Written by: Jeanne Agius, Executive Contributor
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Have you been thinking of ways to grow your confidence? Maybe with the changes this past year, you've been thinking of starting an online business or leading virtual summits or even simply turning on the camera during a zoom call, but you don't feel confident. The truth is confidence is a feeling or an emotion that helps you take challenges head-on, gain credibility from others, and then continue building momentum, but what is the source of that confidence? How do other successful people seem fundamentally more confident than you?
The answer is absolute confidence comes from taking action and constantly challenging yourself. If you want to build your self-confidence, you have to do something to get you real results. When you do anything, you lay the foundation for increasing levels of self-confidence and maintaining it by constantly challenging yourself. For example, tackling new issues, going beyond what you already know, asking for more assignments, reading the employee manual to figure out the nitty-gritty of whatever it is you're doing, etc.
Let's break it down even more:
When you decide to do something and try to get good at it, you start picking out the patterns. You start figuring everything out by breaking things and processes into parts. You start seeing the relationship of these parts, and you're able to connect the dots. Sooner or later, you can know the process like the back of your hand. Now, here's the thing. Most people don't do things that way. Most people would instead take things on a superficial level and call it a day. So by constantly challenging yourself, you're getting in front of the issue.
You can do things more effectively and efficiently. Most importantly, you can optimize your skills every day at your job, school, or anywhere else; you increase the value you get from your daily interactions. You stand out from the crowd. It becomes evident to anyone looking at you or looking at your co-workers that you are not just going through the motions. You are doing things to take things to the next level. You go beyond the call of duty.
You're constantly challenging yourself, and this creates a competence that produces results. The more visible these results are, the more likely you'll get rewarded with a raise or a promotion. It is precisely those results that enable you to become a more confident person.
You have a higher estimation of your ability to get things done. You don't let the small stuff or challenges get you down. You have a completely different emotional perspective about the things you choose to do. The more you do this, the more you realize that instead of constantly crying and whining, moaning, and asking, "What happened?" you become the person who makes things happen.
You become the person who takes personal ownership and responsibility for what's happening in your life, enabling you to develop direction and feel like every day you spend alive is purposeful. Do you see how this works?
One of the most powerful revelations you could ever realize is that every challenge is doable if you break it down in action bites. Every challenge has many different moving parts. If you pick these apart, and you attack one piece at a time in many different sequences, the chances are you will achieve a breakthrough.
If you had wished you were more self-confident like those successful people you heard about, you now know that they have developed it along the way by taking messy action and constantly challenging themselves, which means you can too!
Jeanne Agius, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Jeanne Agius is a former Corporate Escapee turned founder of Self-Care Journey Coaching, every woman's Self-Care Coach, Healthy Lifestyle Expert, certified holistic wellness, life and success coach, NLP, EFT, hypnotherapy and Time Practitioner, International Speaker, along with a wife and mom of 2 rambunctious toddlers.
She has also been featured in publications such as Yahoo Finance as one of the Top 20 Female Entrepreneurs, Top 20 Female Entrepreneurs to look out for in Benzinga, Authority, Medium, and Brainz.
Prior to becoming an entrepreneur, she spent 15+ years in the Corporate world, leading various projects in Marketing, Communications, and Risk Management and the health and wellness space as young as 16 years old.
Since becoming a mom of two, she has been a frequent speaker worldwide on guiding women, especially moms, to prioritize themselves and their whole health without feeling guilty, despite the many hats they wear. She has been fortunate to help hundreds of women worldwide elevate their lifestyles and optimize their whole-body wellness by using self-care as their superpower to thrive. She is on a mission to help thousands more build strong bodies, confident minds, and healthy lifestyles they're obsessed with through her signature Self-Care System.
Her upcoming book will help redefine self-care for today's woman because she whole-heartedly believes tending to your basic needs is not self-care, but true self-care is essential to living a life you love.