Written by: Kim Wagner, Executive Contributor
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It seems to me that the more technology improves, the more we either feel the need to do each day or are expected to. The question might be what came first. Is it societal expectation or is it something that we’ve put on ourselves?
Personally, I achieve more in one day now than I could ever have achieved even 5 years ago. In fact, I was speaking to a colleague who started in the banking industry at the same time as I did, decades ago. When we spoke about the daily expectations in our job, they almost seemed comical. I mean, is that all we did in our job for a day? Really? Wow, that wasn’t much. However, at the time it did indeed take the entire day to do.
So as technology has sped up, so have we.
One of the issues is that we are basically still primal beings on a cellular level. Humans (or any other living being) certainly cannot evolve as quickly as technology is. This is where a lot of our issues stem from. Things and people are becoming obsolete every day. We either need to speed up or we miss out or even worse, are repealed by someone who is able to move quicker, or our role is simply no longer required.
Again, we are primal beings so this in itself causes huge amounts of stress. If we cannot complete our roles (be it in our employment or any other area of life) then we are:
not good enough
a failure
not worthy
And when this is running through our conscious minds, eventually it will imprint our subconscious mind and become our 24/7 background soundtrack. This is where the damage can really occur. Once we believe anything negative on a subconscious level it is very difficult to recognize the pattern on a conscious level, and even more tricky to rectify it.
I tend to be a person who can speed up as necessary. In fact, I can literally feel myself revving up, almost like a V8 motor. My brain becomes more alert, I can feel an adrenaline surge and I’m off. I first noticed it when entering the corporate world in my late teens. By the time I was in my mid-twenties, it was a regular occurrence. The issue back then was when the surge was over, or I’d completed the requirements that I fell into a slump. My energy ran out, the adrenaline stopped pumping and I was absolutely exhausted. A naturopath once told me that if I didn’t slow down internally (mind and body) then by the time I was thirty those end-of-day clumps would be my everyday life and it would be difficult to recover. I had no idea it was causing so much damage!
Whilst I did try and change my ways, it took a long time. In fact, it took my parents both dying of cancer 15 months apart for me to slow the hell down. If anything will make us relook at our lives, losing both parents to cancer at pretty much the same time will do it.
Being busy equates to the human body and brain as being stressed consistently is not normal. Yes, we did have moments of life-threatening stress thousands of yeast ago when we were literally fighting or running for our lives. But those times are long gone. In modern times, our stress is more likely due to a deadline at work, trying to get the kids to the bus, or having a to-do list/schedule so full that you almost have to run the entire day. On a cellular level, the human body cannot distinguish the cause of any stress response.
Given societal expectations in this day and age, it takes real commitment to change this. It’s almost like swimming against the current. However, I’m here to tell you that it is possible. Even with a massive workload, or if you’re like me and want to do it all there is a way to do this and also remain calm, healthy, and happy.
Technology and its fast expansion itself is not the issue. We can use it to our advantage as long as we are mindful and conscious of how we proceed. I am proof that it can be done.
Transitioning from a corporate banking role into the healing world sure has been interesting. On top of working full time, I started my business before and after my work day. The beauty of technology is that I work with clients from all over the globe with different time zones which gives my business more freedom to expand.
Regardless of whether you have one job, are building your own business, or are a stay-at-home parent, everything in this article applies to you. We are all caught up in the vortex of change and have to keep up and also do more in every single waking hour of our day.
The key to going faster and achieving more is to slow down. Bear with me here!
Whilst it took me quite a few years to find my groove and really get this myself, now that I have there is no turning back. By now we are all aware that our minds are the most powerful things on the planet, in fact in the universe. We create what we think about. Period.
So it makes sense that if we keep on thinking in a toxic, busy, overwhelmed way, that will be our reality. I’m sure we’ve all thought things such as:
I’m so busy
I will never get this done
OMG I’m stressed
There is no way I’ll meet that deadline
My to-do list is never-ending
When we are constantly thinking this way, it will continue to happen. Sometimes one area of our life is so intense that it can creep over into other areas. For example, if you have a major deadline in your job, you can find yourself thinking about it when you’re falling asleep or spending time with the family.
I’d love to share a few things that have helped me. My world is one of squeezing a lot in every day in order to scale my business globally. Whilst it certainly is happening as I had dreamt, sometimes the workload seems unachievable. After many years of struggle, I seem to have found a system that works for me.
PSYCH-K® changed my life. By replacing limiting and negative belief systems, I was then able to create the subconscious beliefs that benefited me. I’m now a PSYCH-K® practitioner and work with clients around the globe to help in this area this is absolutely one way that technology is beneficial.
Simplify! I cannot stress this enough. Simplify every area of your life. Friends, possessions, expectations, processes.
Stay in your own lane. Keep away from drama. I have a radar that is on high alert and am absolutely adverse to any kind of drama. There simply isn’t time to spend in that domain nor do I want to!
Say no. When my mother was dying, I made a decision. I will no longer associate with people who don’t make me feel good and I will no longer do things that I don’t want to. Life is way too short to waste on things that just bring me down. It's something that I’ve stuck to for 18 years and it serves me well.
Be brutal in everything you do. As you are undertaking any task in your life, ask yourself a few questions:
Is this necessary
Do I have to do it
What can be done instead
Often we spend so much time on things that have no bearing or no importance in our lives. Ditch these things and move on.
Slow your mind. Yep, slow it right down. Even on your busiest of days, calm your farm. Hang the washing out one peg at a time. Put your groceries away one thing at a time. And while you are doing it, say quietly in your mind ‘I have all the time in the world’. I promise if you do that consistently your mind will slow down and you will be calm!
Learn to breathe correctly. Most of us shallow breathe particularly when under pressure. Take a minute now to practice it. Sitting down, close your eyes, and breathe slowly and deeply right down to your tummy. Hold that breath in and then slowly release. If you do this a few times it will make you feel so amazing and calm.
If you have many moving parts in your life that are requiring attention, life can get very overwhelming. Sometimes I can find other things creeping into my mind at the wrong time. To help, in my mind I picture putting that thought, issue, or situation into a box and putting it to the side. That way I’m indicating to my mind and body that it’s not for now, but for another time. This practice is really effective and stops the overwhelm.
Listening to binaural beats using headphones is a very helpful way to calm the mind. There are plenty of free ones available on both Spotify and youtube. If possible, find ones with 528hz as that is very healing for not just the mind and your heart, but also your DNA.
Yes, things are moving quickly. Sometimes it’s too much but we do have control over how we react to things. We also have the ability to create our own circumstances rather than be at the mercy of what is happening around us.
Once you can change your perception and mindset, even a busy life can be calm and full of love and happiness.
Kim Wagner, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Kim is a PSYCH-K® Facilitator, PER-K® Catalyst, Reiki Master, Intuitive Healer, Author, Speaker, and Educator.
After losing her mother to cancer whilst pregnant with her second child, Kim started to research and training in the field of belief systems and trauma. The learnings and results have been astounding.
Kim helps people to transform their lives. Her expertise is to heal trauma, replace negative and limiting belief systems and change the perception of stress.
With a corporate background, Kim's unique ability to help clients allows her to transform lives across the globe.
Kim is co-author of Upself Guidebook and an article contributor for multiple publications.
