Written by Kim Guillory, MindBody Coach
Kim is a Certified 10X business strategist specializing in mindset and strategy , mindset, marketing, sales, and scaling strategies.
We all do it – people pleasing. Let’s unmask the intricacies of why we engage in this behavior, how it affects us, and most importantly, how to break free from its grip.
Why we people please
The allure of people pleasing often stems from a deep-seated desire for validation, love, and acceptance. I can remember exactly when it all started for me personally, and I continued people pleasing for most of my life. The roots of this behavior can be traced back to childhood experiences and the quest for recognition and affection. For many, including myself, the tendency to prioritize others' needs over our own becomes ingrained over time, fueled by societal expectations and personal insecurities.
The pitfalls of people pleasing
While the intention behind people pleasing may be well-meaning, the consequences can be detrimental to our well-being. By constantly prioritizing others' comfort and happiness at the expense of our own boundaries and authenticity, we risk losing sight of our true selves. This pattern of behavior not only fosters dishonesty and internal conflict but also perpetuates a cycle of seeking external validation to feel worthy.
The path to liberation
Breaking free from the shackles of people pleasing requires courage, introspection, and a commitment to self-respect. Recognizing the harmful nature of this behavior is the first step towards reclaiming our autonomy and establishing healthy boundaries. It entails acknowledging our fears, insecurities, and the discomfort that arises from asserting our needs.
Embracing authenticity
True empowerment lies in embracing our authenticity unapologetically. By prioritizing our own well-being, desires, and values, we pave the way for genuine connections and self-fulfillment. It's crucial to differentiate between selflessness and self-neglect, understanding that honoring our needs is not selfish but a fundamental aspect of self-care.
Healing through awareness
As we navigate the complexities of unlearning people pleasing tendencies, it's essential to cultivate self-awareness and compassion. Engaging in honest conversations, setting clear boundaries, and practicing self-validation are pivotal in the journey towards self-empowerment and emotional liberation. Through introspection and self-reflection, we can embark on a transformative path towards self-discovery and growth.
Closing thoughts
In conclusion, the process of unraveling ingrained people pleasing behaviors is a profound act of self-love and self-respect. By shedding the mask of compliance and embracing our true selves, we pave the way for authentic connections, personal growth, and emotional well-being. Remember, your worth is not determined by how much you do for others but by how authentically you show up for yourself.
I invite you to reflect on your own relationship with people pleasing and embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.
Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences on people pleasing in the comments below. Let's continue this conversation and support each other on the path to authenticity and self-empowerment.
Until next time, stay true to yourself and embrace the power of authenticity.
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Kim Guillory, MindBody Coach
Kim is a Certified 10X business strategist specializing in mindset and strategy , mindset, marketing, sales, and scaling strategies.
She is also a life coach through The Life Coach School, a health coach through the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, MindBody Master Coach Trainer, Massage Therapist and Holistic Minded Business Owner of 27 years.
She works with some of the best sales experts and mentors in the online space.
