Written by: Stefan Peter, Executive Contributor
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David Beckham's name is synonymous with football greatness. With a career spanning decades and continents, he has etched his mark in the annals of sports history. However, behind the glitz and glamour lies a tale of resilience, perseverance, and the silent struggles of an athlete under the relentless glare of the media and public eye.
In the recent hit on Netflix about his life, he shares openly his feelings and emotions after the incident from the 1998 World Cup match against Argentina.
Beckham said:
“The whole country hated me. Hated me.
“I felt very vulnerable and alone. Wherever I went I got abuse every single day.”
“There were some days I would wake up and think, ‘How am I gonna go to work, how am I gonna walk onto that training pitch, how am I gonna look as though nothing’s wrong?’
I felt physically sick every day when I opened my eyes, ‘How am I gonna do this?’”
Beckham's journey is not only one of remarkable achievements but also a testament to the psychological pressures also faced by modern-day sports icons, especially in the era of rampant social media. A current example is Harry Maguire who also plays for Manchester United and the English National team, just like Beckham did.
Manchester United fans are not shy of criticizing their players, sometimes going too far as this recent study shows:
A study, conducted by The Alan Turing Institute and Ofcom examined 2.3 million messages aimed at Premier League players in the first five months of the 2021-22 season.
The study identified about 60,000 abusive posts, affecting approximately 68% of the top-flight players
Around 75% of Premier League soccer players were subjected to abusive messages
A significant portion received this harmful content on a daily basis.
Shockingly, one in 14 players faced abusive tweets every day.
Almost half of the abusive messages targeted only 12 players, each receiving an average of 15 hurtful messages per day.
Surprisingly, eight players from Manchester United were part of the top 10 targeted players. Ronaldo, Maguire, and Marcus Rashford were the primary targets. Notably, Ronaldo received a staggering 12,520 abusive tweets, followed by Maguire with 8,954, and Rashford with 2,557. Harry Maguire reveals in this interview that Beckham even reached out to him after he got abused by fans and supported him emotionally and mentally.
Harry Kane from Tottenham Hotspur and Jack Grealish from Manchester City were the only non-Manchester United footballers in the spotlight, enduring significant online abuse during that time.
The weight of public expectation, media scrutiny, and the demands of a commercialized sporting industry can take a significant toll on an athlete's mental well-being.
The story of David Beckham stands as a vivid reminder of the challenges faced by athletes both on and off the field. Beckham's journey reflects the psychological toll that sporting stardom can come along with. The psychological consequences for players subjected to sustained online abuse can be severe and wide-ranging, often resulting in detrimental effects on their mental well-being, mental health, mental strength, emotional strength and overall performance.
In this article I also want to give concrete advice how to better deal with this scrutiny as a player, but also help to understand why fans often act that way.
Do you fight the same mental and emotional battle as a soccer player?
Getting bombarded with hurtful messages can stress you out, make you feel anxious, and mess with your self-esteem even leading to a negative self-identity. Just like how constant criticism can mess up your game on the field, online abuse can make you doubt yourself and lose focus, hurting your performance. Players might even start avoiding people to protect themselves, feeling lonely and disconnected. Remember how Beckham opened up about this in the "Beckham" Netflix documentary? Well, all the mean comments can really mess with your head, making you doubt yourself and feel unworthy. This can even lead to serious mental health issues like depression and anxiety.
So, let's be mindful of how our words can impact others, especially our fellow players.
Is Beckham showing signs of anxiety disorder?
Mental health experts and psychologists may argue that David Beckham's meticulous attention to tidiness could potentially be indicative of obsessive or compulsive behaviors. This tendency toward excessive cleanliness and organization might serve as a coping mechanism for managing the distress stemming from the stresses he has encountered. Obsessive behaviors, including compulsive cleaning and organizing, can occasionally be associated with various anxiety disorders.
It is crucial to acknowledge the significant impact that (online) abuse can have on an individual's mental health and well-being. Implementing support systems, including access to mental health resources, counseling services, and effective social media management, is vital in mitigating the psychological consequences of online abuse and fostering a supportive environment for players to thrive both on and off the field.
As a mental strength and personal development coach, working with pro players, I can see on a daily basis how much players benefit both in terms of performance and well-being, if they start working on mindset and emotionset.
David Beckham has admitted that he faced mental health issues during that period, but he also revealed that it wasn't the right time to discuss those challenges with anyone. He mentioned that his father might not have understood or taken his problems seriously, likely advising him to focus more on football to put his worries aside. Fortunately those times have changed and more and more big names such as Thierry Henry Steven Gerrard and Trent Alexander Arnold advice players to work on the mental and emotional side of the game as well.
But why do fans often exhibit such aggressive behavior? Understanding their emotions might help players and coaches handle the situation better too.
Unveiling the Psychology Behind Fan Aggression in Soccer
When the stadium roars with intense emotions, it's not just the players feeling the heat. The psychological dynamics underlying fan aggression often reflect a blend of personal and group-related factors. Here's how the soccer pitch becomes a stage for deeper psychological tendencies:
The Psychology Behind Team Sports and Mass Emotions
To effectively manage scrutiny, athletes can benefit from understanding the psychological underpinnings that drive individuals to attend sporting events and engage in team sports. German neurobiologist Gerald Hüther emphasizes the significance of comprehending the spectators' motivations and what captivates them about sports. It becomes apparent that most fans are influenced by two fundamental desires, which they witness in the athletes they support:
The need to demonstrate their own capabilities and talents.
The exhilarating experience of achieving victories and goals collectively, fostering a sense of shared accomplishment and unity.
Fans are Emotionally Attached to the Club Colors
Ever noticed how fans don't just support their teams, they embody them? Social identity theory explains this deep emotional bond, where any threat or failure experienced by a player can trigger a defensive response from the fan base, often translating into aggressive behavior.
The Outpouring of Frustration in the Stands
The stadium becomes a pressure valve for fans' pent-up emotions and frustrations. When the game isn't going as planned, these emotions might overflow, leading to the projection of personal stress onto players. Moments of poor performance or unfavorable outcomes can be the catalyst for unleashing the fans' own personal stress.
Handling Fan Aggression: Strategies for Soccer Players
Dealing with the intense pressure and often aggressive behavior from soccer fans can be challenging for any player. Here are some tips to help you manage the psychological impact and maintain a healthy relationship with your supporters.
Maintaining Resilience: Building emotional resilience and self-awareness can shield you from the negative impact of hostile fan interactions. Strengthen your mental fortitude and cultivate a positive self-image to navigate through difficult moments.
Communication and Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and foster open communication with fans. Encourage mutual respect and understanding by addressing concerns and promoting constructive dialogue within the fan community.
Professional Support: If you're feeling overwhelmed or struggling, consider reaching out to sports psychologists or mental health professionals. They can provide you with the necessary tools to manage stress and cope with the psychological implications of extreme fan hostility.
Athlete Identity: A Holistic Approach to Stay Mentally Fit and Perform with Joy
Understanding the potential risks associated with a solely sports-oriented identity (identity foreclosure) is vital for your well-being both on and off the field. Here's how you can maintain a balanced and resilient approach to handling fan scrutiny and adversity.
Cultivating Diverse Interests: Invest in activities beyond soccer to develop a multifaceted identity. Exploring other interests can help you create a well-rounded self-concept that extends beyond your athletic achievements.
Personal Growth and Development: Prioritize personal growth within and outside the world of sports. Engage in activities that promote mental and emotional well-being to handle the pressures of fan scrutiny and maintain a positive self-image.
Enhancing Emotional Intelligence: Foster self-awareness, empathy, and effective communication skills to manage the psychological impact of fan aggression. These skills will help you maintain a healthy perspective on your personal and professional identities.
Building a Strong Support Network: Surround yourself with mentors, coaches, and fellow athletes to foster a sense of camaraderie and belonging. Establishing meaningful connections can help you navigate the highs and lows of your soccer career with more ease.
The Impact of Emotional Frequencies: How Our Feelings Affect Everyone Around Us
One important aspect of personal development is learning how emotions influence us on a deeper cellular level. Every emotion emits a frequency, as explained in the map of consciousness by David Hawkins. Negative emotions such as shame, guilt, hate and anger vibrate on a very low frequency that can even make us sick and decrease our performance and overall well being.
These frequencies, similar to radio or Wi-Fi signals are around us all the time - even if we can’t see them. Our antennas pick them up and our cells react to them. Therefore our own emotions can also influence people around us. We transmit feelings even over long distances. That is why you can sense if your friend is angry or sad already from miles away.
What can we learn from Beckhams Netflix documentary?
If we open up our perspective and look at the world collectively we can see that positive emotions foster harmony and unity, while negative ones can generate discord and disharmony or even hate in all shapes and forms as experienced by Beckham, Ronaldo, Maguire and many others.
Understanding how emotions effect us and everyone around us plus promoting more harmony and unity instead of hate and anger can guide us toward an environment of mutual respect and empathy, benefitting both athletes and fans alike. By focusing on personal growth, mental health, and positive vibes, we can build a better environment for everyone.
Let’s do this together, you are capable of changing the world as well.
Stefan Peter, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Stefan Peter is an expert in personal development. He works mainly with international athletes and coaches in the fields of Soccer, Tennis, Basketball and American Football. His own experience with depression as a young athlete, after the death of his father, inspired him to become a coach and a mentor to athletes in similar situations. His major passion is to empower people to unlock their full performance potential and (re)discover inner fulfillment and performance joy. He is the creator of the 4 steps Emotionset-Method and holds a Masters Degree in Sports Health and Leadership.
