Erik Dmitriy Palatnik is a renowned psychotherapeutic coach and hypnotherapist specialising in inner child work. He helps individuals overcome challenges like low self-esteem, social anxiety and self-sabotage by addressing childhood traumas and shifting their mindset towards a fulfilling future.
Many people find themselves stuck in repetitive and unhealthy relationship patterns, often without understanding the root cause. Hypnotherapy can be a powerful tool for transforming these patterns, but it can also come with unexpected side effects. One such story is that of a client who came to me for hypnotherapy, struggling with sustaining meaningful relationships with men. Through our work, she uncovered deep-seated beliefs from her childhood that were impacting her adult relationships. This transformation led to significant changes, including challenges and adjustments in her existing relationships.
Undeserving of love
In relationships, many people find themselves trapped in recurring patterns, unable to break free despite their best efforts. One such story is that of a client who came to me for hypnotherapy, struggling with sustaining meaningful relationships with men. This client, a mother of three, found herself repeatedly involved with partners who saw her merely as a fleeting companion, never introducing her to their friends or families. She felt undeserving of love and a long-term relationship, a belief deeply ingrained in her psyche.
During our Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) session, we delved into the root cause of her issues. It became apparent that her struggles stemmed from her childhood. As a little girl, her father left the family, and she found herself constantly striving for his love and approval. She believed she had to earn his love, a notion reinforced by her father’s inconsistent provision of financial support only after much begging.
This formed a deeply rooted belief in her mind: to be loved by a man, she had to please him constantly, a behavior that translated into her adult relationships. Through RTT, we worked to change this narrative, helping her understand her intrinsic worth and dismantle the belief that love had to be earned through people-pleasing.
A new challenge after a shift in self-perception
Post-session, she experienced a significant shift. She no longer felt the need to please others to gain their love. However, this transformation brought about unexpected challenges. She found herself at odds with friends and family who were accustomed to her old patterns of behavior. They struggled to understand her newfound assertiveness and self-worth.
I explained to her that it is completely natural for her relationships to become difficult after such a profound change. Her friends and family were used to her being a people pleaser, and now that she was no longer behaving that way, the balance in those relationships was disrupted. They didn't know how to react to the new her, which led to tension and misunderstandings. So, yes, her relationships got worse, but in a good way.
The importance of boundaries in new dynamics
I advised her that she now needs to learn not only to set her new boundaries but also to keep them. It is okay if some people do not adjust to her new way of being; some relationships might naturally fall away if they are no longer serving her. Those relationships she wishes to keep will have to change and evolve. This process, while challenging, is a positive step towards healthier interactions. She can further explore and solidify these new patterns through ongoing coaching with me.
Commitment for lasting transformation
Her story is a testament to the power of hypnotherapy in uncovering and addressing the deep-seated beliefs that shape our lives. It illustrates how, by understanding and altering these beliefs, we can break free from destructive patterns and pave the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. However, it is important to be prepared for the potential unexpected consequences that come with such profound changes. Embracing these “side effects” and remaining committed to working through them is crucial for achieving lasting transformation.
If you find yourself resonating with her journey and are curious about how hypnotherapy can help you transform your own relationship patterns, consider exploring this path. Every step toward understanding and healing is a step toward a more empowered and connected self.
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Erik Dmitriy Palatnik, Psycho therapeutic Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist
Erik Dmitriy Palatnik is a renowned psycho therapeutic coach and hypnotherapist specializing in inner child work. He helps individuals overcome challenges like low self-esteem, social anxiety and self-sabotage by addressing childhood traumas and shifting their mindset towards a fulfilling future. Erik's own journey intertwines gender and identity reformation, which gives him a deep understanding and empathy and helps him to create a safe space for personal growth. His mission to help individuals realize their inner potential resonates in a world seeking authentic connection and self-expression. With fluency in English, German, and Russian, he effortlessly connects with individuals from diverse backgrounds.
