Written by Jemma Blythe, Life Coach Jemma Blythe is a qualified Life Coach based in the UK, known for empowering women who have been through trauma. She is the founder of Living Imperfectly Perfect Coaching founded early in 2024. If you’ve ever experienced trauma, especially if the trauma has occurred over several days, months or years, there’s a high chance you’ve also experienced something called a Trauma Bond. This causes a strong bond between the abuser and the victim of trauma, very few people know or recognise exactly when a trauma bond is formed as it happens over a while when the abuser abuses trust and power. You aren’t alone. I’ve been where you are twice, which is why this article exists, to arm you with all the information I never had. What is a trauma bond? To put it simply a trauma bond is a bond that occurs between a victim and their abuser, causing the victim more pain and the people close to the victim a lot of frustration. The victim very often feels a strong pull to their abuser and takes their side, even when the things the abuser has done are questionable.   “A deep bond formed between a victim and their abuser.” – iViSiON.ORG.UK What causes a trauma bond to develop? Trauma bonding typically occurs over some time, to create a trauma bond the abuser must develop a strong relationship with the victim, typically making them feel safe and that they feel like they can turn to the abuser in any situation. This bond is harmful, but often tough for the victim to see, as it can look an awful look like loyalty towards the abuser. For the victim, this only adds to the shame and guilt they experience after the abuse has taken place because they constantly wonder how they didn’t spot they were being manipulated when it was in plain sight for everyone else.   Six relationships in which trauma bonds can develop There are seven common relationships where trauma bonds can form and act like a rope entwining both the victim and their abuser. One of the most common myths surrounding trauma, particularly when discussing trauma bonds is that they can only develop through sexual abuse and domestic abuse situations, which is why it’s important to include this list, as then you will be able to see just how many people are vulnerable to a trauma bond taking place.   Domestic Abuse or Violence Platonic Friendships Parent and Child Relationships Hostage situations Sex trafficking Military   Signs of trauma bonds There can be multiple signs a trauma bond is forming, which can be called grooming depending on the situation. Such as small gifts, which can either be relatively inexpensive or expensive to make the victim of abuse feel valued and as though they’ll hurt their abusers’ feelings if they turn down such kind gifts. The abuser may also appear to do small things as kindnesses to make the victim see that they can be trusted and that they are the only one prepared to help the victim by seeming to be the only one doing those kindnesses, these kindnesses again can vary due to the situation and depending on what the abuser feels is needed. Blackmail and threats are also common to find amongst the things included within the signs of a trauma bond, this is because they want to get the victim to feel vulnerable in certain moments and at times they may want them to be in an emotional position which the abuser will see as beneficial to them when they want to be closer to the victim. All of this makes the victim feel as if there’s no escape from their abuser and that if they try and tell someone what is happening between them and the abuser, then no one will believe what they have to say over the word of the abuser.   In addition to this, there are signs a victim of abuse may show if they are under the influence of a trauma bond. For example, they may become withdrawn and turn themselves away from any friends or family that could help them escape the abusive relationship and they may also stick up for their abuser if they are questioned about something the abuser has done which doesn’t go unnoticed by the friends and family members of the victim.   8 ways to overcome trauma bonds Trauma bonds can be overcome using the methods detailed below. However, it is important to state that the methods below aren’t a quick fix to any situation where a trauma bond may be present, but they provide a healthy start to being able to diffuse and help the victim in the initial stages of breaking away from their abuser.   Learning Boundaries Check Self-Talk Track Negative Thought Patterns Cease Contact With The Abuser Seek Professional Help Concentrate On Building Healthy Relationships Get To Know Your Experience Is Valid Seek Out Support Groups   Learning boundaries Boundaries are important when you’re looking to escape a suspected trauma bond. A victim may be asked by the abuser to do certain things, but the more space a victim can put between what they’ve been asked to do by the abuser and themselves, the better as they may find themselves in that situation less and less. Whether that's, controlling the environment the victim is in with the abuser or coming up with reasons not to do certain things with the abuser anymore. The victim can use boundaries to protect their physical and emotional well-being whilst gradually breaking away from their abuser.   Check self-talk It’s normal for a victim of trauma, especially trauma that has taken place over a long time to feel as though they are to blame for what has happened to them. This results in a lot of self-blame and feeling ashamed for not being able to see what has been happening to them and therefore, not leaving the situation sooner. It’s important to realise that the victim isn’t to blame, the self-blame is the fault of the abuser due to manipulation and blackmailing techniques.   Track negative thought patterns When a victim has been abused, it’s normal for them to experience negative thought patterns, such as automatically degrading their own opinions of themselves in favour of listening to others’ opinions of them. Furthermore, it isn’t unusual for a victim to struggle to make decisions, believing the decisions they make are often the wrong ones, so they will be self-deprecating and preferring other people to make the decisions. The more these negative thoughts can be tracked, the better, as they will often be triggered by something, either physical or emotional. If the triggers can be seen and noticed either through words written by the victim in a journal or from the victim spoken to trusted people around them, then it helps the thought patterns to lose their power over the victim.   Cease contact with the abuser This, is the most important step, when abuse and a trauma bond is suspected, the best thing to do is to try and cease contact with the abuser, so it isn’t as easy for the abuser to get to the victim anymore. Separating from the abuser can involve huge changes in the victims' lives, but this is necessary to do, as no one should feel that they are still under the thumb of an abuser, once they have spotted and come to terms with the fact that they were being abused.   Seek professional help Seeking professional help after being abused, isn’t just recommended, it’s needed to be able to put what the victim went through into context and to allow them the time they need within those sessions to be able to process what they went through with someone impartial. This could be a mixture of a therapist and a life coach, as a therapist will be able to suggest healthier ways to tackle the negative self-talk and the self-deprecating ways the victim talks about themselves and the life coach will be able to keep their accountability as their developing new healthier habits.   Concentrate on building healthy relationships Healthier relationships for someone who has been a victim of abuse are crucial and are very often built up of people they knew before the abuse happened and a little afterwards. So, they are people they can talk to on a level whom they know won’t just what the victim has been through and will allow them to talk and process what happened to them as they feel they need to. Trust is one of the most important things to think about when you are friends with someone who has been abused, as they will need to know and believe they can trust the people the victim has around them. Get to know your experience is valid When you’ve been a victim of trauma, it is sadly normal to come across people who will question what you’ve been through and it's normal to question what you’ve been through yourself as well. So, it’s crucial that you trust your instincts, as we know in our minds what is right and what is wrong, and the right and wrong ways to treat someone.   Seek out support groups Support groups are very useful, especially if you are feeling isolated. Even though you may have people around you after you’ve been a victim of abuse, it is perfectly ok to feel as though you’re the only one that's been through something as devastating as abuse. It can feel freeing and comforting to be around others who have been through similar things when it comes to abuse and the feelings that abuse causes, especially during the recovery and healing processes.   Learning to rediscover who you are Rediscovering who you are is one of the most powerful but, beautiful processes after trauma. You can either, make this process visual through a mindmap of both photos and feelings you may recognise you had before you experienced trauma in your life, or you can write down old hobbies and interests you had before you went through trauma as well. Anything you do is completely up to you.   When I experienced trauma from the sexual abuse I experienced as an adolescent I chose to do a mindmap when I was receiving therapy so that I could look back over all of the thoughts and emotions that I had had before the traumatic experience occurred. Doing this also helped me to deal with the disassociation after the trauma as well. It was during recovery from the domestic abuse that I had gone through that I discovered how powerful written thoughts and emotions could be, as the trauma bond affected me so badly during this, I was in a coercive same-sex relationship, so I had gone from being a proud gay woman before the abuse to hating myself and who I was afterwards. I had to learn how to take baby steps to be proud of who I am now writing this, as a proud bisexual woman. Now a life coach, coaching predominantly female trauma survivors, who are all at different stages of their recovery to give them a safe space with someone to talk to who won’t judge and who is purely there to guide them through recovery at their own pace. Start your empowering journey to reconnecting with who you are today No one can tell you what the right or wrong way is to recover from trauma, the best thing you can do is to let your brain guide you and talk to someone, as there is someone out there who is willing and wants to listen to you. Recovering from trauma can be overwhelming due, to all of the thoughts and feelings going around in your head, but you aren’t alone in the recovery process, even though sometimes it may feel like you are. All of the techniques above plus more are going to be used in my upcoming program ‘Unveiling Your Authentic Self: From Broken To Fearless.’   Book a coaching chat today   Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Jemma Blythe Jemma Blythe, Life Coach Jemma Blythe is a qualified Life Coach, after grief and trauma through her childhood had left her with Mental Health Illnesses, Jemma created strategies to overcome the Mental Health challenges she was left with. She has since worked hard to empower Women to reconnect with themselves after experiencing trauma so that they can uncover their true authentic, independent selves. She is the CEO of Living Imperfectly Perfect Coaching.

Written by Mark Corona, Speaker & Game Show Host Mark Corona is an international Speaker and Game Show Host focused on employee and customer retention. As the Chief Border Agent and co-founder of Slowjamastan, a satirical nation boasting over 20,000 citizens worldwide, Mark’s mission is simple: Retain, engage and entertain. As a national   trivia host , I know firsthand how powerful online trivia for corporate events can be in creating a dynamic, memorable experience. Whether you’re looking to strengthen customer loyalty, energize employee engagement, or create an event that people will talk about for weeks, virtual trivia brings an entirely new level of engagement to corporate gatherings. Let me share how my experience as a trivia host can make your next corporate event a hit.   Why online trivia works With the shift towards   remote work  and virtual meetings, companies are exploring new ways to connect with customers and employees alike. Online trivia for corporate events is the perfect tool for achieving that, offering an interactive, enjoyable experience that goes far beyond a standard webinar or meeting. Trivia creates an environment of friendly competition, team-building, and shared excitement that sticks with participants long after the event.   How my trivia keeps your customers hooked Over the last decade as a national   trivia  host, I’ve had the privilege of engaging audiences of all kinds, from major brands like the Phoenix Suns and Marriott to community events with hundreds of participants. My approach is simple: create a high-energy, fun atmosphere that keeps people hooked from start to finish. When you bring online trivia to your corporate event, you're not just offering an activity you're creating an experience. My customized trivia games are designed to entertain, educate, and keep your customers coming back for more.   Create word of mouth One of the biggest advantages of   online trivia  for corporate events is the word of mouth it generates. Participants love talking about the excitement of a well-crafted game, whether it’s the hilarious moments, close competition, or unexpected victories. This word of mouth extends to your brand, creating an organic way for your customers to share their positive experience with friends and colleagues. Trivia brings people together, fostering connections that build loyalty and drive new interest in your brand.   Receptive branding opportunities What makes online trivia particularly unique is the way it opens up receptive branding opportunities. From customized questions about your products or services to branded visuals, trivia games offer subtle yet impactful ways to integrate your brand into the game itself. I design questions that resonate with your audience, weaving in your branding without it feeling like a “sales pitch.” This makes your brand memorable in a fun, engaging way, enhancing customer experience while reinforcing your identity.   Branded prizes Who doesn’t love a prize? One of the most effective ways to make your trivia game unforgettable is to offer branded prizes. Not only does this add excitement to the game, but it also keeps your brand top of mind long after the event.   Imagine your customers enjoying their prize at home or in the office a little reminder of your brand’s thoughtfulness and fun spirit. Whether it’s a gift card, branded swag, or even a VIP experience with your company, prizes encourage participation and build goodwill.   Team building and new friendships The team-building aspect of online trivia for corporate events is invaluable. Trivia allows people to collaborate, brainstorm, and laugh together all while competing for a win. This teamwork often leads to new friendships and strengthens existing connections. Virtual trivia can bridge the gap between employees across departments or customers from different backgrounds, creating bonds that enhance loyalty and foster a positive company culture.   Let me create a custom trivia experience Every company is unique, and so should be the trivia experience. Allow me the   opportunity  to craft a custom trivia game tailored specifically for your audience. I specialize in creating trivia games that highlight your brand’s values, showcase your products, and deliver the message you want to convey all while keeping everyone engaged and entertained. Custom trivia brings your brand to life in an interactive format, offering an experience your customers and employees will remember.   Book me If you’re ready to take your corporate event to the next level,   book me  to host a custom online trivia game that will delight and engage your audience. My expertise as a national trivia host will have your customers hooked and coming back for more.   With a mix of entertainment, team-building, and branding, online trivia is the ideal way to connect with your customers and employees in a memorable way. Let’s create an unforgettable experience together! Follow me on Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website for more info! Read more from Mark Corona Mark Corona, Speaker & Game Show Host Mark Corona delivers high-impact employee and customer retention solutions by combining interactive trivia, positive video messages, and creative engagement strategies. As a national game show host and co-founder of Slowjamastan, Mark blends fun with proven techniques to create memorable experiences that drive loyalty and lasting connections.

Written by Malissa Veroni, Founding CEO & Lead Therapist Malissa Veroni is the founding CEO and lead therapist at Keep’N It Real Solutions. For the past 15 years Malissa has been a foot soldier in the field of social work; teaching, and serving students and clients alike. She is a published author, mentor, and mental health therapist who focuses on combining theory, practical approach and individual quality holistic care to help clients heal and grow from a variety of concerns. Narcissistic abuse is more common than we might realize, affecting lives and relationships in profound ways. It’s a silent battle that leaves survivors feeling isolated, undermined, and overwhelmed by guilt, anxiety, and self-doubt. When supporting someone in this situation, patience and empathy are crucial. How to truly help a survivor of narcissistic abuse In today's conversations, the terms "narcissistic abuse" and "narcissists" are more prevalent than ever and for good reason. The damage inflicted by these personalities can be profound and far-reaching. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) affects approximately 0.5% of the U.S.A population (Graham, 2023), which translates to about 1 in 200 people. There are notable gender differences, as around 75% of those diagnosed are men Recovery Village . However, when we consider individuals exhibiting narcissistic traits, that figure escalates dramatically, suggesting that about 2%-12% of people Children of Narcissists  may display these behaviours to varying degrees. This means narcissism is more common than we often realize, quietly infiltrating various aspects of our lives. Individuals who seek my guidance encompass a wide spectrum: those ensnared in narcissistic relationships, the rare narcissists themselves seeking help, and the innocent desolate bystanders—friends or family members who feel helpless yet driven to support their loved ones. The devastated bystanders frequently witness the chaos and emotional upheaval that accompany narcissistic dynamics, grappling with feelings of frustration and sorrow as they observe their loved ones' struggles. Navigating these turbulent relationships reveals the intense emotional fallout that often ensues. Survivors frequently experience guilt, anxiety, and a crippling sense of isolation among many other challenging symptoms. Recognizing these patterns is the first vital step toward healing. By illuminating these experiences, those affected by the horrible aftermath can empower ourselves and others to break free from the suffocating grip of narcissistic love, paving the way for healthier connections and a renewed sense of self-worth. Take, for example, Sarah a woman once vibrant and full of life. Charismatic and fiercely loyal, she always lit up a room. When she met Mark, she felt an exhilarating connection. He was charming and attentive, sweeping her off her feet with grand gestures and compliments that made her feel cherished. Initially, it seemed like a fairy tale. However, beneath the surface, the cracks in their relationship began to appear. At first, Mark's dismissals were subtle. When Sarah expressed her feelings, he would often label her as "overreacting" or "too sensitive." If she voiced a concern, he masterfully redirected the conversation back to himself, weaving tales that painted him as the hero. Gradually, Sarah found herself apologizing for missteps she never committed, her self-doubt escalating with each encounter. As time passed, Mark's affection morphed into control. He began to question Sarah’s friendships, implying that her friends were untrustworthy or a negative influence. The joyful companions who once filled her life faded into the background, leaving Sarah increasingly isolated. The vibrant happiness she once radiated transformed into confusion and anxiety, leaving her to wrestle with her self-worth and question her right to love. Amidst this turmoil, Sarah experienced fleeting moments of clarity. During a gathering with friends, she overheard laughter and warmth feelings she desperately craved but rarely experienced at home. That night, she realized just how much she missed her authentic self, her laughter, and her light. Encouraged by a close friend, Sarah began confronting the reality of her situation. She sought therapy and started to understand the dynamics of narcissistic relationships and the cycle of manipulation. Slowly, she rebuilt her self-esteem, recognizing that her feelings were not only valid but essential. Ultimately, Sarah made the courageous decision to leave Mark, but it’s important to remember that this choice doesn’t have to mirror your story or that of others. Her journey was fraught with common challenges; moments of doubt and heartache loomed large. Yet, with every step she took away from the toxic relationship, she felt lighter, as if shedding the layers of someone else's expectations. In time, Sarah rediscovered her passion for life. She rekindled friendships, pursued hobbies she had neglected, and learned to embrace self-love fiercely. Though the scars of her past remained, they no longer defined her. Sarah emerged stronger, poised to embrace a future filled with genuine love and self-acceptance. Through her journey, Sarah learned a vital truth: true love uplifts and empowers, never belittles or diminishes. This awareness became her guiding light, illuminating her path toward healing and renewed hope. Whether you or your friend chooses to stay in a relationship with someone exhibiting narcissistic tendencies is ultimately their decision (at least I hope so!). It's crucial not to pressure them to leave, as doing so can heighten their risk of suicidal thoughts and potentially lead to fatal outcomes when leaving an abusive relationship. So, how can you support someone from the sidelines without losing yourself in the process? Here are six effective ways to assist a survivor of narcissistic abuse, along with a bonus tip that everyone in the field wishes people understood! 6 ways to truly help a survivor of narcissistic abuse Listen without judgment Create a safe space for them to share their experiences. Be a patient listener, allowing them to express their feelings without interruption. Validating their emotions can help them feel heard and understood. Encourage professional help Suggest therapy or counselling as constructive avenues for healing. A mental health professional can equip survivors with essential tools and strategies to navigate their feelings and experiences. Be patient and understanding Recovery from narcissistic abuse is a journey that takes time. Be patient with their progress and provide consistent support, understanding that healing isn’t linear; there will be good days and setbacks. Offer practical help Survivors often need assistance with daily tasks or decision-making. Offer practical support whether it’s running errands, helping with chores, or being there during challenging conversations. Celebrate their progress Acknowledge their achievements, no matter how small. Celebrate milestones in their healing journey, and remind them of their strength and resilience. Respect their boundaries & follow their lead It is vital to allow survivors to dictate the pace of discussions. Avoid pressuring them for details, and respect their choice to withhold aspects of their experience. Having endured the challenges of narcissistic relationships, survivors often grapple with boundaries. Let them reclaim their autonomy without interference, ensuring they have the opportunity to engage in healthy interactions. Bonus tip (and perhaps one of the most important ones) Avoid minimizing their experience Refrain from saying things like "it could be worse" or "just get over it." Such comments can invalidate their feelings. Instead, affirm that their feelings are valid and understandable given their experiences By implementing these strategies, you can become a vital ally in a survivor's journey toward healing and self-empowerment. Support them in reclaiming their sense of self and navigating the complexities of their recovery. As a professional dedicated to fostering resilience and growth, my services are here to guide you and survivors alike through this transformative process, helping to create a safe space for healing and renewal. Together, we can cultivate strength and resilience in the face of adversity. Follow me on  Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Malissa Veroni Malissa Veroni, Founding CEO & Lead Therapist Malissa Veroni is the founding CEO and lead therapist at Keep’N It Real Solutions. For the past 15 years, Malissa has been a foot soldier in the field of social work, teaching and serving students and clients alike. She is a published author, mentor, and mental health therapist who focuses on combining theory, practical approach and individual quality holistic care to help clients heal and grow from a variety of concerns. Malissa is known as a specialist in the field of Narcissistic Abuse, Intimate Partner Violence, the LGBTQ2s Community, and in Sex Therapy. She is also a Designated Capacity Assessor and a mentor to several social workers worldwide. Sources: Graham, S. (2023, July 6). Narcissistic Personality Disorder Statistics. Children of Narcissists . Retrieved October 28, 2024 , Children of Narcissists. (n.d.). Narcissism and its prevalence in society . The Recovery Village. (n.d.). Narcissistic personality disorder statistics . The Recovery Village.

Written by Robynne Pendariès, ADHD Coach Robynne Pendariès, an American who has lived in France her whole adult life, brings her 18 years of experience as a Professional Organizer to her present passion of online coaching for adults with ADHD. Robyne partners with clients in a thought-provoking process, to create systems in order to find each person's life that fits. What’s all the fuss about dopamine these days? And what is dopamine anyway? Even people with ADHD don’t always know the ins and outs. So here is a bit of a crash course on how to increase our dopamine in healthy natural ways, as well as pointing out the unhealthy habits (to avoid!) which also give our brains the dopamine “hit”. Dopamine, the "feel-good" neurotransmitter, is often linked to motivation, pleasure and reward. Neurotransmitters are chemicals that help your brain’s nerve cells (neurons) communicate with each other. Whenever you do anything—whether it’s moving your hand, feeling excited, or remembering your friend’s birthday—neurotransmitters are busy delivering messages.  Without fail, my ADHD coaching clients will attest to the fact that their brain regularly seeks dopamine. Recently, I learned of a metaphor to explain the ADHD brain’s quest for dopamine: Imagine that dopamine is like the light you need to see in a dark room. For most people, a steady lamp provides the light they need to navigate, but for someone with ADHD, the lamp is often flickering or dim. Instead of relying on that steady light, they’re constantly searching for “sparks” - quick, exciting bursts of light that briefly illuminate the room. These sparks can be anything: scrolling on social media, playing video games, eating a sugary snack, jumping between tasks, etc. Each spark gives a quick flash of light and makes them feel good for a moment, but it’s not a lasting solution. The person keeps jumping from one spark to the next, trying to keep the room lit, but never quite attaining the steady, consistent light they need. While the 7 unhealthy habits listed below could be considered the “sparks” in this metaphor, the 7 healthy hacks will surely contribute to maintaining the “steady, consistent light”. 7 unhealthy habits which increase dopamine Substance abuse Drug use (cocaine, marijuana, methamphetamine, alcohol and even excessive caffeine) can temporarily increase dopamine. However, it may also lead to the exacerbation of ADHD symptoms, as well as addiction and other health problems. Cigarettes/vaping Smoking  or nicotine vaping increases dopamine almost immediately. That said, it can also lead to addiction and negative long-term health issues. Overeating (especially junk food) Junk food, loaded with carbohydrates, sugar and fat, can cause high dopamine boosts. Nevertheless, these unhealthy eating patterns can lead to disordered eating and/or eating disorders . Social media Playing video games and scrolling on social media provide constant dopamine “hits”, but can also contribute to procrastination, sleep disruption, and poor time management. Pornography and impulsive sexual behavior Excessive pornography use , compulsive sexual activity, or seeking out multiple sexual partners will temporarily boost dopamine. Yet, the downside is often emotional harm to your relationships. Impulsive spending In the short-term, spending money impulsively will give you a temporary dopamine boost, but this often leads to long-term financial problems and regret. Risky activities Gambling, thrill-seeking activities, reckless driving…all these activities and many more provide a rush of dopamine and adrenaline. The risk often outweighs the reward. 7 healthy hacks to increase dopamine Exercise Regular exercise, especially aerobic (such as running or cycling), stimulates the brain to produce more dopamine . It also improves blood flow to the brain. Win, win! Good nutrition Balanced nutrition  and maintaining a healthy gut microbiome play a crucial role in dopamine production and brain regulation. Adequate sleep Good sleep (particularly REM sleep) maintains healthy levels of dopamine. Sufficient rest at nighttime also supports your sleep-wake cycle, which is essential for clearing out toxins at night, and then facilitating dopamine levels to rise upon waking. Accomplishing tasks Task completion provides the brain with meaningful rewards that reinforce productive behaviors. It is a natural means to boost dopamine and build confidence. Music and creative activities Listening to music and engaging in creative endeavors  elevates dopamine. The sense of enjoyment and motivation which comes from these activities can enhance focus and generate innovative thinking. Sunlight Spending time outside in the sunlight stimulates dopamine production in the brain by activating retinal cells and regulating the body’s natural circadian rhythm. In addition, this dopamine release boosts mood and alertness. Social connections Seeking connections with others and deepening relationships is a healthy means of increasing the amount of dopamine produced in the brain. Positive interactions and shared experiences boost dopamine and create feelings of pleasure and bonding. This underlines how challenging daily life became during Covid lockdowns for people with ADHD. Becoming aware of how your brain functions, and how the behavior which your brain seeks out increases dopamine production, is just one of the many subjects that we can explore together in ADHD coaching.  Please reach out for a free discovery call  to learn how ADHD coaching can help you build healthier, sustainable habits for optimal productivity and happiness. Follow me on  Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Robynne Pendariès Robynne Pendariès, ADHD Coach   Robynne Pendariès, an American who has lived in France her whole adult life, brings her 18 years of experience as a Professional Organizer to her present passion of online coaching for adults with ADHD. After a few years of organizing people's homes and offices, Robyne realized that many of her clients had been diagnosed with ADHD (and subsequently her husband and teenage daughter as well). Without realizing it, Robyne had been helping people with neuro-divergent brains for many years, and she went back to school to obtain formal training as an ADHD coach. Robyne partners with clients in a thought-provoking process, to create systems in order to find each person's "life that fits".

Written by Maggie Gelin, Vocal Coach Maggie guides singers to find their true voice using her unique Sing Your (Self) To Freedom Formula, crafted from years of experience. Studying under renowned mentors in both England and the United States, Maggie imparts invaluable techniques learned from instructors who've shaped famous artists like Michael Bublé and Josh Groban. In this article, you’ll discover the power of the “cry” vocal technique and how it can help you sing high notes with ease and power. Plus, it will give your voice a nice, warm sound. Let’s jump right in!   P.S. Because this topic includes some specific audio examples, I invite you to  check out this video  on which this article is based. What is cry? The cry vocal technique allows singers to produce high notes with less strain and more power. It can also add warmth to your voice, especially if you have sharpness or breathiness in your tone. By using cry, you can strengthen your voice and bring more richness to your sound.   Mistakes to avoid Before we get into applying cry, let’s talk about two mistakes beginner singers often make:   Not exaggerating enough: When first learning to cry, many singers hold back because they fear sounding too dramatic or classical. But exaggerating crying is important; it helps you understand where the technique is placed in your voice. Once you feel it, you can tone it down and make it sound more natural. Avoiding cry in songs: Some singers are afraid of using cry in songs because they associate it with a classical sound. However, cry is a contemporary vocal technique that works great in modern music. Don’t shy away from using it in your favorite songs!   What trained singers do Trained singers practice differently. First, they exaggerate the cry technique to feel its placement and hear its effect. Then, they refine it to create a beautiful, controlled sound. Trained singers also use cries in various songs to add vocal variety. Just like painting with different colors, using different vocal techniques makes your performance more interesting.   You already know cry Here’s the good news: you already know how to do cry. As a baby, you cried for hours without getting hoarse, which means your body knows how to perform this technique. The challenge now is connecting what your body knows with singing. Benefits of the cry technique Cry offers several benefits for your singing:   Neutral larynx position: It helps release tension and promotes a neutral larynx, making singing more comfortable. Better vocal cord closure: Cry encourages proper vocal cord closure, reducing breathiness and hoarseness. Smooth register transitions: It helps smooth out transitions between vocal registers, like chest voice, head voice and MIx Voice, preventing voice cracks.   Practice cry with a song To practice cry, let’s use “A Million Dreams” from The Greatest Showman . Follow along as we sing the chorus and apply an exaggerated cry to feel the technique in action:   “’Cause every night I lie in bed, the brightest colors fill my head. A million dreams are keeping me awake.”   Don’t worry about sounding dramatic. That’s the goal for now. Once you’ve exaggerated it enough to feel the cry, you can start dialing it down to around 60% and make it sound more natural.   To sing along with me, check out this video .   Let’s get started As you can see, training your voice in the right way is the only way to experience vocal freedom.   When you’re ready to learn the right vocal techniques and get specific exercises to help you along the way, then I invite you to join my free, upcoming training covering exactly that!   Click   here to join the free training! Follow me on  Facebook , Instagram , YouTube,  and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Maggie Gelin Maggie Gelin, Vocal Coach Maggie guides singers to find their true voice using her unique Sing Your (Self) To Freedom Formula, crafted from years of experience. Studying under renowned mentors in both England and the United States, Maggie imparts invaluable techniques learned from instructors who've shaped famous artists like Michael Bublé and Josh Groban. With a decade of coaching, she witnesses remarkable transformations in her students, guiding them past insecurities to sing with newfound freedom, proving that singing goes beyond a skill—it's a path to embracing life fully.

Written by Trea Tijmens, Elite Matchmaker and Dating Coach Trea Tijmens, the CEO of SuccessMatch , is an international elite matchmaker and award-winning dating expert and coach. Did you know that men represent over 75% of the users on Apps like Tinder and Bumble? (source?) If you are a single guy wishing to find a great partner online, you need to stand out from the crowd. Lots of single men make key dating app mistakes that turn potential matches away before a conversation even begins. Here’s a breakdown of the top five online dating mistakes and tips on how to avoid them. 1. The “no effort” bio (or no bio at all) Many men skip the bio section altogether or just write a few generic lines, like “Just ask” or “Here for a good time, not a long time.” The bio is your chance to showcase your personality, and ignoring it—or worse, writing something lazy—is a big dating app mistake. It sends the message that you are the “minimum effort guy” and aren’t serious or invested in meeting someone. What to do instead Use your bio as an opportunity to highlight your interests, values, or sense of humor. Keep it simple and authentic. Even a few sentences like, “Coffee addict, hiking enthusiast, always on the lookout for a good book recommendation” are more engaging and give women something to respond to. 2. Using horrible photos I work with highly successful singles, and I’m always amazed those men, even those working at top levels in big multinational corporations, don’t have decent profile photos to use on  dating apps . If truth be told, many of these pictures are unacceptable (think a selfie taken at home with a messy kitchen background or a poorly cropped picture where you can clearly see this was a photo of you with your former girlfriend or wife). Using photos that are outdated, heavily filtered, or don’t clearly show your face is a dating app mistake and a red flag for single women. Photos where you’re wearing sunglasses in every shot, all group shots (leaving them guessing who you are), or even old vacation pics from five years ago are misleading and can lead to disappointment when you meet in person. And yes, profile photos of you holding a dead fish or with a naked upper torso are major turn-offs for most women. What to do instead Choose six high-quality photos that accurately represent who you are today. Include a mix of close-up shots, full-body photos, and maybe one or two that showcase hobbies or places you love. Make sure you’re the main subject in at least a few of the images, do not use photos with other people in it, and try to limit the shots with alcoholic beverages. 3. Overly showcasing material Possessions or “flexing” Some men think that showing off their car, luxury brands, or flashy lifestyle will impress potential matches. While there’s nothing wrong with showing a bit of it, too much emphasis on material possessions can come off as inauthentic or as though you’re trying too hard to impress. What to do instead Balance is key. Choose photos that reflect genuine interests or passions instead of possessions. It’s more attractive for women to see someone enjoying their hobbies, traveling, or spending time with friends than it is to see them posing in front of a car. Let your interests and values shine instead of material items. 4. Being negative or setting “rules” in your bio It’s surprisingly common for people to list “don’ts” or make demands in their bios, such as “No I am not a paying member, I cannot see your likes.” It’s a dating app mistake to make upfront demands such as: “Don’t message me if you’re just looking for attention” or “Only looking for fit women.” This approach will make you seem judgmental or close-minded. What to do instead Focus on what you want rather than what you don’t. Instead of listing negatives, emphasize the qualities you appreciate in others or the kind of connection you seek. For instance, try something like “Looking for someone who loves adventure and doesn’t take life too seriously” instead of outlining rules. This shifts your profile from feeling restrictive to being inviting and positive. 5. Kittenfishing Kittenfishing  is the practice of someone making themselves seem more attractive on the dating app. Kittenfishing means making slight deviations from the truth (aka lying!). For men, the most common ones claim to be X centimeters taller or X years younger than they really are. Lying on your dating app profile is setting yourself up for failure! Yes, you may get the match, but when you go on a date, she will likely be disappointed and won’t see you again. You could also be reported to the app and banned! What to do instead Relationships are built on trust. If you lie about something on your dating profile, the woman may start wondering what else you’re lying about. Be honest. Either she likes you for who you are, or it is not a good match anyway. Swap dating app mistakes for solid strategy Avoiding these common dating app mistakes can make a huge difference in the quality of connections you build online. By showcasing your real interests and maintaining a positive tone, you’ll stand out from the crowd and attract women who are genuinely interested in getting to know you. So, take a little extra time to fine-tune your profile—it’s worth the effort! Ready for a quick start or restart of your dating app profile without costly mistakes?  Check out my dating coaching and matchmaking services  and benefit from my 19 years of experience as a science-based dating coach and elite matchmaker. Follow me on LinkedIn , and visit my website for more info! Read more from Trea Tijmens Trea Tijmens, Elite Matchmaker and Dating Coach Trea Tijmens, the CEO of SuccessMatch, is an international elite matchmaker and award-winning dating expert and coach. Trea believes that to love and be loved is a basic human need and that people do not thrive without love. A former head-hunter, she founded SuccessMatch in 2005. Based in Switzerland, she works with local and international clientele and prides herself on her high success rate. Trea is passionate about helping her highly international single professional clientele transition from where they are today to where they want to be; in a happy, fulfilling, lasting relationship with the right partner.

Written by Mirabela Pravat, Clinical Hypnotherapist / Mindset Coach As a clinical hypnotherapist, mindset coach, NLP practitioner, and spiritual facilitator of change, Mirabela Pravat is a beacon of transformation in the realm of holistic healing. With a gentle yet unwavering commitment, Mirabela has empowered countless souls to transcend the intricate web of limiting beliefs, fears, and inner conflicts and embrace their true potential. In our relationships, workplace, and even within ourselves, there’s a fine line between boundaries and tolerance. Understanding the difference can be transformative—granting peace, clarity, and self-respect. Boundaries and tolerance aren’t opposites but rather two sides of the same coin, each with its unique role in shaping a balanced, fulfilling life. Let’s dive into the intricacies of boundaries and tolerance, explore actionable ways to identify and set boundaries, and find out when tolerance serves us—and when it holds us back. What are boundaries? Boundaries are the invisible lines we draw to define what is acceptable in our lives—emotionally, physically, and mentally. They’re our personal limits, clearly marking where our comfort ends and discomfort begins. Imagine your boundaries as a “mental fence” that protects your well-being, sense of self, and peace. ’’As you read, think about areas in your life where you feel discomfort or resentment. These may signal where boundaries need to be set.’’ Understanding tolerance Tolerance, on the other hand, is our ability to endure or accept situations, behaviours, or beliefs that we may not fully agree with. It’s a mark of flexibility and resilience—a willingness to meet others halfway, even if it means compromising temporarily. However, tolerance has its limits. Excessive tolerance can erode self-worth if it goes against your core values or personal needs. ’’Consider moments when you tolerated situations or behaviours that left you feeling drained. Did they support your growth, or did they compromise your well-being?’’ Boundaries vs. tolerance: Key differences While both boundaries and tolerance are essential for healthy relationships and self-respect, they have distinct differences: Boundaries are fixed limits based on self-respect and values, whereas tolerance is a flexible approach to managing differences. Boundaries are defined by you and protect your well-being; others’ needs often influence tolerance and builds empathy. Boundaries are assertive and require clarity; tolerance is adaptive and requires openness. Recognizing the balance between these two is crucial. Boundaries can be an anchor, while tolerance allows you to drift gracefully without losing your sense of self. Why knowing the difference matters Confusing boundaries with tolerance often leads to unnecessary stress, resentment, and burnout. When you know where your boundaries lie, you can decide when tolerance serves a purpose and when it compromises your happiness. ’’Reflect on a recent conflict or uncomfortable situation. Did you need stronger boundaries, or was increased tolerance a better approach?’’ How to identify your boundaries: 4 steps If you’re uncertain where your boundaries lie, here are four steps to guide you: Tune into your emotions: Feelings like frustration, resentment, or anxiety often signal that a boundary is needed or has been crossed. When you experience these emotions, ask yourself: What is causing this discomfort? Define your core values: Boundaries are closely tied to values. Identify what matters most to you—integrity, respect, honesty—and use these values as a foundation to set boundaries that align with who you are. Communicate your needs clearly: Once you know your boundaries, communicate them assertively. Use “I” statements, such as, “I need some time alone after work to recharge,” to express your needs without blame. Respect your own boundaries: Boundaries are only as effective as your commitment to them. Honor your boundaries by standing firm when they’re tested, even if it feels uncomfortable. ’’Choose one small boundary you’d like to establish today. Visualize yourself calmly communicating it, and feel the empowerment that comes with asserting your needs.’’ How to apply healthy tolerance: 4 examples Tolerance, when applied thoughtfully, can improve relationships and reduce friction. Here are ways to practice tolerance mindfully: Practice active listening: Tolerance begins with understanding. Listen to others’ viewpoints fully, even if they differ from your own. Acknowledge their perspective without judgment. Compromise when it’s safe: Not every disagreement requires a boundary. Choose tolerance when compromising feels safe and doesn’t infringe on your core values. For instance, in a workplace setting, adapting to a new routine can build flexibility without violating personal integrity. Embrace diversity in beliefs: Tolerance is crucial for cultural and ideological diversity. Remember, accepting others’ beliefs doesn’t mean compromising your own; it simply allows room for differences. Avoid personalizing others’ actions: Often, tolerance means understanding that people’s actions reflect their journey, not yours. By not taking things personally, you give yourself the space to navigate interactions with less emotional strain. ’’In your next interaction, try active listening. Notice how understanding another person’s point of view can naturally increase your sense of tolerance. ’’ Finding balance: When boundaries end and tolerance begins Knowing when to set boundaries and when to practice tolerance can help you navigate relationships with grace and confidence. Here’s a simple guideline to help you decide: Boundary needed: When a situation feels deeply uncomfortable, impacts your values, or causes ongoing emotional distress. Tolerance warranted: When adapting doesn’t harm your well-being, respects your values, and supports growth in relationships. If you find yourself continually tolerating at the expense of your happiness, it’s time to revisit your boundaries. Similarly, if you’re rigidly setting boundaries that limit positive interactions, consider practicing a bit more tolerance. Actionable steps to harmonize boundaries and tolerance To live a balanced life, use these steps to harmonize your boundaries and tolerance: Assess each situation individually: Not every situation requires a boundary or tolerance. Assess each one based on your well-being, values, and comfort level. Create a “boundaries and tolerance” journal: Track situations where you set boundaries or practiced tolerance. Note how each choice impacted your emotional state. This exercise will clarify what works best in different contexts. Seek support when needed: Setting boundaries and practicing tolerance can be challenging. Talk to friends, family, or a therapist who can provide perspective and support. Review and adjust regularly: As you grow, your boundaries and tolerance levels will evolve. Periodically review them to ensure they align with your current needs. ’’Choose one actionable step from this list and commit to practicing it in your daily life. See how it begins to shape your interactions and enhances your happiness. ’’ Conclusion: A path to a happier, balanced life The journey to understanding where boundaries begin and tolerance ends is one of self-discovery and growth. By respecting your boundaries, you honour your authentic self; by practicing tolerance, you connect more deeply with others. In finding the balance, you create a life that’s not only happier but also aligned with who you truly are. Embrace this balance, and you’ll find yourself navigating life with greater peace, confidence, and joy. FAQs about boundaries and tolerance Why are boundaries important in relationships?   Boundaries foster respect and self-identity, creating a healthy foundation for relationships. They help prevent resentment and burnout by ensuring your needs are met. How can I set boundaries without feeling guilty?   Remember, boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re necessary for well-being. Practice setting small boundaries first, and remind yourself that respecting your needs benefits everyone around you. Is there such a thing as too much tolerance?   Yes, excessive tolerance can lead to self-sacrifice and compromise your values. Healthy tolerance allows for flexibility without losing self-respect. How can I tell if I need a boundary or tolerance?   Tune into your emotions. If something feels persistently uncomfortable or impacts your core values, a boundary is needed. Tolerance is suitable when compromise doesn’t threaten your well-being. What if people get upset when I set boundaries?   Others may need time to adjust, but standing firm in your boundaries demonstrates self-respect. Supportive relationships will adapt, and setting boundaries may even inspire others to honour their own needs.   Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , and LinkedIn , or visit my website for more info! Read more from Mirabela Pravat Mirabela Pravat, Clinical Hypnotherapist / Mindset Coach As a clinical hypnotherapist, mindset coach, NLP practitioner, and spiritual facilitator of change, Mirabela Pravat is a beacon of transformation in the realm of holistic healing. With a gentle yet unwavering commitment, Mirabela has empowered countless souls to transcend the intricate web of limiting beliefs, fears, and inner conflicts and embrace their true potential. Mirabela's brand, the Black Swan Mindset, embodies the synergy between spirituality and the subconscious mind, serving as a guiding light for those navigating the tumultuous waters of personal growth and development. With her guidance, clients learn to perceive their mindset as the pivotal domino piece in their journey towards holistic wellness.

Complacency is a very positive word with a very negative connotation. Put simply, complacency is a state of peace and safety, the understanding that you are in a good place and that you are in a satisfactory state of being. It sounds like the life. However, complacency or being complacent can have significant repercussions both personally and ethically. Complacency can lead to career stagnation, for instance. If you feel complacent in your job, you will likely be unmotivated to upskill or study further education. A nurse who isn’t complacent may enrol in an online DNP or pivot with a Graduate Diploma of Psychology  and forge a new career path. What about ethics? If everything is okay in your own life, it may numb you to the struggles of others. The upper-class elite, separated from the working class and the poor may be complacent in their elevated social status, but that complacency also leads them to minimize the suffering of those systemically beneath them. Complacency is a good thing when it’s healthy, however, when people are stuck in complacency they can experience a severe reduction of accountability and awareness that dulls them to internal stagnation, and external discord. How then, can we remain aware of our state of complacency, and break the cycle if we are caught in its grips? Recognizing When You Have Become Complacent Complacency can happen in any area of your life. You can become complacent in your career, in your relationships, in what you eat, how you present yourself. The insidious thing about complacency is that you may not even realize that you’re in its grasp. Therefore the first step to recognizing complacency for what it is is to be self-aware. Career Complacency Let’s say you’re working your dream job. How happy are you really in this role? If you were to look inward and compare your current state now with how you were when you first started working, are you truly happy or are you merely “safe?” Of course, there are many definitions of happiness, and happiness looks different for everybody, however, if you realize that at the start of your career there was a hunger and passion that isn’t there anymore , even though you still like your job, you may have fallen into the trap of complacency.  Relationship Complacency Complacency in relationships can be particularly dangerous. As we grow used to our partners we can often start to lose our sense of wonder with them. The “honeymoon” state, as it is so often called in a relationship’s infancy, is widely understood as a temporary state of being, however, that doesn’t have to be the case. The Honeymoon state  occurs because we are enthusiastic about a new adventure with a new person. It only wears off when we stop being curious about our romantic partner and the dynamics we share. Take a look at your relationship with a critical lens. When was the last time you expended real effort in doing something special for your partner? When was the last time they did the same for you? If “the spark” appears to have gone out, even though you still care for and love each other, complacency may have taken root in the relationship. Life Complacency Complacency in your general life refers to a lack of wonder at the state of existence . The state of simply going with the flow instead of seeking experiences. Depending on your personal values, this can be either a very good thing or a very bad thing. After all, there is no harm in contentment, and being content is often the first step to becoming happy.  However, other people thrive on a sense of adventure, and even for those who enjoy their contentedness, you can only remain truly content if you switch things up every now and then, a rare holiday, a class in a craft you’ve always been curious about. Adventure doesn’t have to be big grand tours of the world after all. It can be a little day trip to a corner of your own town you’ve never seen before. Combating complacency in life is done through learning and discovery, so keep an open mind, and cultivate your sense of wonder. Ethical Complacency When you aren’t living according to your beliefs, or keeping on with your own state of existence despite the pain it may cause others, you may be ethically complacent. It is important to recognize that everyone has certain levels of social privilege and social barriers, and that it is only by uniting behind certain causes and advocacy groups, that people can truly recognize the best outcomes for the majority of society.  It can be tempting to remain ethically complacent, as being otherwise demands that people remain aware of very painful and hurtful truths. However, part of life is to be aware of the bad so it can be changed for the good, and if you feel that you lack conviction or a moral stance, it may benefit you to examine the person you want to be and the world you want to live in.

Written by Kristina N. Terzieva, Reiki Master Teacher Kristina N. Terzieva is a Reiki Master Teacher, as well as an energy healing practitioner with experience in sound healing and voice spectrum analysis. She is the founder of Astraea Healing Connection – a private holistic health practice – which offers distance healing through the following modalities: Reiki, sound healing, and voice analysis. Balancing hard aspects in an astrology natal chart could appear daunting at first glance, especially if they concern major spheres of our lives, such as our health, relationships, or careers. Knowing that we have an opposition, square, or semi-square in one of these areas may easily create a mental block that further exacerbates the dynamic implied by the respective hard aspect. Before I delve into an analysis of what one may be able to do in order to harmonize these planetary energies and make the best of one’s life lessons for this incarnation, I would like to take a brief moment to describe what types of configurations in a natal chart would be considered “hard aspects.” “Astrology is the study of man’s response to planetary stimuli. The stars have no conscious benevolence or animosity; they merely send forth positive and negative radiations. Of themselves, these do not help or harm humanity, but offer a lawful channel for the outward operation of cause-effect equilibriums which each man has set into motion in the past.” – Swami Sri Yukteswar The term aspect, in and of itself, suggests a relationship between two planets or between two components of an astrology chart, such as the Midheaven, for example, and the South and North Nodes, or the Ascendant (which are not planets but are part of one’s natal chart). These relationships are measured by the angle, which the two planets, or the two components form within the circle of the birth chart. As we know from Euclidean geometry, a circle has 360 degrees. Thus, every aspect would be at a degree between 0 and 360 degrees. Within the above parameters, a distinction between “major” and “minor” aspects exists. The major “good” or favorable aspects are: sextile (60 degrees) and trine (120 degrees). The major challenging aspects are: square (90 degrees) and opposition (180 degrees). A conjunction (0 and 360 degrees), also counts towards the major aspects, and it may fall in either the “easy” or “tense” category, depending on other configurations in the chart. The minor aspects, generally speaking, are derived by “dividing” the angle formed by the major aspect in half. For example, a semi-sextile would denote a 30-degree angle, and a semisquare is formed at 45 degrees. Additional minor aspects include: quintile (72 degrees); sesquiquadrate (135 degrees); biquintile (144 degrees); and quincunx (150 degrees). The minor aspects, too, indicate either a harmonious, or challenging relationship between two planets. The semi-sextile, as well as the quintile and biquintile, point to complementary or mutually reinforcing planetary energies, while the semisquare, the sesquiquadrate, and the quincunx reveal a difficult or tense interaction between the respective components of the chart. “The message boldly blazoned across the heavens at the moment of birth is not meant to emphasize fate the result of past good and evil but to arouse man’s will to escape from his universal thralldom. What he has done, he can undo. He can overcome any limitation, because he has spiritual resources which are not subject to planetary pressure.” – Swami Sri Yukteswar For the purpose of this discussion, I chose to focus on the opposition, a major challenging aspect, and the semisquare and sesquiquadrate as examples of minor tense aspects. Based on that, a more general rule may be applied to other hard aspects as a harmonizing principle. In examining my own natal chart, several hard aspects stood out to me, which related to my career (Midheaven in 10th House), relationships (Venus in 5th House), and health/wellness (Mars in 6th House). Interestingly, all of these tense aspects are tied to the position of Chiron, an asteroid, in my chart. The aspects that Chiron formed ranged from opposition (Venus) to semisquare (Midheaven) and sesquiquadrate (Mars). To better understand these placements, I took a moment to engage in an "intuitive inquiry" and approach that I have developed over the years, which involves three steps: 1. I empty my mind completely; 2. state a question, that has a "yes" or "no" answer; 3. wait for a response. I don't meditate in that state but remain open and receptive to guidance. This method yielded a meaningful insight, namely that Chiron serves as a balancer for other planets and/or configurations in the natal chart. In my case, Chiron "came" in Taurus to balance the Midheaven in Pisces, Venus in Scorpio, and Mars in Sagittarius. It took me some time to interpret that insight and give it meaning, especially in the context of my career, relationships, and health/wellness. As it relates to my career, I have often swung from jobs that offer a great deal of excitement and don't pay much to positions that pay adequately but do not align with my Soul's path and self-expression. In my natal chart, the balancer Chiron in Taurus teaches to avoid the trap of extremes. Dynamic, intellectually stimulating jobs that don't pay much tend to be just as bad as jobs that pay decently but don't allow the Soul to express its true potential and to serve its mission. In other words, the semisquare between Chiron in Taurus and Midheaven in Pisces has been placed to keep me in check throughout my lifetime by forcing me to make career choices that ultimately offer financial stability and intellectual stimulation and are in service to others. I have noticed that all three conditions need to be met, in order for this aspect to work its magic in the chart by balancing the tendencies to oscillate between these extremes. Looking at the opposition between Venus in Scorpio and Chiron in Taurus, a similar message emerged, but with an added emphasis on grounding and maintaining healthy boundaries in a relationship. Taking inventory of my romantic involvements revealed to me a somewhat unpleasant truth that I have often had a tendency to easily fall in love, delving in too deeply too soon, and finally losing myself (to a degree). The popular saying: “when I give, I give myself,” applied fully, except it did not serve me well and needed a balancer. The Taurus energy suggests a level-headed approach and teaches to maintain a firm stance and not lose ground. “A child is born on that day and at that hour when the celestial rays are in mathematical harmony with his individual karma. His horoscope is a challenging portrait, revealing his unalterable past and its probable future results. But the natal chart can be rightly interpreted only by men of intuitive wisdom.” – Swami Sri Yukteswar Interpreting the sesquiquadrate between Chiron in Taurus and Mars in Sagittarius gave me much food for thought. One way to understand this minor aspect is to consider it a composite of a square (90 degrees) and a semisquare (45 degrees). Using the intuitive inquiry method, described above, led me to a more unconventional perspective on this configuration. Instead of focusing on what it is a hard minor aspect my analysis suggested that I examine what it is not or the closest favorable major aspect. Geometrically, this would have been at trine (120 degrees). However, that would have placed Mars in Capricorn, as well as an earth sign, which would have signaled a lesson learned. Having this hard aspect between Mars in Sagittarius vis-à-vis Chiron in Taurus indicates a lesson in grounding the kinetic energy. It also guards against going to excesses and puts one on notice to pace oneself. Mars in Sagittarius can be very expansive, even exuberant, at times. These energy bursts, although productive, may need grounding to be contained. In this way, one’s “car” does not run out of fuel before reaching the final destination. Overall, the hard aspects of a natal chart teach us how to live a balanced life in a certain area, where we may be prone to going to excesses. The key to decoding the messages that these configurations have for us lies in examining patterns in the respective sphere of life where the aspect manifests itself and finding the planet that balances these choices or behavior. Based on my experience, the way to harmonize challenging aspects would be to look for the “balancing” planet(s), taking into account their placement within the chart and the associated element (earth, fire, air, water). Follow me on  Facebook , Instagram , and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Kristina N. Terzieva Kristina N. Terzieva, Astraea Healing Connection Kristina N. Terzieva, founder of Astraea Healing Connection, has a long-standing interest in energy medicine and Hermetic philosophy. She considers Reiki to be her guiding light and a "universal medicine" in its own right. Kristina recognizes and appreciates Reiki as a holistic medicine in the broadest sense. Her profound connection with Reiki, which she understands as Buddha’s Light, motivated her to become a Reiki Master Teacher, after 20 years of having worked with this energy on different levels. In addition, Kristina has dedicated significant time and resources into sound healing and voice spectrum analysis. For Kristina, sound healing has proven to be another type of "universal medicine" and a potent tool for inter-dimensional healing.

Written by Dr Mercy Maclean, Practitioner Chartered Health Psychologist Dr Mercy Maclean is a Practitioner Chartered Health Psychologist and the author of the book “Destigmatisation of Mental Health to Combat Public and Self-Stigma” , published in 2024. Dr Mercy Maclean emphasises the importance of exploring the historical development of male victims of domestic violence advocacy. Understanding the progress that has been made, as well as the challenges that remain, is crucial for shaping the future of domestic violence support for men. Dr Mercy Maclean reports that charting the inception of this movement will highlight the earliest recorded roots of male victim advocacy, dating back to the 1970s, when pioneers like Erin Pizzey, a British feminist and founder of the first women's refuge in the UK, began to acknowledge the existence of male victims of domestic violence. In the 1980s, the movement gained momentum with the establishment of organisations like the National Coalition for Men (NCM) in the US, which focused on addressing the unique challenges faced by male victims. This period also saw the emergence of early advocates like Warren Farrell, who wrote extensively on the topic of male victimhood and its implications for society. The 1990s witnessed a significant shift in the movement as awareness campaigns and support services began to take shape. The launch of the first male-focused domestic violence hotline in the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline, marked a critical milestone in the recognition of male victims. This decade also saw the publication of seminal works like "The Myth of Male Power" by Warren Farrell, which challenged prevailing gender stereotypes and sparked a national conversation about male victimhood. In the 2000s, the movement continued to evolve, with the establishment of organisations like the Men's Advice Line in the UK, which provided a confidential helpline and online support services specifically for male victims of domestic violence. This decade also saw the launch of awareness campaigns like the "Don't Let Him Get Away with It" initiative in the UK, which aimed to challenge harmful myths and stereotypes surrounding male victimhood. As we move into the 2010s, the movement has continued to gain momentum, with the proliferation of social media and online platforms providing new avenues for advocacy and support. The launch of organisations like the Male Survivor Trust in the US, which provides support services and resources for male survivors of sexual abuse, has marked a significant expansion of the movement's scope. However, despite these advancements, significant challenges persist, and the ongoing nature of the male victim advocacy movement keeps us all engaged and part of a dynamic process.  Institutional biases that hinder support services for male victims Dr Mercy Maclean advocates that Institutional bias and systemic neglect continue to hinder the provision of adequate support services for male victims, perpetuating the invisibility of male victimhood and exacerbating their experiences of trauma and vulnerability. Dr Mercy Maclean proposes examining the cross-cultural journey of male victim advocacy to address these challenges, highlighting key milestones and notable controversies that have shaped its course. For instance, the controversy surrounding the inclusion of male victims in the UK's Domestic Violence, Crime and Victims Act 2004, which initially excluded male victims from the definition of domestic violence, highlights the ongoing struggles of the movement. Furthermore, the adaptation of male victim advocacy in different cultures and regions has led to varying degrees of recognition and support. In some countries, like Australia, male victim advocacy has become an integral part of the national conversation, with organisations like the One in Three Campaign working to raise awareness and challenge harmful stereotypes. In other regions, like the Middle East and North Africa, the movement has faced significant obstacles, with patriarchal societies and limited resources hindering the provision of support services for male victims. Despite these challenges, organisations like the Arab Men's Forum for Gender Equality have emerged, working to challenge harmful gender stereotypes and promote greater recognition of male victimhood. This global impact of male victim advocacy makes us all part of a larger movement, connected in our efforts to create a more inclusive and supportive environment for all victims of domestic violence. Follow me on  Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Dr Mercy Maclean Dr Mercy Maclean, Practitioner Chartered Health Psychologist Dr Mercy Maclean is a Practitioner Chartered Health Psychologist registered with The Health and Care Professional Council (HCPC), an Associate Fellow of The British Psychological Society (AFBPsS), and a full member of the Division of Health Psychology at The British Psychological Society (BPS). She specialises in behaviour change interventions and mental wellbeing approaches to reduce health inequalities among healthcare professionals and health service users. Her personal investment in mental wellbeing approaches is deeply rooted in her family history. She understands the impact of mental illness and the importance of compassion, empathy, and understanding for those who are struggling. Dr Mercy Maclean is the author of the highly anticipated book – “Destigmatisation of Mental Health to Combat Public and Self-Stigma” – click here.

Written by Dr. Joy Green, Accountability Goal Achievement Coach Dr. Joy Green, a trailblazer and advocate for personal growth, has become a thought leader in personal development and leadership. As the author of "Goal Get'em Girls!," she empowers individuals to pursue aspirations and achieve goals, offering motivation and actionable insights. Can you believe it? We’re standing at the threshold of November, with only a few weeks left in 2024. Time has flown, and it’s easy to wonder, where did the year go? But here’s a gentle reminder as we head into the year’s final stretch: it’s not too late. You still have time to make real progress on those goals you set back in January! As an Accountability and Goal Achievement Coach, I see it all the time: how the start of the year ignites a fire in us. We’re energized, ready to tackle our dreams, and the list of goals seems possible and exciting. But as the months go by, life happens, routines shift, and priorities can get muddled. And that’s okay—part of any goal-setting journey is understanding that sometimes, we’ll drift. What matters is having the courage to refocus and get back on track. A November reality check: Why now? November is the perfect time to reflect on the past months. Not to dwell on what didn’t happen but to look at the ways we did grow, even if the path wasn’t perfectly straight. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that detours aren’t dead ends. Sometimes, they’re the exact paths we need to reach our goals, giving us unexpected lessons and strengths we didn’t realize we had. Learn from the year’s ups and downs So here’s an invitation: learn from any setbacks you’ve encountered this year. Instead of seeing them as defeats, look at them as part of the journey. Maybe you learned that a certain approach wasn’t for you or that you needed to put more focus in a particular area. Great! This is all valuable information for you to use as you make your November push. Negative self-talk  can be one of the biggest obstacles in this process. It’s easy to fall into the trap of saying, I’ve already missed the mark this year, so what’s the point now? But what’s the harm in finishing strong? No matter where you stand today, the effort you put in now can set you up for a fresh start in 2025. Remember, progress isn’t always linear. Some seasons are slower, some are full of breakthroughs—and both are valuable. Three ways to make November count So, how can you make the most of this month? Here are three practical steps to focus your energy and make those final strides. 1. Reflect and reset Take a quiet moment to reflect on the goals you set at the beginning of the year. Which ones still resonate with you? Which ones need adjusting? Ask yourself what will make you feel fulfilled as you close out 2024. Take this time to reset your focus on those that matter most. 2. Set micro-goals Break your larger goals into smaller, more manageable tasks that you can achieve weekly. These micro-goals can be powerful motivators because they give you frequent wins. And those small wins? They’ll keep your momentum going, even on the days when motivation feels low. If you’ve been wanting to start a new habit, focus on a micro-version of it. For example, if you want to read more, start with a few pages each day. 3. Seek accountability Accountability doesn’t have to mean a formal arrangement. It can be as simple as sharing your intentions with a friend, a family member, or even a community online. When you let others in on your goals, you give yourself extra motivation to follow through. Accountability partners can also help remind you to push past negative self-talk and encourage you on the days you need it most. And if you’re looking for a dedicated accountability partner to help you stay on track, I’m here to support you. Book a coaching call today , and let’s create a tailored plan to reach your goals before the year ends. Take action: Finish 2024 strong The year isn’t over yet. You’ve got weeks, days, and hours to keep showing up for yourself and for your dreams. Let this November be the month you redefine what success looks like for you. Even if you’re just getting started, starting is still a huge win! And the actions you take now, no matter how small, will become the foundation of your momentum heading into the new year. So, what do you want to accomplish by the end of 2024? I’d love to hear about your goals—share them, take those micro-steps, and let’s finish the year strong together. Remember, detours aren’t dead ends. And there’s no better time than right now to get back on track  and make things happen. Let’s make these last few weeks count! Come be a part of the Goal Get’em Girls! 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Written by Dr. Pooja Anand Sharma, Healing Therapist & Life Coach Dr. Pooja Anand Sharma is the Founder and Chairperson of Vishwas Healing and Healthcare LLP, a renowned Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Alternative Healing Master with over 22 years of experience in the healing industry. Dr. Pooja’s passion for healing and counseling goes beyond just a profession; it is her true calling. In the contemporary society, people encounter stress and pressure due to busy schedules, and thus, having a healthy and happy relationship can be a daunting task. It is now widely recognized that couple therapy is a useful tool for those who want to improve their relationship and work through the various challenges that come with it. This paper aims to discuss the ways in which couple therapy can help create happy relationships and the advantages, techniques and outcomes of the process. Understanding couple therapy Couple therapy or marriage or relationship counseling is a type of psychotherapy that is designed to help couples to identify and solve problems, enhance communication, and therefore, enhance the quality of their relationship. These are conducted by licensed therapists who are in a position to understand relationship and dynamics. The main objectives include helping the couples to have better ways and means of improving their relationship. Benefits of couple therapy Improved communication This paper identifies that one of the major advantages of couple therapy is the improvement of communication. Couples are helped by therapists to communicate their feelings and thoughts in a healthy manner, listen to each other, and respect each other’s point of view. Thus, better communication reduces the number of conflicts and increases the chances of positive interpersonal relationships. Conflict resolution Conflict is inevitable in every relationship and how the couples handle such issues is the key to a healthy relationship. It educates the partners on how to solve their problems without aggression and name-calling, which is an essential aspect of couple therapy. Strengthened emotional connection It is common to have sessions which are aimed at making the couple develop an even stronger emotional connection. Thus, it is possible to state that, revealing each other’s needs, concerns, and wants, the partners will be able to establish a deeper level of understanding and closeness, which is so important for a happy marriage. Personal growth It also helps in the growth of individuals in the relationship through couple therapy. Both partners are informed about their behaviours, their triggers, and their emotions and this can help in the growth of the partners and the relationship as well. Prevention of future issues Therapy can be scheduled at certain intervals to prevent the occurrence of certain issues that may harm the relationship. This helps in preventing the small problems from escalating and becoming big sources of conflict. Methodologies in couple therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) CBT assists the couples in changing the negative thinking and behaviors that lead to relationship problems. Thus, by concentrating on the here and now and coming up with workable strategies, CBT can be quite useful in enhancing relationship patterns. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) EFT aims at building the emotional attachment between partners. It assists people in a relationship to comprehend and explain their feelings in a manner that enhances intimacy and minimizes tension. EFT is most helpful for couples who struggle with emotional disconnection or attachment problems. Gottman method This approach is developed by Dr. John Gottman and it is based on the research and it is aimed at teaching relationship skills. The Gottman Method helps in areas of trust, commitment, and shared meaning which makes it a complete package for couples wanting to build a good relationship. Imago relationship therapy This therapy uses psychological interventions along with spiritual practices to make both partners conscious of the patterns of behavior that they are likely to have brought into the relationship and the ways of healing them. Imago therapy focuses on active listening and, therefore, the use of words. Success stories It has been seen that many couples have been able to rediscover the pleasure and enjoyment in their relationship by undergoing couple therapy. For instance, a couple that was experiencing frequent quarrels and poor communication said that they benefited greatly from EFT. They were able to comprehend each other’s feelings and came up with better methods of communicating their feelings. A pair of nearly divorced individuals sought help from the Gottman Method and learned how to find ways of communication and trust. Thus, they revived their love and commitment in the course of the therapy and thus were able to salvage their marriage. Conclusion It is with this context that couple therapy is very important in enhancing happiness in relationships. Thus, therapy helps couples to overcome the communication barriers, solve conflicts, enhance the emotional connection, work on personal development, and avoid future conflicts. Regardless of the extent of the problems that a couple is experiencing, or if they just want to improve the relationship, couple therapy can be very helpful. This is why it is important to invest in this therapeutic process, because you will be investing in a better and happier future for both of you. Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website for more info! Read more from Dr. Pooja Anand Sharma Dr. Pooja Anand Sharma, Healing Therapist & Life Coach Dr. Pooja, an exceptional communicator, seeks to revolutionize holistic healing by emphasizing the profound interconnectedness of the mind and body. Her philosophy rests on the belief that mental and physical health are inseparable. Any ailment affecting one inevitably reverberates through the other. With this vision, Dr. Pooja has transformed countless lives.