Written by: Kshama Singhi, Executive Contributor
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For years, I have heard many coaches and motivational speakers talk about ‘Asking the right questions.’ I too have practiced and preached this message, advocating for question "What for?" instead of dwelling on "Why me?"
But lately, I've been thinking about another question: "What did I ask for that I am getting?"
Have you ever heard the saying, "Ask and you shall receive"?
Let me share a personal story. During a very difficult period in my marriage, I found myself at a breaking point. I felt hopeless, frustrated, angry and depressed! I went for a walk in the woods and cried out loud, saying, "I can't live like this anymore!” I felt every word that I was saying.
In the days that followed, my marriage unraveled further, unfolding in my husband leaving me for another woman. At first, I couldn't connect the dots, but later, it became clear – I had asked for a better life, and the universe responded by removing me from a toxic situation.
It didn't happen overnight, but once my husband left, things started to look up. I found myself growing as a person and as a mother. My career began to flourish, and I felt happier, more confident, and more attractive than I ever did when I was married.
Another such example is when after my divorce, I felt really bad about myself. I thought nobody would ever love me. I always felt like I was being rejected in relationships. Through journaling and soul-searching, I pleaded with the universe to help me regain my confidence and embrace my feminine power.
Over time, I began to witness a transformation. I found ways to rebuild my self-esteem, ventured back into the dating world, and weathered numerous setbacks and challenges. Then, one day, it hit me like a bolt of lightning – I had evolved from feeling rejected to embracing my inner diva, and now, I found myself setting higher standards and rejecting those who didn't meet them.
Reflecting on these and many more experiences, I realised the profound truth: sooner or later, we receive what we ask for. Whether consciously or unconsciously, our words and intentions shape our reality.
Let me tell you something important. I didn't always get what I asked for. For example, when I was crying in the woods, saying I couldn't go on like that anymore, what I really wanted was love.
When my husband left, I thought the only way to feel better was if he came back. But looking back, I realise the universe knew what I truly needed, even if I didn't. Despite all my efforts, he didn't come back into my life as my husband. And now, I'm truly thankful that he didn't!
Sometimes we think being in a relationship will make us happy, or having lots of money will solve our problems. But the truth is, the universe knows what our heart truly desires, not just what our minds think we need.
So, if you're not happy with something in your life, take a moment to think. What is it that you might have asked for, and how is the universe responding? How could this situation actually lead to something good in your life? Remember, the universe understands your intentions and acts accordingly. It gives you what you are.
In the end, it's not just about asking the right questions; it's about having the courage to accept the answers and embrace the changes they bring.
Keep asking, keep believing, and see how your desires come true right before your eyes.
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Kshama Singhi, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Kshama Singhi, a certified Empowerment Coach accredited by Jay Shetty, has been on a mission since 2020. Her passion lies in guiding women through powerful transformations. Kshama's own journey, marked by a pivotal divorce, ignited a fire within her to empower others. She firmly believes that the foundation of our lives lies in the relationship we have with ourselves. Today, fuelled by this newfound purpose, she's unwavering in her commitment to help women emerge as the architects of their own empowered destinies.
