Written by: Ella McCrystal, Executive Contributor
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As a psychotherapist who works with a trauma-informed, transformational approach, I believe that the relationship we have with our inner child is one of the most important relationships we can cultivate in our lives.
Our inner child represents our truest and most vulnerable self, and the way we relate to this part of ourselves can have a profound impact on our well-being, happiness, and sense of fulfillment.
If you are struggling to connect with your inner child, or are unsure of how to relate to this part of yourself, there are some important statements that your inner child wants to hear from you.
These statements can help to heal past wounds, cultivate self-love and acceptance, and create a stronger and more nurturing relationship with your inner child.
Here Are Some Of The Most Important Statements Your Inner Child Wants To Hear:
"I love you." - One of the most important things your inner child wants to hear is that you love them unconditionally. Many of us grew up in environments where love was conditional or withheld, which can create deep wounds that persist into adulthood. By telling your inner child that you love them, you can begin to heal these wounds and cultivate a sense of self-love and acceptance.
"I see you." - Another important statement your inner child wants to hear is that you see them and acknowledge their presence. Many of us learned to hide our true selves in order to fit in or avoid rejection, which can create a sense of disconnection and alienation from ourselves. By acknowledging your inner child and their needs and desires, you can begin to reconnect with your true self and live more authentically.
"I hear you." - Your inner child also wants to be heard and validated. Many of us grew up in environments where our feelings and opinions were dismissed or ignored, which can create a sense of powerlessness and disempowerment. By listening to your inner child and honoring their feelings and opinions, you can create a sense of empowerment and agency in your life.
"You are safe." - Safety is a fundamental need for all humans, and your inner child is no exception. Many of us experienced trauma or neglect in childhood that created a sense of insecurity and fear. By reassuring your inner child that they are safe and protected, you can help to heal these wounds and create a sense of security and stability in your life.
"I trust you." - Your inner child also wants to feel trusted and empowered. Many of us grew up in environments where our abilities and judgment were doubted or undermined, which can create a sense of inadequacy and self-doubt. By trusting your inner child and allowing them to take risks and make mistakes, you can help to build self-confidence and resilience.
Cultivating a healthy and nurturing relationship with your inner child is an essential part of personal growth and well-being. By acknowledging and honouring the needs and desires of your inner child, and speaking to them with love, validation, and respect, you can create a stronger and more fulfilling relationship with yourself, and live a life that is grounded in authenticity, empowerment, and self-love.
How To Cultivate A Healthy And Nurturing Relationship With Your Inner Child Is An Essential Part Of Personal Growth And Well-being
Here are some steps you can take to begin this process:
Practice Self-Awareness - The first step in cultivating a healthy relationship with your inner child is to become aware of the thoughts, emotions, and patterns of behavior that may be rooted in childhood experiences. This can involve exploring your family dynamics, childhood memories, and past traumas in order to identify any unresolved wounds or unmet needs.
Acknowledge Your Inner Child - Once you have become more aware of your inner child, it is important to acknowledge and validate their presence. This involves recognising and accepting the vulnerable and sensitive parts of yourself, and allowing yourself to feel your emotions without judgment or criticism.
Speak to Your Inner Child - One of the most powerful ways to cultivate a healthy relationship with your inner child is to speak to them directly. This can involve using affirmations or mantras that speak to the needs and desires of your inner child, such as "I love you", "I see you", or "You are safe". This can help to create a sense of safety, trust, and empowerment for your inner child.
Practice Self-Care - Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually is another important way to cultivate a healthy relationship with your inner child. This can involve engaging in activities that bring you joy and pleasure, such as exercise, meditation, or creative expression. It can also involve setting healthy boundaries with others and prioritising your own needs and desires.
Seek Professional Support - For some people, healing and nurturing the relationship with their inner child may require the support of a mental health professional, such as a therapist or coach. These professionals can provide a safe and supportive space for you to explore your feelings and experiences, and can offer guidance and tools for healing and growth.
By practicing self-awareness, acknowledging and speaking to your inner child, practicing self-care, and seeking professional support when needed, you can create a stronger and more fulfilling relationship with yourself, and live a life that is grounded in authenticity, empowerment, and self-love.
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Ella McCrystal, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Ella McCrystal is a survivor of intra-familial childhood sexual abuse. She’s is also a Psychotherapist, Clinical Hypnotherapist, EMDR practitioner, Meditation Teacher, and Mindset Coach of 15 years, working with a broad range of individuals and groups. Ella also coaches leaders in the world of business, sport, and the arts to find and reach their full potential. In addition, Ella is an Author, online course creator, TEDX speaker…and she is the Owner/Director of The Northampton Clinic. The clinic (the oldest of its kind in the Country — 93 years old) is an Osteopathic and Multi Disciplinary health clinic.
