Written by: Alicia Kangas, Executive Contributor
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Many of us want our lives to change, but we do not know how to do anything about it. We assume that our lives will change and that we will then change as a result – to feel happier and more confident.
What we might not realize is that more often, this interaction works the other way around. That is to say, that by acting the way we want to feel, we end up feeling that way… and then our life ends up changing too! This is what we call the “law of attraction.”
How It Works:
Want to be more successful? Start acting like you are already successful. Thus, people start treating you as more successful and thus they give you more opportunities.
Want to be richer? Act richer. Want to do better at work? Believe you can. Want to be smarter? Act smarter.
This is closely related to what is known as 'self-fulfilling prophecies'. These are situations where you change your behavior in line with your beliefs. A notable example is what is known as a 'scotoma' or a 'blind spot'.
Ever lost your phone and searched for it for hours only to have a friend come up and find it in seconds? That is a scotoma in action – you have convinced yourself that the item is lost, and this belief literally prevents you from finding that item.
The same can happen in our careers or love lives. If you tell yourself, you are a failure then your unconscious mind will sabotage your success in those areas. To be as successful as you can be in any capacity, you need to eliminate doubt.
For example, if you believe you are no good at your job, you might find yourself slouching, not speaking up in meetings, and trying to hide from taking on additional responsibilities.
But as a result, you will find that people do not believe you have what it takes to get a promotion (which would MAKE you better at your job).
The same thing happens regarding dating. If you do not feel like you are attractive, you will not even begin to approach attractive people of the opposite sex, and you will not even bother trying to dress to impress. Plus, everyone wants a partner who is confident. You may even find yourself avoiding eye contact!
To break the cycle, start by acting like you believe in yourself. That means dressing better, taking risks, and being more assertive. You will find that you will begin to attract more positive recognition and that this can lead to better results – even improving the way in which you think about yourself.
Alicia Kangas, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Alicia is the Founder, Director, and CEO of HOLISTIC RIVERS, INC.
It is her mission to help others to awaken to their own truth, in order to ultimately create a lifestyle of pure abundance, happiness, freedom, peace, and joy, through a holistic approach to their overall lifestyle!
Alicia is an International Award-Winning Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Registered SomaYoga Teacher, Executive Business Coach, Positive World Influencer, Award-Winning Entrepreneur, and Published Author.
She is one of our Executive Contributors who we have selected as one of our prestigious honorees for our 2021 CREA Global Award in recognition of Alicia being one of the top entrepreneurs, influential leaders, and innovators from across the globe.
Alicia has been featured on ABC, NBC, FOX, USA TODAY, CBS, and 500 + other media companies.
She also has a Biography which resides in the Dictionary of Marquis Who's Who in America, where they endeavor to profile the leaders of American society who are influencing their nation's development. Biographies in Marquis Who’s Who are of individuals whose achievements and contributions to society have made them subjects of widespread reference interest and inquiry.
