Written by: Monica Yates
One of the common reasons that relationships suffer is a lack of polarity. I’m going to make an assumption for the sake of simplicity, that you’re the feminine in the relationship. Deep down, you love to let go and know that your partner is in control, you enjoy being looked after and just being able to relax and surrender after a big day. You love when your partner makes date plans and tells you what time to be ready and so forth. You just love when everything is easy and flowing.
Ugh, yes I feel you.
So, you have a feminine core.
You’re a girl-boss, aren’t you? (Disclaimer: I don’t support this terminology, but it gets the message across, so bear with me.)
This is where the problem can start.
You’re killing it at work all day, however, you don’t have a routine that allows you to separate work from home, so you bring that masculine energy into your home life causing you to never get out of your masculine. Your nervous system is hanging on by a thread because you are stressed consciously (or subconsciously) and your hormones are going haywire. The balance between home and work needs recalibration.
Does this sound familiar?
As a result, you feel like you and your partner butt heads and you’re often a bit bitter toward them. This is the classic case of you not knowing how to get back into your feminine after a work day.
Here are my top 5 reasons why you should get into your feminine after a workday:
So your nervous system is more relaxed and in balance so your body and hormones are happier
You are more likely to feel sensual and turned on around your partner because they can take the lead as the masculine and you’re not butting heads
You feel like you can ‘reset’ each day and you’re not running on empty
Your soul, body, and spirit feel nourished so that you are no longer needing constant hits of adrenaline that make you feel good, but rather you get emotional nourishment from yourself.
You are in a state of receivership and can embrace emotional nourishment from your partner.
This practice of getting into your feminine doesn’t need to be long or lengthy. I’m not suggesting you add another thing to your to-do list. It can be short and sweet as long as the intention is there!
Do a ritual that feels the most nourishing and sensual for you. To inspire you, here are my favorite rituals that I’ve gathered from myself and my clients:
Putting music on the way home from work
Choose music instead of a podcast at the end of the day (stop overloading your brain with more information)
Lie on your bed or sofa and stare at the ceiling for 5 minutes
Make a cup of tea and just stare out of the window
Put on some music and dance around the house
Have a bath or a shower and let the water wash away the energy from the day ● Change your outfit to change your vibe!
Meditate to bring your energy back home to you
Do some journaling to release negative thoughts/vibes from the day
Slowly light some candles around the house to set the mood
It’s also important, that you tune into what feels good for you that day. Some days you may want a bath, other days you may want to dance around the house naked. Part of being embodied in your femininity is allowing your practices and rituals to change every day based on your mood, where you are in your cycle, and the environment around you. Honor this as this is what will allow this routine to become sustainable.
The masculine loves doing the same thing day in and day out...however that doesn’t stick three months down the road for women. We get bored and resentful of the routine as we need to change and flow each day. It’s part of the beauty of being in your feminine flow.
By shifting your energy, you will notice that you can leave more of that masculine working energy away from your relationship. It will mean that you are more present with yourself and your lover when you come home and it will improve your health, well-being, and overall happiness.
Honestly, nothing feels better than shedding the masculine and coming home to your feminine core. It’s grounding, and nourishing- you’ll be more in your magic.
Written by: Monica Yates
Monica Yates is a somatic trauma healer, feminine & masculine embodiment coach, period whisperer and podcast host. After struggling with her own health issues, multiple traumatic surgeries and a terrible relationship with men, she finally had to face the issues that she was blissfully unaware of. Her modalities that now help thousands of women and men around the world be free of their big and small trauma. She works with people from all walks of life that are determined to no longer be held back by beliefs, bad habits, health issues, inner child wounds, anxiety, fears etc. She is the CEO of Monica Yates Health and the host of the podcast, Feminine as F*ck.
