Written by Nathan Francis, Youth Self–Sabotage Coach
Nathan Francis is a 30 Year old former school teacher from Australia. Nathan is a podcast host and youth self-sabotage coach/mentor who freely admits that his mission is to lift the self-esteem and health of our youth.
Amongst our modern society, it is quite evident to those with the eye to see that our males are weak. Very few men are physically strong, healthy, tapped into their divine masculinity, and leading our society as moral and ethical human beings. We just aren’t seeing it amongst the general public.
Furthermore, the weakening of the male has been slow. Why? Because if it happened too fast, more people would notice and take action. Our boys are too busy, too busy down at the local pub drinking beers, gambling, watching sports, watching TV, smoking or vaping, sitting on the couch with their hands down their pants. Boys are not born this way, and I’ll tell you why. Boys have been conditioned over time to live like a forever child and to not take the rite of passage from child to fully functional, mature adult. I have spoken and written at length about how all of this has been orchestrated through TV, radio, and movies.
We have males growing up in a porn, hook-up, and sexualized culture where they only want one thing from women, sex. It’s horrific, and it's everywhere, thanks to porn, OnlyFans, TV, music, and movies. You can read and listen to more about this by clicking here.
On the flip side, a strong, healthy, masculine male does not behave this way. He respects himself and respects women for the birthers of life that they are. He does not sexualize them.
Our young males are conditioned to drink beer, sleep around, gamble, party, watch sports, watch porn, laze around, have no long-term vision for the future, chase instant gratification and dopamine, chuckle, and throw up in the bushes. Movies such as Step Brothers condition males to remain in a state of perpetual childhood. Watch any Adam Sandler, Jim Carrey, or Will Ferrell movie, and you’ll see the same conditioning and programming. TV shows such as The Simpsons and Family Guy, what’s the theme here? Overweight, lazy, beer-guzzling, forever-child characters like Homer Simpson and Peter Griffin.
Are you seeing what’s going on here? Are you sure?
However, there is another layer to this conditioning that I would like to bring to your attention, the school system.
The school system conditions boys to follow orders, comply, and be a good little student. The child then grows up to act out this conditioning, working for someone else, taking orders, and being a good employee. The more you conform to this conditioning, the more rewards you gain from the system. In school, it was a sticker, a “treat,” extra free time, etc. That boy grows up and gets a promotion, a pay raise, employee of the month, etc.
That boy cannot decipher what is right and wrong, whether the order is just, what is moral and ethical, and when to step in or stand up. The male role is to step in and stand up. Not many males are doing so. Why? Because this system has conditioned them this way. No one is born this way.
Solutions for male
Remember, first and foremost, you were not born this way. Progression, not perfection.
Begin the journey physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, and spiritually. Get up off the couch and move your body. Our bodies are not designed to sit around all day. Drink more water. Eat organic, nutrient-dense whole foods.
Start the journey within. Rediscover your purpose and why you are here. Start a side hustle. Invest some money in gold and silver. Connect with yourself and understand why you have been doing the things you have been doing.
Start leading by example for our children and future generations. Our children mirror, mimic, and copy everything we do. If you are a forever-child, beer-guzzling, lazy, smoking, gambling disaster, then our children will follow suit.
This starts and ends with us and our habits. Let’s begin to take better care of ourselves as males and as the leaders of society.
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Nathan Francis, Youth Self–Sabotage Coach
Nathan Francis is a leader in the Youth Coaching space. Drawing from 10+ years experience inside the mainstream system, it became quite evident to him that the system is failing our youth. Nathan has dedicated his life to helping our youth unleash their innate human potential. He is the founder of teenageselfsabotag.com where he offers 1:1 and group coaching programs. Author of Breaking Free: A Teens & Young Adults guide to identifying their addictions and overcoming them. He is also the host of the breaking free podcast.
