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It is a type of anxiety where one gets a panic of being left alone or rejected by the people they love. This anxiety can, therefore, affect relationships in various ways and lead to behaviours, thoughts, and feelings that can strain the relationship and limit one’s potential. Identifying the causes of abandonment anxiety, the symptoms, and how to manage it may help in the development of healthier relationships and self-care.
What is abandonment anxiety?
This kind of anxiety is often referred to as the fear of being alone or the fear of abandonment. This anxiety is rooted in previous experiences of loss or rejection, for instance, childhood trauma, neglect, or sudden loss of a dear one. People with abandonment anxiety are always concerned with their partners’ decision to leave them, which makes them clingy or dependent, and this may push away the partner.
Causes of abandonment anxiety
1. Childhood experiences
The following are some of the causes of fear of abandonment, which include Neglect, abuse, or lack of parental care in childhood. Those children who are not given the necessary emotional care tend to become anxious when they are alone.
2. Traumatic events
There are cases where a person may experience a traumatic event, such as the loss of a loved one or a breakup, and this leads to abandonment anxiety. Such incidences can be very painful and can have a long-lasting effect on people and make them fear going through such pain again.
3. Attachment styles
According to the attachment theory, our relationship with our caregivers in childhood determines the kind of attachment style that we have. Those with an anxious attachment style are likely to experience abandonment anxiety, and will always need to ensure that they are not left alone.
4. Low self-esteem
Low self-esteem makes people think that nobody will accept them and they do not deserve love and people will abandon them one day. This belief may lead to the abandonment anxiety and, therefore, people cannot develop secure attachments.
Symptoms of abandonment anxiety
Therefore, the feeling of anxiety in relation to abandonment can be expressed in various ways and impact emotional and physical states. Common symptoms include:
Constant worry: The excessive fear of a partner leaving or the partner’s infidelity without any reason or proof.
Clinginess: This includes dependence on a partner for constant affirmation and reassurance.
Jealousy and insecurity: Envy and anxiety are quite often associated with the fear of losing one’s partner.
Overthinking: In this case, there is too much thinking and trying to find hidden meaning in a partner’s behaviors or words, signs of abandonment.
Emotional outbursts: The subject has tendencies to have mood swings and outbursts of anger due to the fear of being alone.
Self-sabotage: Bullying the partner or acting in ways that may make the partner want to stay away such as being hostile or argumentative.
Coping with abandonment anxiety
Therapy: CBT or psychotherapy are examples of professional therapy that can assist a person to overcome the causes of anxiety and learn how to manage it.
Mindfulness and meditation: Mindfulness and meditation are helpful to calm down the mind and prevent oneself from thinking about the future too much.
Open communication: This paper has concluded that honesty and openness are some of the best ways to address the fears that people have and build trust with a partner. Expressing and talking about fears and limits can help make the relationship even safer.
Self-care: Hobbies, exercising, and spending time with friends are some of the activities that help in boosting self-esteem and make one not to rely on a partner for emotional support.
Building trust: This way, as the relationship progresses and the partner continues to act in a way that indicates they are not going to abandon the other, the level of abandonment anxiety can be reduced.
Support groups: Support groups and friends and family members can help one feel that they are not alone and can help in dealing with anxiety.
Conclusion
Abandonment anxiety is a rather intricate and difficult problem which may have a strong effect on relationships. Thus, knowing the causes and signs of anxiety, people can work to prevent it and improve their relationships. It is, therefore, possible to work through the issue of abandonment anxiety and be able to have healthy and stable relationships.
At Vishwas Healing Centre, we provide expert counselling and assistance to enable people to overcome the problems they face in their day to day life and to improve on the relationship they have with other people. If you or a close person is suffering from abandonment anxiety, contact us for help and support.
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