Written by: Joanne Hughes, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Life is very fleeting, the moments come and go, and once they are gone there is no getting them back. They are gone and will forever be lost to us. We live in a world of vanity and fear almost on a daily basis. For some, they suffer in silence because they look at the world around them and they constantly feel out of place, constantly feel judged and like they don’t belong. They see others and their beauty and perfection and they feel like they were kicked out of the game of life before it began. They struggle to get out of bed every day just to make it into a job, it’s painful, like literally painful, their skin literally hurts just to get out of bed. When they get to work they feel like they don’t do anything right and there is just nothing that sparks a light within them. To them, there is no point to life and no point to living. The only enjoyment they get is to think about ways to end it.
Okay, stay with me here, as I know that got pretty dark for a moment. The words flowed out of me like most “channelled” information does. I wasn’t meaning to go that dark but there is the perfection of imperfection right there! The flow took me in a totally different direction than I had planned, but if we leave it there, someone, obviously someone out there needs to read this. So let’s continue.
For others, they feel like they can never do anything right. Whether at home or work, things just never seem to work out. When they get to work, they may love their job, but never do they seem to get any recognition for the wonderful work that they do. So, they stay small, unrecognized, unheard and undervalued. I find myself deleting or stopping a vlog because I am not ready, my hair is not perfect, my makeup isn’t done, etc, etc. If we stop and think about that, it is a wonderful thing! How? It’s a refection! It’s a nudge, a push. For me it was this morning because it pushed me to just do it because if I hadn’t recorded then it would not have happened and I would have lost that moment of being in a beautiful setting and having that moment, that thought at exactly that moment recorded. The imperfection of timing this morning made me jump to either losing the last moment that I had to record a video before having to leave and get packed up, or recording it and having faith that what I put out would be perfect, right timing and right content. It also helped me to see all the moments that I lost in the past by thinking that it was to imperfect.
We are human, and that makes us flawed and imperfect. The one thing that is certain in life is that we can get up every morning and feel that unhappiness, that pain and fear or we can make a choice and try to turn that around because the fact is, is that you don’t have to feel so lost, so alone, so unhappy. You can change the way you perceive the world within you and all around you, and from this moment on, you can be aware that the darkness you feel you exist in, doesn’t have to be so dark. The choice though is totally yours. Life is a wonderful thing and you are an amazing being if you can see that the perspective on life around you is only a reflection of your inner world and the assumptions that you make about yourself and the world around you. In fact, when you feel that pain and feel that fear, that is a huge indicator that your soul does not feel in alignment with the thoughts and perceptions that you have held as truth.
We only get so much time on this wonderful planet and you have one life to live, don’t spend it in darkness and feeling like there is nothing out there for you. You were not put here in this life to walk in such darkness. There is light in this lifetime, and there is a bright light within you. When you feel like there is no worth in yourself, in the situation and that pain of not being good enough comes through, stop, right there in that moment and change your thoughts to “No, I don’t believe that statement, I don’t accept the perception of my boss about me, (or whatever the thought is in that moment, ) I am a light being and I kick ass! So, I refuse to feel this way! “ Then hold your head up high and do the best you can in that moment and screw what everyone else is thinking!
The truth is, you do matter! You matter to the person who brought you into the world and you do matter to the employer you work for, because if there was no you then they would not have your skillset to help them get ahead or do the job that you are doing. You do matter to someone on this earth and you are worthy just as much as anyone else is, to live a wonderful life, to make a living, to have happiness and joy and to be loved and love. If you can’t see it yet, and have trouble getting to that mindset, you can contact me. I can reflect to you, your perfection, your beauty and your value. Keep going, even if it’s just to irritate everybody by the very fact that you are not going away any time soon!
I’m Joanne Hughes, I’m a Men’s Breakthrough Coach, I’m here for you whether you are male or female or other. You matter, you have worth and I love you. Let’s rock this next year!
Joanne Hughes, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Joanne Hughes has over 20 years of experience in strategic intervention, divorce prevention, relationship coaching, and trauma work. As a best-selling author, R.C.M.P Victim Services Advocate, and trauma survivor, she has firmly positioned herself in the field of grief and trauma counseling. Joanne currently focuses on Men’s breakthrough coaching. She has made it her mission to help men work through their particular set of challenges and to help them ‘find their way home’ by reconnecting to their power, their mission, and positive spiritual side in order to create more room for compassion towards themselves and the people in their lives.
