynamics. Effective leadership transcends political divides, focusing instead on fostering stability, resilience, and collaboration within organizations. This article explores strategies for navigating turbulent times, emphasizing the role of empathy, clear communication, and adaptability in building a united and forward-focused team. Navigating the post-election landscape in the workplace As election seasons wind down, leaders often face challenges that extend far beyond the political arena. The aftershocks of campaign debates, heightened opinions, and societal shifts can seep into organizations, influencing team morale, focus, and engagement. In moments like these, leaders have a unique opportunity and responsibility to guide their teams toward a supportive and productive environment that rises above political divides. Understanding the impact of elections on team dynamics In the aftermath of any election, it’s essential to recognize that these events impact your team members in varied ways. They may bring in strong feelings, hopes, or anxieties, whether consciously or subconsciously. Pretending these impacts don’t exist can lead to disengagement and missed opportunities for authentic connection. Fostering a culture of respectful dialogue One way to lead effectively in a climate where our teams may be carrying invisible burdens is by fostering a culture where respectful dialogue is encouraged and modeled. When people feel heard and understood, the risk of divisiveness is reduced, replaced instead by mutual respect and inclusivity. Creating a safe space for open conversation about sensitive topics can help teams connect and share ideas, even if they don’t see eye-to-eye on every issue. Re-centering the team on mission and core values As a leader, now is also the perfect time to re-center your team on the company’s mission and core values. By bringing the focus back to your shared purpose, you can provide employees with the stability they need amid the inevitable changes elections bring. Reiterating the company’s commitment to integrity, inclusion, and respect reminds everyone that they’re working together for something bigger than individual opinions, strengthening a sense of unity. Prioritizing psychological safety and well-being Then there’s the matter of psychological safety and well-being. Any period of societal change can introduce new layers of stress and anxiety. Prioritizing psychological safety in your organization is an important way to help ease these feelings. This might look like providing access to mental health resources, training managers in supportive leadership, or simply fostering a space where people feel seen, heard, and valued. Modeling empathy and emotional intelligence Now more than ever, it’s critical for leaders to model empathy and emotional intelligence. When emotions run high, displaying empathy and patience sets the tone for the entire organization. Leaders who show up with openness and understanding can help diffuse tension and provide a steady hand in turbulent times. Showing your own vulnerability, where appropriate, humanizes the leadership role and makes it easier for others to relate and feel connected. Encouraging growth and adaptability Finally, there’s a tremendous opportunity here to encourage growth and adaptability. With the country moving in new directions, inspire your team to channel this energy into development and resilience. Focus on equipping your team with skills that enhance adaptability, whether through professional development or innovative thinking. By encouraging team members to lean into this period of change, you’re also helping them cultivate resilience, which is an invaluable quality for both personal and organizational success. Building a culture beyond partisanship Ultimately, the strongest leadership moves beyond partisanship to create a culture that champions unity, inclusivity, and a shared purpose. By supporting open dialogue, reinforcing core values, prioritizing well-being, modeling empathy, and encouraging growth, leaders can provide their teams with the stability and direction they need to thrive, no matter the election results. In times like these, leadership isn’t just about navigating uncertainty; it’s about building a workplace that feels safe, connected, and focused on a vision that outlasts any election cycle. Follow me on  Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Desiree M Goldey D esiree M Goldey, Director of Marketing and Culture Desiree Goldey, Director of Marketing and Culture at ZRG Partners and founder of Do Better Consulting, brings over 25 years of experience in sales, hospitality, marketing, and talent management. Her diverse background has crafted a unique perspective on shaping inclusive, high-performing workplaces. A leading figure in DEIB, Desiree's commitment to excellence and progressive action drives her to foster workplace practices that benefit all. Through #DoBetterPeople, she advocates for continuous improvement in personal, organizational, and societal conduct. Join her in advancing DEIB and elevating standards.

Written by Natalie Heilling , Energy Healer and Life Vision Coach Natalie Heilling provides energy coaching where she combines her gift as an energy healer with traditional coaching, to help individuals release what is holding them back from reaching their full potential. She is the Founder of The Energy Game which specialises in Life Vision Coaching and Workplace Coaching  and Wellbeing. What if everything you think you know about spirituality is wrong? Or at the very least, incomplete? In today’s fast-paced, Instagram-filtered world, spirituality has been reduced to a lifestyle choice, a collection of trendy practices, or a checkbox on the personal development to-do list. We see people meditating for mindfulness, practicing yoga for inner peace, and chanting mantras for manifestation. Yet, underneath all of this, there’s often a profound sense of misalignment. But here’s the truth: real spiritual awakening is an energetic shift, not just an intellectual or emotional understanding. The true path to awakening goes beyond surface-level practices into the depths of our energetic blueprint. Let’s dive into how energy underpins authentic spiritual growth—and why you might not be as "spiritual" as you think. The illusion of surface-level spirituality Over the last decade, spirituality has experienced a cultural boom. The word itself evokes peace, harmony, and balance, and yet, for many, the pursuit of spirituality has become performative. Crystal collections, moon rituals, and meditation apps might create the appearance of spiritual depth, but they often lack the substance that truly shifts our energy and consciousness. At its core, spirituality isn’t about adopting new habits or collecting tools. It’s about awakening to a higher consciousness—an understanding that goes beyond the ego and taps into the universal energy that flows through all things. The challenge is that many people approach spirituality from a mental or emotional level, seeking external results while neglecting the internal energetic work. Surface-level spirituality creates an illusion of progress. You might feel more relaxed, experience temporary moments of peace, or gain a few insights, but if the energy beneath your practices doesn’t shift, you remain stuck. This is why some people spend years meditating, journaling, or going to spiritual retreats but still feel disconnected from their deeper purpose. The difference between surface-level spirituality and true awakening lies in energy. It’s not about what you ‘do’ – it’s about how your energy shifts as a result of your spiritual practice. What is true spiritual awakening? True spiritual awakening isn’t just about "feeling good." It’s about an energetic realignment that transforms your inner and outer life. The core of this process is an "energetic awakening", which involves a deep, often uncomfortable shift in your personal frequency and the energetic blueprint that governs your being. When you awaken energetically, you tap into a higher state of consciousness that aligns you with your higher self – your truest, most authentic form. This isn’t about adopting a new lifestyle or completing daily spiritual routines; it’s about a profound shift in the way you perceive yourself and the world. Everything changes – your relationships, your career, your health, because your energy shifts on a fundamental level. True awakening requires you to confront the energetic patterns you’ve accumulated throughout your life: fear, insecurity, old traumas, and limiting beliefs. Only when these patterns are addressed at their root can your energy elevate, allowing you to step into a state of higher consciousness and authentic alignment. Energy as the foundation of spiritual growth Energy is the unseen force that drives everything in your life. It’s the field that surrounds and permeates every aspect of your being, influencing your thoughts, emotions, physical health, and interactions with others. The quality of your energy dictates the quality of your life. When you experience misalignment, stagnation, or blockages in your energy field, it impacts your spiritual growth. Often, people don’t even realize their energy is blocked because they’ve grown accustomed to their energetic state. They continue to perform surface-level spiritual practices without addressing the deeper energetic imbalances that are holding them back. To understand spiritual awakening, you need to understand that energy is everything. It’s not something you "fix" with more meditation or journaling. It’s something you realign by addressing the root energetic causes of your struggles. Once your energy shifts, your experience of reality shifts too. Misconceptions about the spiritual journey One of the greatest misconceptions about spirituality is that it’s all about peace, love, and light. While these elements are important, true spiritual growth often involves facing your shadow side – the hidden fears, doubts, and suppressed emotions that keep you in a lower energetic state.  Many avoid doing the deep work of energetic transformation because it’s uncomfortable. It requires confronting aspects of yourself that you may not want to see. But this is where real growth happens. You can’t elevate your energy without first clearing out the lower frequencies that no longer serve you. And this is often where people stop – because they confuse temporary peace with permanent transformation. True spirituality isn’t just about feeling good or attaining inner peace. It’s about confronting your shadows, facing discomfort, and stepping into a higher state of consciousness, even if the journey is challenging. The ultimate goal isn’t to bypass pain or discomfort but to transmute it into a higher vibrational state through energetic work. The importance of confronting your shadows To achieve spiritual awakening, you must be willing to confront the energetic imprints left by past experiences—your shadows. These shadows often manifest as fears, limiting beliefs, and subconscious patterns that block your energy flow. They keep you in a state of stagnation, preventing you from fully aligning with your higher self. Most people avoid their shadows because it’s easier to focus on positive affirmations and "light" practices. But true spiritual awakening is about balance—acknowledging both light and shadow. When you confront your shadows, you release the energetic blockages that prevent your growth. This is where real spiritual power lies – not in avoiding discomfort, but in transforming it into higher frequencies. By embracing your shadows, you allow yourself to move through the lower vibrations of fear, doubt, and insecurity, elevating your energy and unlocking deeper levels of wisdom and spiritual insight. How energy awakening transforms your life When your energy shifts, every aspect of your life begins to transform. Spirituality isn’t meant to be compartmentalized into your morning meditation or evening journaling. True spiritual growth is a holistic experience that radiates through every area of your life, including your relationships, career, health, and overall sense of purpose. When your energy aligns with your higher self, you begin to live from a place of authenticity. The decisions you make, the people you surround yourself with, and the opportunities that come your way all start to reflect this higher state of alignment. It’s no longer about "doing" spirituality; it becomes about "being" in a state of higher consciousness, where your energy attracts what is truly meant for you. This is the difference between intellectual understanding and energetic embodiment. Many people understand spiritual concepts intellectually, but they haven’t fully embodied the energy of awakening. Embodiment is the key to transformation. When you live from your energetic truth, you don’t have to chase success, love, or happiness – they naturally flow to you. Spiritual awakening and leadership In today’s world, especially for professionals and leaders, spiritual awakening can be a game-changer. When your energy is aligned, your leadership becomes more authentic and impactful. You’re not just making decisions based on logic or strategy; you’re leading from a place of higher awareness and purpose. Leaders who have undergone an energetic awakening are able to inspire and influence others at a deeper level. They understand that true power doesn’t come from control or authority but from alignment with their inner truth. This type of leadership is transformational because it elevates not only the leader but everyone they come into contact with. By focusing on energetic alignment, you become a more conscious leader, attuned to the needs of others and connected to a greater sense of purpose. This is where spiritual awakening can profoundly impact the professional world, allowing leaders to make decisions that resonate with their highest values and long-term vision. The path forward: Embarking on your energetic awakening If you’re ready to move beyond surface-level spirituality and embark on the path of energetic awakening, start by assessing your current energetic state. What energetic patterns or blocks are you holding onto? How can you begin to shift your energy to align with your higher self? Here are a few ways to start deepening your spiritual practice through energetics: Energetic awareness: Begin by tuning into your energy field. Notice how you feel after certain interactions, activities, or thoughts. What drains your energy, and what elevates it? Shadow work: Embrace the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding. Journal about your fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs. What patterns have held you back? How can you transmute these into higher frequencies? Daily energy shifts: Incorporate energetic practices like breathwork, energy healing, or movement to clear stagnant energy. Focus on elevating your frequency rather than just feeling better in the moment. Let go of control: Release the need to control every outcome. Trust that your spiritual journey will unfold in its own time, and surrender to the flow of your higher self. Conclusion: Awaken to your true spiritual path Spirituality isn’t what you think – it’s far more profound. Real spiritual awakening comes from an energetic shift that transforms not only your inner world but your entire reality. By confronting your shadows, raising your frequency, and aligning with your higher self, you can step into a state of spiritual awakening that goes beyond surface-level practices. The path to awakening requires courage, patience, and deep inner work, but the rewards are immense. When your energy aligns with your true self, life opens up in ways you never imagined. You become a vessel for higher consciousness, leading with authenticity, purpose, and unwavering truth. Are you ready to move beyond the surface and awaken to the true energetic path of spirituality? If you would like support on this journey, please contact Natalie through her website, The Energy Game , or through her social channels. Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn,  and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Natalie Heilling Natalie Heilling, Energy Healer and Life Vision Coach Natalie Heilling is an energy coach and the founder of The Energy Game, which combines her gift as an energy healer with traditional coaching methods to help her clients release what is holding them back to reach their full potential. Inspired by traumatic events in her own life that led to C-PTSD and a chronic illness, Natalie strives to help her clients go from feeling stuck and disconnected from their lives to finding inner peace and fulfilment. Her mission is to help people live their life vision. Most people do not know where to start when it comes' to achieving their life vision, but Natalie teaches her clients that it is not a destination, it is a place to live from.

Written by Natalie Heilling , Energy Healer and Life Vision Coach Natalie Heilling provides energy coaching where she combines her gift as an energy healer with traditional coaching, to help individuals release what is holding them back from reaching their full potential. She is the Founder of The Energy Game which specialises in Life Vision Coaching and Workplace Coaching  and Wellbeing. Do you ever feel like your life is running on autopilot? The days pass, each blending into the next, and somehow the vibrancy and excitement you once felt have faded. Yet, what if this sense of dullness isn’t just a passing phase? What if it’s a sign that something fundamental in your life needs attention? November, with its darker skies and reflective energy, invites us to take a closer look at why we might feel so uninspired. This time of year, when we’re naturally drawn inward, is ideal for exploring what "quality of life" truly means and how we can revive it. Often, the key to feeling more alive lies not in doing more, but in adjusting the flow of energy in our lives.  In this article, we’ll explore how energy impacts your quality of life within your overall life vision, uncover common energy blockages, and guide you in restoring vitality so that you can transition into the new year feeling renewed.  Quality of life: More than just success and stability Quality of life is often thought of as financial security or career success, but it’s so much more than that. At its core, quality of life is about feeling fulfilled, balanced, and deeply connected to yourself and your surroundings. Within the life vision framework, quality of life is a vital segment that, when nourished, infuses joy and purpose into all areas—relationships, work, personal growth, and beyond. In November, as we’re drawn to quiet reflection, we’re given a powerful opportunity to pause and assess the subtle ways in which energy flows (or doesn’t) through these areas of our lives. Energy as a life lens: How you see the world determines your experience The way you perceive and interpret life isn’t just shaped by your thoughts—it’s deeply influenced by your energetic state. Imagine trying to view a beautiful, intricate painting through smudged glass; no matter how stunning the image, it appears clouded and distorted. Your energy field functions as that lens, filtering and colouring everything you encounter. When your energy is heavy or stagnant, your perspective narrows, and the world can seem uninspiring. This “dulling” effect seeps into every area of life - work, relationships, creativity, even spirituality. Becoming aware of this can transform your experience: it’s not merely about thinking positively or changing circumstances, but about shifting the energetic “lens” through which you see the world, allowing a vibrant life to come into clearer focus. The energy-quality of life connection When energy flows freely, life feels vibrant, and each day brings a sense of purpose. But when energy stagnates, everything feels gray and uninspired. Blocked or imbalanced energy often results from stress, unresolved emotions, or neglecting our need for joy, rest, and connection. This is especially common at the year’s end when holiday demands and the weight of unprocessed emotions can distract us from our true needs. The energy of disconnection: How we lose our vitality A primary cause of dullness is disconnection—not just from others, but from our authentic selves, our purpose, and our vitality. Modern life, with its emphasis on productivity and performance, often disconnects us from the energy that sustains us. When we’re out of sync with this inner source, life feels like a series of duties rather than a collection of meaningful experiences. "Disconnection is a quiet thief; it takes our joy in increments until we’re left wondering why we feel so empty." This disconnect might appear as “misalignment” in your career or relationships or as a constant state of depletion, signalling a need to realign with your passions, values, and core energy. The good news? Reconnection is possible when we make space to explore what truly nourishes us and to release what drains us.  Embracing the “seasonal pause” for renewal November’s slower, more reflective rhythm naturally encourages us to pause and recalibrate. Unlike December’s hurried pace, November invites us to ask, “What’s nourishing me? What’s draining me?” Small, intentional practices—such as breathwork, grounding, or daily energy check-ins—can help release what no longer serves us. "Embrace the pause—without space for renewal, there is no room for growth." Taking advantage of this “seasonal pause” is a powerful way to reset, align with your life vision, and refuel for the year ahead. As you look back on the past year, consider what truly brought joy and meaning. Which activities, people, or goals sparked energy and fulfillment? This reflection helps you intentionally design a quality of life rooted in a deep, vibrant energy. Saturation and release: Living fully or just existing? The concept of “saturation” in energy refers to when your energy field is so filled with unprocessed emotions, outdated beliefs, and lingering stress that it can’t absorb anything new. Much like a sponge, our energy field becomes “full,” unable to take in more of life’s enriching experiences. "The quality of your life is a reflection of the energy you bring to it—no more, no less." To live fully, we need to periodically “empty the sponge” by letting go of what no longer serves us, making space for new perspectives and possibilities. Transformation may feel uncomfortable at times, but it’s through this energetic clearing that we pave the way for a life of fresh inspiration and joy. The role of emotional intelligence in energy flow Emotions act as real-time indicators of our energetic state. Joy, excitement, and peace signal high-vibrational, flowing energy, while fear, anger, and grief reflect low-vibrational, draining states. Developing emotional intelligence enables us to interpret these signals, using them as tools to enhance our energy flow. Rather than suppressing emotions, recognize them as essential parts of energetic recalibration. Each emotion carries insight, serving as a reminder to realign with your authentic energy. By building emotional intelligence, you support a balanced, vibrant energy that fuels your well-being. The illusion of control: Letting go to regain energy Life often feels dull when we cling too tightly to control, resisting change or unforeseen outcomes. True vitality emerges not from controlling everything but from allowing life to flow. Surrender isn’t about giving up; it’s about releasing the need for rigid control and trusting the natural rhythm of life. When we surrender, we feel a surge of energy as we reconnect with our inner vitality. This act of letting go isn’t weakness—it’s strength in realizing that you are part of a larger, dynamic flow. When you align with this understanding, life feels expansive rather than a collection of tasks to be checked off. Reinvigorating quality of life in your life vision The quality of life within your life vision acts as the foundation for all other areas—relationships, career, health, and personal growth. By focusing on energy practices, you lay a foundation for a year filled with purposeful, lively energy. Picture the life you want to create and intentionally nurture the energy that will bring that vision to life. Practical ways to boost quality of life through energy practices Creating a high-quality life involves making energy-driven choices every day. Here’s how to begin: Be intentional with your energy: Instead of spreading your energy thin, focus on activities and people that truly add value to your life. Are there commitments that drain you or relationships that feel more like obligations than genuine connections? Limiting distractions and re-evaluating obligations that don’t align with your vision can free up energy and increase fulfillment. Cultivate curiosity and newness: Quality of life often declines when we stop growing. Are there opportunities around you—small or large—that you could pursue to add a spark? Embrace the chance to learn something new, meet new people, or engage in activities that broaden your worldview. Not only do these experiences rejuvenate your energy, but they also offer fresh perspectives that make life feel richer. Prioritize relationships that uplift: Human connection is vital for quality of life. Spend time with people who inspire, challenge, and support you. When you surround yourself with positive, growth-oriented individuals, your energy—and your quality of life—naturally improves. Design a day aligned with your life vision: Every day offers a chance to embody your life vision, however small the actions may seem. Whether it’s in your career, health, relationships, or hobbies, make choices that reflect what you truly want. This alignment brings a sense of purpose and satisfaction, elevating your quality of life.  The power of releasing and letting go: Just as trees shed their leaves, this season invites us to let go of any weight accumulated over the year. Embracing forgiveness, journaling, or setting intentions to release can be incredibly effective. In energy practices, this “shedding” allows fresh energy to circulate and brings a renewed perspective, which adds lightness to your life. A final reflection: Aligning energy with your quality of life This November, let the season’s introspective energy bring you back to yourself. If you feel that life has lost its spark, the problem is not external—it’s a matter of energetic alignment. By shifting your focus from surface-level solutions to exploring the depths of your energy, you’ll uncover a new vibrancy and sense of purpose. Life’s dullness is not a permanent condition but a signal that it’s time to recalibrate. Your energy is the key to unlocking a life that is rich, dynamic, and aligned with your highest self. The question is not whether you can change—it’s whether you’re willing to shift your lens, let go of old attachments, and embrace the flow of life as it was meant to be lived. If you would like support on this journey, please contact Natalie through her website, The Energy Game , or through her social channels. Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn,  and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Natalie Heilling Natalie Heilling, Energy Healer and Life Vision Coach Natalie Heilling is an energy coach and the founder of The Energy Game, which combines her gift as an energy healer with traditional coaching methods to help her clients release what is holding them back to reach their full potential. Inspired by traumatic events in her own life that led to C-PTSD and a chronic illness, Natalie strives to help her clients go from feeling stuck and disconnected from their lives to finding inner peace and fulfilment. Her mission is to help people live their life vision. Most people do not know where to start when it comes' to achieving their life vision, but Natalie teaches her clients that it is not a destination, it is a place to live from.

Written by Katy MacDonald, Mental Health Counselor Katy MacDonald is a licensed mental health counselor specializing in perinatal mental health and is the founder of Andover Therapy Services. With certifications in perinatal mental health, Katy's practice focuses on supporting clients navigating the intersection of trauma and parenting, from pre-conception through the early years of child-rearing. Have you ever found yourself in a conflict with your partner where emotions spiral out of control, leaving both of you feeling hurt and disconnected? Katy MacDonald, LMHC PMH-C, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, has observed that as couples embark on the journey of parenthood, these emotionally charged conflicts become more frequent and intense, often leading to a cycle of regret and deeper emotional wounds.   Understanding why you or your partner react so strongly in these moments is key to breaking this cycle of "emotional flooding." What if you could identify and address these patterns to create a healthier, more connected relationship? Let's explore how. Understanding emotional flooding: Signs and symptoms Emotional flooding occurs when someone becomes overwhelmed by intense emotions, making it difficult to think clearly or control their reactions. Emotional flooding is characterized by Feeling disorganized and unable to maintain effective functioning, leading to overwhelm. A stress response, leading to the brain detecting danger or threat and the shutting down of the pre-frontal cortex and thus, executive functioning, critical thought, memory, and impulse control. Wanting to escape or withdraw from the situation. This behavior can appear as withdrawing and emotional numbness. Unexpected, intense negative emotions that seem to come out of nowhere. Decoding emotional flooding: Its origins and impact The powerlessness we feel to control what is happening during conflict only adds to the uncertainty and confusion we feel around what is happening inside our bodies. It helps to understand the physiological changes that happen when a person reaches their limit for negative emotions or frustration. Emotional flooding occurs during conflict when a person becomes overwhelmed by intense emotions, leading to a significant activation of the nervous system. This response is rooted in our body's survival mechanisms, which trigger when the central nervous system detects that we’ve reached our threshold for negative emotions or distress. When emotional flooding happens, the prefrontal cortex, responsible for logic, critical thought, and impulse control, shuts down. This leaves the midbrain, particularly the amygdala, a region associated with fear and threat response, in charge. As a result, the person may find it difficult to think clearly or communicate effectively. Emotional flooding often triggers one of two physiological responses 1. Hyperarousal (Fight-or-flight response): This response, driven by the sympathetic nervous system, releases stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol, causing an increased heart rate, rapid breathing, and heightened blood pressure. The brain's amygdala takes over, making the person more prone to impulsive decisions and emotional reactions. This response is typically seen in someone who reacts to conflict with heightened emotional intensity, such as anger or panic. They may become defensive, agitated, or aggressive, feeling a strong urge to continue the argument as their nervous system is in overdrive, preparing them to "fight" the perceived threat. 2. Hypoarousal (Freeze response): In contrast, some individuals may experience hypoarousal, linked to the parasympathetic nervous system and the dorsal vagal complex. This "freeze" response manifests as emotional shutdown or numbness. The person may become detached or disengaged, briefly dissociating as a way to protect themselves by minimizing engagement with the threatening situation. This learned coping mechanism is often a result of trauma or chronic stress, where detachment feels safer than active confrontation. Each person’s nervous system is shaped by their early life experiences, attachment styles, and learned behaviors. For example, someone with a secure attachment history may excel at managing and regulating emotions, while someone with trauma or insecure attachments might be more susceptible to hyperarousal or hypoarousal during conflict. Past trauma can condition the nervous system to respond in specific ways during conflict. For example, someone who grew up in a volatile environment may default to hyperarousal and aggressive engagement, while someone whose caregivers were unable to support their emotional experiences may be more likely to detach and exhibit hypoarousal as a survival strategy. Regardless of whether a person responds with hyperarousal or hypoarousal, emotional flooding is an evolutionary response meant to protect us from danger. However, in modern times, this survival mechanism is often maladaptive, contributing to chronic stress, the development of autoimmune conditions, and other negative health effects. Understanding these responses is crucial for managing emotional flooding and mitigating its impact on relationships and overall well-being. The effects of emotional flooding on relationships Chronic stress can be like a poison that wreaks havoc over time for all the reasons I discussed above. For a young couple, fresh on their journey in life together, it debilitates both partners' ability to resolve conflict or repair the hurt caused. Despite the regret and long-term damage that results, emotional flooding—where one or both partners become overwhelmed by their emotions to the point that they can't communicate effectively is not well-discussed. This often leads to a cycle of miscommunication and unresolved tension, which can erode the foundation of the relationship over time, making it difficult for the couple to maintain a healthy and supportive connection. Unfortunately, and regrettably, conflict in relationships is often seen as a sign of dysfunction or failure rather than a normal and potentially constructive aspect of healthy relationships. This negative perception discourages us from seeking a better understanding of our internal experiences and perpetuates our culture's history of devaluing emotional regulation, frustration tolerance, and self-awareness. These skills are crucial for cultivating healthy relationships, fostering emotional resilience, and ensuring overall psychological well-being. While this topic may trigger old wounds and complex emotions, I want to be clear that my goal is to provide information that can contribute to changing the cultural norm around the importance of emotional expression and enhancing the value we place on emotional literacy.  Many people struggle to accurately describe their emotions, making it hard to recognize and address recurring patterns in relationships. Therefore, it is crucial to work on developing emotional intelligence to improve communication and connection with others. The effects of gender identity on emotional flooding experiences Research from the Gottman Institute highlights how gender identity and biology influence emotional flooding, particularly in the context of heterosexual couples during the perinatal period. Studies show that men are more prone to emotional flooding, requiring less negativity to perceive a threat and taking longer to recover after conflict. This often leads to behaviors like "stonewalling," where men withdraw and refuse to communicate, a response that may be shaped by both social conditioning and biological factors.  Historically, American culture has stigmatized emotional expression in men, particularly from a young age. Boys are often discouraged from showing vulnerability and are pressured to "toughen up," leading to the harmful belief that emotions are a sign of weakness. This cultural norm can result in shame and the development of maladaptive strategies to avoid or suppress emotions. These coping mechanisms can persist into adulthood, impacting emotional regulation and relational dynamics, particularly in parenting roles. Without proper recognition and support, these unresolved emotional wounds can lead to significant health risks and challenges in fulfilling the expectations of modern fatherhood. It's important to emphasize that this discussion is not about blaming or shaming men. Instead, it aims to educate and normalize these experiences, helping men feel valued and supported as they navigate the intense emotional challenges of parenthood. By acknowledging these struggles, we can foster a more compassionate and understanding approach to emotional health, benefiting both individuals and their families. Responding to emotional flooding: Practical strategies The first step necessary for addressing and improving one’s capacity to manage and regulate the body following emotional flooding involves learning to identify the physical and emotional signs of flooding, such as increased heart rate, shallow breathing, muscle tension, and feelings of overwhelm or panic. Step 2: Take a break. When you notice signs of flooding, you have an opportunity to take a break from the conflict to process and regulate your internal experiences. Examples of calming activities can be going for a walk, deep breathing, taking a shower or reading a book. Most importantly, avoid stewing over the argument or planning rebuttals, as this will only continue to activate stress hormones and prolong negative emotions. So, politely communicate to your partner that you need some time to calm down and will return to the discussion later. Research consistently shows that our bodies require 20 minutes to restore internal regulation. This time allows the heart rate to return to normal. Agree on a word or phrase to start the timeout, and plan when to reconvene for the conversation. Taking a break is not a complete stop; it's a temporary pause. Have a brief discussion on when and how you will return to the topic. As you are about to reconvene with your partner to process and reflect on the situation that resulted in conflict, recognize that this may be unfamiliar grounds for you and thus, may evoke discomfort or elicit intense emotions due to the experience of putting yourself in an emotionally vulnerable position with your partner. Take accountability for the ways your words or actions may have contributed to hurting the person you love and contributing to the conflict. For this process, a recommendation is to avoid engaging in what Dr. John Gottman, PhD, coined as the "Four Horsemen," no matter what. The Four Horsemen are behavioral patterns that lead to long-term damage in relationships, which are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Each of these behaviors is likely to result in continued conflict and internal suffering, increasing the likelihood that flooding will occur. To avoid engaging in the 4 Horsemen when communicating with your partner, it is important to practice active listening and empathy, express your perspective using "I" statements, agree on solutions, brainstorm positive ideas, compromise, focus on control, and engage in couples counseling with a trained therapist. By consistently applying these strategies, you can gradually repair and heal relationships, rebuild trust, and restore a sense of psychological safety. These efforts not only enhance your relationships but also bolster your self-esteem and emotional well-being. Remember, you have the inner strength, skills, and power to foster a culture of appreciation, mutual respect, and trust. This foundation will strengthen your emotional connection and better prepare you for the challenges and joys of the perinatal and parenting phases. Take the next step towards healing and connection If you or your partner are experiencing emotional flooding and finding it difficult to navigate the challenges of parenthood and relationship conflicts, you don’t have to go through it alone. Understanding these patterns and learning how to manage them can transform your relationship and restore emotional balance. For personalized support and guidance, visit Andover Therapy Services  to learn more about how we can help you and your family. Start your journey towards a healthier, more connected life today.   Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website for more info! Read more from Katy MacDonald Katy MacDonald, Mental Health Counselor Katy MacDonald is a licensed mental health counselor specializing in perinatal and maternal mental health and the founder of Andover Therapy Services LLC, a group mental health practice. Katy's work centers on guiding clients through the complex emotions associated with the journey from pre-conception through early parenthood. She provides specialized support to those navigating trauma, deep grief related to pregnancy and infant loss, and the unique challenges of infertility and reproductive struggles. Using evidence-based approaches like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and Ego-Parts Therapy, Katy helps clients cultivate self-compassion and deepen their self-understanding during this vulnerable life stage.

Hi! My name is Dana Silverstein, LMSW. I am a therapist providing coaching and counseling services with great passion to help individuals reach their full potential. When I’m not in my chair, you can find me on the pickleball courts, enjoying the latest shows on Netflix and being as present as possible with those I love, including my family, friends, and fiancé. Dana Silverstein, Clinical Therapist: Coaching & Counseling What are some common challenges you help clients overcome, and how do you approach them?   Some of the most common barriers I see are anxiety, FOMO (fear of missing out) and persistent feelings of “not good enough.” The simple answer to navigating all three is gratitude, mindfulness, acceptance, and self-compassion. The way I integrate the actions of these words can look different for each client. While these words may sound trivial and ‘therapy 101,’ these tools work if you work them! I'm excited to share more details and specific interventions in upcoming articles! What advice would you give to someone looking to make positive changes in their life?   Start small. Start simple. Start somewhere! Clients often get overtaken by the cognitive error commonly referred to as ‘all or nothing’ thinking. This error gives the illusion that if everything does not get addressed, then nothing will change and will push us further away from real change and goals. It’s important to remember that when it comes to change, we ourselves, are typically the ones making the rules and expectations, which means we can change them to make sure it is working for us. Start by picking one action, even if it sounds simple. Give yourself a chance to routinize this and focus on consistency. For example, making the bed each morning or writing a sentence of gratitude each night. Often, what happens next is a trickle-down effect. Motivation and momentum will increase, and small changes can cause a butterfly effect. Be patient with changes and trust your process. What unique approach do you bring to your work with clients? What I find unique is my ability to modify my approach to fit the individual needs of a client- not only clinically but personally. You have to connect in order to correct it! Additionally, my ability to know when to coach, when to counsel, and the difference between the two is imperative for effectiveness. My formula can be summed up as rapport + evidence-based practice + creatively curated tools and exercises = effective therapy. How do you stay inspired and continue growing in your practice? My clients keep me learning, and new generations keep me on my toes! Being open to different schools of thought, modalities, and functions of therapy plays a role in inspiration and growth. I find that the more adaptive, diverse and integrative I can be, the better! Having a front-row seat to people’s journeys, the goals people reach, and the growth people make is invaluable. Visit my website for more info! Read more from Dana Silverstein