Written by: Samantha Leske, Executive Contributor
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Oh yes, a bold statement. However, it is something I’ve witnessed time and time again over the last 13 years.
A client sitting in front of me, walking me through their story, and I can feel the victim energy weaved throughout it ( I get this, for once I too had deep lines of it)
I ask if this is an energy they can feel, and they’re always honest but sometimes begrudgingly, I can feel the shame creep in.
This is where I stop them. Victim energy is one of the dirtiest words in the spiritual community, there’s the vibration of shame that goes alongside it - why?
Because it’s viewed as an experience that is less than. You’re not evolved or doing your work if THIS is an experience you are still having, is the language all too often used.
Hmmmm I call bullshit.
It actually allows ( if you energetically agree) others witnessing it to stand as superior over you.
They know more than you
They’ve done more work than you
They’re further along on their journey
Blah, blah, blah ….
Here’s the gaslight.
You cannot have victim energy running through you unless you actually were a victim.
Making people believe they are less than for having that energy within is not only revictomising them, it’s placing a beautiful coating of shame over the top.
How is anyone meant to heal if they’re judged for being honest about what happened, and where they are?
If we are truly awakened souls, we hold space for the person and their personal journey.
We meet them where they are, free from judgment, expectation, and shame.
When a person feels truly heard, it holds space for healing and forward movement- at their pace, not yours.
Yes, victim energy can derail your life, but so can excessive lines of many other lines of energy and/ or behaviours - anger, rage, abuse, trauma, addiction, lack of responsibility, inability to feel your emotions, and so on.
If we judge people for where they are, they will never be truly honest with us, it inhibits the possibility of growing together and of us getting to see that person at their absolute best, which is always a possibility.
If we love people, and wish the best for them - loved ones and clients, we have to let go of the gaslighting.
It’s the behaviour of a healer who still has much work to do themselves.
When we know better, we do better- and it’s time we stopped assuming we know the totality of a soul's journey.
Release the arrogance
Operate from heart space
Love people where they are, create a safe space and watch them blossom.
There is no space for gaslighting in healthy spirituality.
Don’t our loved ones and clients deserve to have us as their biggest champions? To love them until they can love themselves the way they truly deserve?
Shame never needs to play a part, nor does gaslighting.
Stepping into the fifth dimension requires us to reclaim all lost parts of us, especially the ones who have been victimised - no part left behind.
Complete sovereignty is available to those willing to do their work.
Samantha Leske, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Samantha Leske is a Spiritual Healer, and the CEO of Nurture you, Heal you. She specializes in trauma/ shadow work and teaching women how to love themselves unconditionally. After working in the industry for over 12 years, she has a varied skill set that allows the healings she offers, to incorporate all levels of a souls journey from this life to past and birthing timelines. Samantha has recently become a best selling author on Amazon from her contribution to the multi-author book "Intuitive, knowing her truth" Her goals in life are to live a quiet rural life with her children and animals, while engaging in her soul led mission - to help as many people awaken and heal. Loving them while they come home to themselves and their own unconditional love and acceptance for themselves. To actively be apart of the solution.
