Your Feelings Are Sabotaging Your Success
- Brainz Magazine
- Sep 20, 2021
- 3 min read
Written by: Eva Medilek, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
In 1975, there was a Grammy award-winning song by Morris Albert called “Feelings”. It’s a sad song about love lost and heartbreak. The gist of the song is that he’s trying to forget his feelings of love for some girl he now wishes he never met.
Feelings can mess you up!
Notice how feelings of sadness, disappointment, and fear are stronger and last longer than feelings of happiness, joy, and excitement. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about noticing and feeling your feelings. But most of us have been conditioned as children to stuff our feelings and that’s why we struggle to express how we really feel as adults.
Learning to recognize, feel and express your feelings in an integral part of growth and personal development. You have to learn to feel and deal with your feelings in order to be successful. Your feelings are rarely aligned with what’s best for you. Here’s what I mean by that.
You feel guilty, so you say yest to something that you really don’t want to do to alleviate the guilt. You feel tired, so you skip your workout. You feel frustrated, so you take out your frustrations on those around you. You feel sad, so you eat to soothe your feelings to get that dopamine hit from the comfort and sugar. Do you feel what I’m saying?
Why do you think it’s so hard to make yourself do the things you know will change and improve your life, health, career, and relationships?
It’s because change requires you to do things that feel hard. Your feelings are getting in the way of your actions. You feel before you think and you think before you act and, as a result, you are making your decisions based on your feelings.
Change boils down to summoning the courage that you need every day, to make the decisions that improve and enhance your life. You can’t control how you feel but, you can always choose how you act.
Don’t lose the battle with your feelings. Honor your desire to change with action. Instead of asking yourself if you feel ready to take action, ask yourself “Am I ready?” If the answer is yes, don’t go it alone. Get support. Learn what habits it takes to win and take control of your actions so that you get the results you want for yourself. You are not going to win if you keep telling yourself to wait unit you feel ready.
Are you ready to make the decisions that will advance your career and improve your life, health, and relationships? You can start today.
Eva Medilek, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Eva Medilek is a Certified High-Performance Coach, International Speaker, Author and Inclusivity Coach. She has coached both men and women in the areas of personal development, leadership and mastering habits for success in their personal and professional lives.
She specializes in helping busy professionals have more money, time, and success without sacrificing health, well-being and relationships in the process.
She uses her personal experiences along with her leadership, relationship and high-performance training to teach you how to have it all without sacrificing it all.
