Fabienne helps women leaders to expand their influence and impact authentically, resulting in more balance and financial success. She is the founder of TalentMakers®, the creator of Start-To-Lead®, and the author of "The She Leader”, published in 2022.
In the high-pressure environments of leadership, especially in corporate roles or as business owners, it’s easy to get caught up in the endless demands of guiding others.
Yet, there’s an essential truth many overlook: before you can effectively lead others, you must first lead yourself. This principle of self-leadership is the foundation upon which all great leadership is built. It’s about cultivating self-awareness, inner strength, and personal clarity, which ultimately enables you to lead your team or organization with authenticity and vision.
For female leaders, this journey inward is especially crucial. Navigating the complexities of leadership in a corporate or entrepreneurial environment often requires balancing multiple roles, such as executive, mentor, visionary, and sometimes caregiver. In this fast-paced world, how do you ensure that you’re not just surviving but thriving? The answer lies in self-leadership.
What is self-leadership?
Self-leadership is the ability to take ownership of your personal development and well-being. It’s about setting the direction for your life and career, aligning your actions with your values, and being intentional about your growth. When you master self-leadership, you not only make better decisions but also inspire others to follow suit. Your confidence, clarity, and authenticity become a guiding light for your team.
Why self-leadership matters
Effective leadership begins from within. As leaders, it’s easy to focus on managing others, hitting KPIs, or developing strategies to scale a business. However, if we are not centered and grounded in our own sense of purpose and direction, our teams will feel that misalignment.
As I reflected on during a recent retreat with fellow women leaders, the journey inward helps us strip away the noise and focus on what truly matters. This is the space where leadership is born.
Leadership isn’t just about managing external tasks; it’s about embodying the strength, resilience, and authenticity you want to see in others. When we lead ourselves with intention and care, we elevate not only our own lives but also the lives of those we influence.
5 proven strategies for practicing self-leadership
Here are some key strategies you can implement to nurture self-leadership and, in turn, become a more effective leader for others:
1. Create time for reflection and self-care
As leaders, we can only give what we have. If we are constantly depleted, stressed, or overwhelmed, our leadership will reflect that. Build daily rituals that ground you, whether it's meditation, journaling, or simply taking a walk to clear your mind. Prioritize time to reflect on your leadership style, what’s working, and what areas need attention. Ask yourself: Are you showing up with the energy and mindset you want your team to mirror?
Actionable tip: Block 30 minutes in your calendar each day for personal reflection and well-being. Treat it like any other non-negotiable meeting.
2. Align your actions with your values
Leaders who lead themselves well are clear on their values and ensure their actions are aligned with them. This clarity not only strengthens your resolve but also provides a solid foundation for decision-making. When you act in accordance with your core values, you lead with integrity, and this consistency builds trust with your team.
Actionable tip: Write down your top three core values and assess how your daily actions reflect those values. Make adjustments where there’s misalignment.
Related article: Welcome to Your Self-Discovery Journey
3. Embrace continuous learning
Self-leadership is an ongoing process of learning and growth. Challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone, whether it’s through reading, mentorship, or attending workshops. Personal and professional development are interconnected, and when you invest in yourself, you expand your capacity to lead.
Actionable tip: Choose one book, course, or podcast per month that challenges you to think differently. Schedule time each week to actively engage with the content and reflect on how it applies to your leadership journey.
4. Set clear boundaries
One of the biggest challenges female leaders face is the pressure to be everything to everyone, whether at work or at home. This can lead to burnout if boundaries are not clearly set. Leading yourself effectively means being firm in protecting your time and energy, ensuring that you are fully present in the moments that matter most.
Actionable tip: Set clear boundaries around work hours and personal time. Communicate these boundaries with your team and loved ones so they understand when you are available and when you need to recharge.
5. Cultivate emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is a cornerstone of self-leadership. It involves recognizing your emotions, understanding how they impact your thoughts and actions, and managing them in a way that enhances your leadership effectiveness. Leaders with high EQ can empathize with their team, build stronger relationships, and navigate challenges with grace.
Actionable tip: Practice mindfulness or breathing exercises to help you become more aware of your emotions in the moment. When you feel triggered or overwhelmed, take a pause before reacting to assess how your response aligns with your leadership goals.
Self-leadership: The ripple effect
When you lead yourself well, the ripple effect is undeniable. You move from managing to inspiring, from striving to thriving. Your presence, focus, and energy will elevate not only your own experience but also that of your team. As female leaders, embracing self-leadership is not just about personal growth. It’s about recognizing that by nurturing ourselves, we expand our capacity to nurture others.
Don’t wait for external validation or permission to step into your full power. The greatest impact you can make begins from within. As you nurture your own well-being, emotional resilience, and mental clarity, you’ll find that leading others becomes a natural extension of who you are.
Related article: Why Leadership is an Inside-Out Job
Final thought
Take a moment to ask yourself: What’s one thing I can do today to lead myself better? Whether it’s making time for reflection, aligning with your core values, or setting boundaries, start with a small step.
The journey to self-leadership is ongoing, but it’s also transformative. By leading yourself with intention, you’ll be better equipped to lead others toward greater success and fulfillment.
The world needs more women who are bold enough to grow from within and who inspire others to do the same.
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Fabienne Renders, Women’s Leadership Mentor | L&D Expert
Fabienne is the leadership mentor to female leaders who want to improve their careers and life. She is passionate about helping them expand their influence and impact while enjoying being true to themselves.
She is the founder of TalentMakers® and the creator of Start-To-Lead®. She has been in the corporate world for over 30 years and has helped thousands of employees of renowned companies learn and develop.
Her mission: Better Leadership for a Better World.
