Brooke Kekos is a Trauma Healing Mentor, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner who empowers survivors to reclaim their lives by rewriting their stories.
Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong relationships or why you feel stuck in the same cycles, no matter how much you want to change? The answer lies in your patterns—the ingrained behaviors and responses that are deeply rooted in your past conditioning.
When you operate from your past experiences and trauma, you are not truly living in the present. Instead, you are functioning on a faulty nervous system that has become dysfunctional and dysregulated over time. This is why, despite your best intentions, you may find yourself repeatedly drawn to the same toxic dynamics or feeling trapped in a life that doesn’t align with your true desires.
Patterns, in the context of personal development and psychology, refer to the repeated behaviors, thoughts, and emotional responses that we exhibit in our lives. These patterns are like habits or routines that we follow, often without even realizing it. They are the ways we consistently react to situations, people, and challenges based on our past experiences.
Imagine a pattern as a path that you walk on repeatedly. Over time, the path becomes well-worn and familiar, so you naturally continue to follow it, even if it doesn’t always lead you to where you want to go. These patterns are formed over time, often starting in childhood, as we learn how to respond to the world around us.
For example, if someone grew up in a home where they were constantly criticized, they might develop a pattern of believing they are not good enough. As a result, they may habitually seek approval from others or avoid taking risks because they fear failure. This pattern might continue into adulthood, even if the original situation no longer exists.
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Patterns can be helpful or harmful. Some patterns, like brushing your teeth every morning, are positive and contribute to your well-being. However, other patterns, especially those formed in response to negative experiences or trauma, can keep you stuck in unhealthy behaviors or relationships.
Understanding your patterns is the first step toward changing them. By recognizing the ways you repeatedly respond to life, you can start to see which patterns are holding you back and begin the process of creating new, healthier ones.
The role of the nervous system in your patterns
Your nervous system is the command center of your body, responsible for how you respond to stress, relationships, and life’s challenges. When it has been shaped by trauma and negative experiences, it can become stuck in a state of hypervigilance, fear, or shutdown. This dysregulation means that you are constantly operating from a place of survival rather than thriving.
Because of this, your nervous system keeps you trapped in familiar patterns—even if those patterns are harmful. You may find yourself in relationships that mirror the past, seeking out the same types of people or situations that reinforce your old wounds. It’s not because you want to suffer, but because your nervous system is conditioned to repeat what it knows, even if it’s painful.
Regulate, restore, and rewrite — The path to true healing
In order to break free from these patterns and create a life where you are genuinely happy and healthy, you must focus on three key steps: regulate, restore, and rewrite.
Regulate: The first step is to regulate your nervous system. This involves calming the body’s stress responses and bringing it back into balance. Through practices like breathwork, mindfulness, and gentle movement, you can begin to soothe your nervous system and create a sense of safety in the present moment. Regulation is crucial because it helps you shift out of survival mode and into a state where true healing can occur.
Restore: Next, it’s important to restore your sense of self. Trauma and past conditioning often leave us feeling disconnected from who we truly are. By reconnecting with your authentic self, you can begin to rebuild your identity on a foundation of self-worth, empowerment, and clarity. This restoration process is about reclaiming your power and understanding that you are more than your past experiences.
Rewrite: Finally, you must rewrite the story of your life. This means letting go of the old narratives that have kept you stuck and consciously creating new ones that reflect the life you want to live. By challenging the limiting beliefs and patterns that have held you back, you open up the possibility of designing your life in the NOW—free from the chains of your past.
Designing your life in the present
When you regulate, restore, and rewrite, you free yourself from the patterns that have kept you stuck. You gain the ability to truly design your life in the present, rather than being dictated by the past. This process empowers you to attract healthy relationships, pursue your passions, and live in alignment with your true self.
Imagine waking up each day knowing that you have the power to create the life you’ve always wanted—a life where you are no longer bound by old wounds, but instead, are guided by a new sense of self that is resilient, confident, and free.
"You have the power to break free from your past and design the life you truly desire."
If you’re ready to take the next step, I invite you to explore my comprehensive program designed to guide you through the process of regulating, restoring, and rewriting your life. Together, we can work through the patterns that have kept you stuck and empower you to step into a future that reflects your authentic self.
It’s time to stop living in the shadows of your past and start creating a life where you thrive. The journey to your true self begins now.
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Brooke Kekos, RTT Therapist, Trauma Healing Mentor
Brooke Kekos is a Trauma Healing Mentor, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner who empowers survivors to reclaim their lives by rewriting their stories. Having personally overcome indoctrination, abuse, and toxic relationships, Brooke brings profound insight and unwavering dedication to her work. As a highly sought-after speaker, best-selling author, and passionate advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence, Brooke's influence extends well beyond her practice. Her mission is to empower women to connect with their most authentic self.
