Written by: Kshama Singhi, Executive Contributor
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Life used to be a whirlwind, and honestly, I didn't give much thought to taking care of myself. It felt a bit... well, selfish, you know? Juggling the mom and partner roles, I somehow lost sight of, well, me.
Then, bam! Divorce hit, and I found myself on this crazy journey of self-discovery. And guess what? It was a game-changer!
Before I dive into my insights, let me highlight something crucial: it's called "Self-care" for a reason. The emphasis is on 'Self'. This means you hold the reins to your own life and happiness. No one else should bear that responsibility.
Here’s the lowdown
1. Self-care: Not selfish, but essential
You can't give that which you don’t have. If you neglect self-care and self-love, your own cup stays empty, and trying to pour from an empty cup is futile. When you prioritise self-care, you're revitalising yourself, enabling you to present the best version of yourself to your family and friends. This sets off a positive chain reaction. For example, investing time in activities like exercise and mindfulness not only refreshes your soul but also amplifies your vitality and attentiveness for your loved ones.
2. Release the burden and builds authentic connections
When we neglect to love and care for ourselves, we often seek this from others. This expectation can lead to dependency and place a weight on our loved ones. Even with the best intentions, they may struggle to consistently meet these demands. However, when we invest in our own well-being, we relieve this burden from our loved ones' shoulders. Prioritising our needs allows us to show up authentically in relationships, nurturing a deeper sense of trust and mutual understanding.
3. Teaching other show you wanted to be treated
This was a biggie You're the beacon of how you should be treated. In the midst of my divorce, I had an epiphany—I hadn't been respecting myself. How could I expect my ex or his family to respect me?
When you don't prioritise self-care, others might not recognise your need for care either. Engaging in self-care speaks volumes about your self-worth, setting the stage for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
And remember, saying "no" when necessary not only preserves your energy but also communicates that you honour and value yourself. It's time to teach others how to treat you.
4. Ripple effect
Ever notice how your joy spreads positivity to the world around you? Conversely, when you're down, the energy feels heavy.
Prioritising your well-being generates a natural positivity that lifts others up, creating an ongoing cycle of good vibes. Your happiness becomes a catalyst for positive change, inspiring those around you to pursue their own path to fulfilment. Embracing self-love and acceptance makes you a guiding light of authenticity, motivating others to do the same.
Putting myself first wasn't just a choice; it was a lifeline that flipped my world. And you better believe this journey can be yours too! So, ready to rock the best version of yourself? Let's do this!
Kshama Singhi, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Kshama Singhi, a certified Empowerment Coach accredited by Jay Shetty, has been on a mission since 2020. Her passion lies in guiding women through powerful transformations. Kshama's own journey, marked by a pivotal divorce, ignited a fire within her to empower others. She firmly believes that the foundation of our lives lies in the relationship we have with ourselves. Today, fuelled by this newfound purpose, she's unwavering in her commitment to help women emerge as the architects of their own empowered destinies.
