Written by: Astrid Niels, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Relationally successful men and women honour traditional gender roles in their relationships.
Specifically, men stand in their masculine energy and women practise their feminine power.
A masculine man shows the following traits and is:
clear about which direction he wants to take, communicates clearly;
respectful;
consistent;
grounded;
puts bread on the table (provider; also applies to energy, time, love, etc.) and protects (protector);
In addition:
he takes charge;
he has healthy boundaries.
A feminine woman shows the following traits and is:
soft and caring;
sensual and playful;
respectful;
grateful and supportive ;
‘submissive’ (surrendered);
radiant;
clear in her communication.
Relationships today are very challenging because of an imbalance in the male-female polarity mentioned above.
This polarity is a law of nature and is necessary to ensure both parties feel good in the relationship and as a result, together, can reach unseen heights.
Just as plus and minus generate electricity, the same happens in relationships. Without this polarity, both parties (unconsciously) do not feel great; it will take enormous effort to sustain a long-term and loving relationship. This often manifests itself in many (intense) arguments or silence. Both parties detract from what could potentially be.
If you are single, it is important to position yourself in the market from healthy polarity. If you are in a relationship, it is important to ask yourself where you are in this polarity. Once you have the answer to that, lovingly redirect it to a more balanced and healthier male-female dynamic.
However, there is a catch. This is a very fragile process, both for women and men. As soon as you choose a healthy relationship polarity, you run into yourself. In addition, you may sometimes experience a lot of resistance from your partner.
The importance and added value of this man-woman polarity are often unknown and can initially come across as offensive. The other party may think they are not good enough the way they are and/or that they need to change to conform.
This is not the case. It is all about bringing out and highlighting your naturally innate and present masculinity and femininity.
As a result, as a single, you attract your opposite polarity because of this. That is, a masculine male or a feminine female.
As a couple, you explore a layer deeper and experience more love in your relationship.
Finally, this process requires patience and time. Don’t be too hard on yourself. This goes through trial and error. The key to success is to make it a conscious process.
Astrid Niels, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Astrid is a certified coach (PCC level) according to the International Coaching Federation (ICF).
Before entering the private industry, she worked as a coach for multinationals Johnson & Johnson and Danone, entrepreneurs (co-founders) and companies with different family generations (grandfather-grandson). She was and is the glue between both parties time and time again. In 2022, she completely changed track, left the corporate world behind to teach coachees how to experience more love for themselves, together and with others. Astrid works with a three- or five-month programme. You can contact her at astrid@happythinking.me, LinkedIn/Instagram or via her website www.happythinking.me. She is more than happy to talk to you.
