Kyra is a psychology expert and transformational mentor with a master’s degree in psychology, specializing in deep healing, mindset mastery, and personal growth. As the founder of Healed Baddies, she helps ambitious women heal from the past, overcome mental barriers, and create a fulfilling, peaceful life through bold, no-BS transformation.
They told you healing would set you free. That a few mindset shifts, journaling, and meditation would be enough to change your life. That if you just repeated enough affirmations in the mirror, everything would magically fall into place.
So you did it all. You read the books, tried the rituals, and convinced yourself you were "doing the work." And yet, here you are. Still stuck. Still searching. Still wondering why nothing has really changed.
Not because you’re not trying hard enough. Not because healing doesn’t work. But because most of what you’ve been told about healing is incomplete.
Healing isn’t an aesthetic. It isn’t a face mask and a bath bomb. It’s not whispering “I am enough” into the mirror while your nervous system is screaming otherwise. Healing is raw. It’s the kind of work that makes you question everything, including yourself. It’s ugly crying at 2 AM. It’s confronting the versions of you that you abandoned to survive. It’s relearning how to feel safe in your own body after spending years in fight-or-flight mode.
But social media won’t tell you that. Because real healing isn’t marketable. It’s not a cute Instagram post. It’s a brutal, necessary, life-altering process. And if you’re tired of feeling like you’re doing the work but not seeing results, you’re not alone.
The truth about the healing industry (That no one wants to admit)
The self-help world is full of people who mean well but are leading you in circles. Healing isn’t failing you. The way it’s being taught is.
Most self-help and personal development advice is like a bandage over a bullet wound. It focuses on mindset shifts while ignoring the fact that your body, subconscious, and nervous system are still trapped in survival mode.
And let’s be real, a lot of the people teaching this work haven’t done the deep, excruciating, soul-rearranging work themselves.
Healers who teach abundance yet can’t pay their bills. Therapists who guide emotional healing but are still unconsciously ruled by their childhood trauma. Coaches who talk about self-mastery yet can’t regulate their own emotions.
This is why so many people lose themselves in healing, because they’re following people who never found themselves in the first place.
The truth is, you can’t do it alone. I, too, needed guidance. I needed more. But not more books, more tools, or more theory. I needed more truth. More integrity. More wisdom from someone who actually knew the way.
I’ve been walking this path for over a decade. That’s why I don’t just teach healing from textbooks, I teach it from experience. If you’re reading this, I already know something about you: you’re done with surface-level healing. You want true transformation. And that’s exactly what we do inside my free masterclass, Becoming Your Best Self, where I’ll walk you through the real process of transformation. No fluff. No BS. Just the work that actually changes you from the inside out. Join me here.
The 5 key pillars of true healing (Not the Instagram version)
Healing isn’t just mindset work and meditation. If it were, we’d all be thriving by now. Real healing is a full-body, full-mind, full-soul process that most people never touch. These are the five things you actually need to heal:
Coaching the conscious mind
Healing starts with how you respond to life in real time. If you’re still running on old patterns like people-pleasing, over-explaining, or avoiding confrontation, then healing hasn’t integrated. Your daily choices must align with your healing.
Rewiring the subconscious mind
Most of your suffering isn’t happening in the present; it’s happening in the past, in the old narratives and conditioning buried in your subconscious. Healing isn’t about letting go, it’s about reprocessing and rewiring so those past stories no longer control your mood or dictate your future.
Training the body
You cannot think your way out of pain. If your body is still holding all the stuck energy of unhealed wounds, it will sicken over time. You have to free your body physically and somatically to ensure its health, strength, and intuitive connection.
Reconnecting with your soul
Healing isn’t just about fixing what’s broken; it’s about reclaiming your purpose. Who were you before the world told you who to be? What life were you meant to live before conditioning took over? This isn’t about going back, it’s about stepping into your soul’s mission and deepest desires.
Regulating the nervous system
This is non-negotiable. You will never shift your reality, gain more money, or attract the partner of your wildest dreams if your nervous system is still wired for survival and fight instead of play and abundance.
It took me my entire life to create, live, and master this process, and it’s exactly what I teach inside my free masterclass. Let’s do the work together. Join me here.
The healing lies keeping you stuck: Why ‘love & light’ won’t save you
The personal development space loves to tell you to “raise your vibration” and “manifest your higher self.” But let’s be real, no amount of high vibes will fix unresolved trauma.
People avoid pain by drowning it in spiritual language and smart terminologies. They label anything uncomfortable as low-frequency energy or something undeserving of them. And the irony? The same people who preach love and light, claiming to know their worth, are often the ones most controlled by their own wounds. Don’t believe me? Take a deeper look at what’s happening in their love life and how they manage their finances behind closed doors.
Real healing isn’t about avoiding hard emotions or never feeling them again. It’s about integrating them, facing them, owning them, and knowing how to navigate them in a healthy and productive way once they arise.
Labels, whether they come from the spiritual industry, psychology, or personal development, often do more harm than good. They were meant to bring awareness, but more often than not, they become cages that keep people trapped in an identity rather than allowing them to heal beyond it. When you adopt a label, you risk making it your entire reality. Instead of recognizing that you are someone experiencing anxiety, you start believing, “I am an anxious person.” Instead of seeing trauma as something you went through, it becomes, “I am broken.”
The more you repeat these identities, the more they hardwire into your subconscious. Your brain takes them as truth, and suddenly, healing isn’t about evolving; it’s about maintaining the identity you’ve built around your wounds. But you are not your trauma. You are not your anxiety. You are not your past.
Real healing is about breaking free from these self-imposed prisons. It’s about realizing that what you’ve been through shaped you, but it doesn’t have to define you. You are a constantly evolving being, capable of rewriting your story at any moment. Do it now.
Your next move: Stop searching & start becoming
Healing isn’t something you “try.” It’s something you live, breathe, and become.
If you’re reading this, it’s not by accident. Something in you is done. Done waiting. Done searching. Done hoping that one day, things will finally change for the better.
This is your turning point. So the only question left is: Are you ready to heal?
Because real healing doesn’t happen when you’re comfortable or when you feel ready. It happens when you decide that enough is enough and finally show up differently.
And this decision starts now!
If you’re ready to stop searching and start becoming the version of yourself you were always meant to be, I’ll see you inside my free masterclass: Becoming Your Best Self. Because healing isn’t about what you know, it’s about who you decide to be.
If you know better but don’t do better, do you really know better?
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Kyra Bolzan, Psychology Expert & Transformational Mentor
Kyra is a psychology expert and transformational mentor with a master’s degree in psychology, specializing in deep healing, mindset mastery, and personal growth.
As the founder of Healed Baddies, a global community for ambitious women, she helps individuals heal from the past, overcome mental barriers, and create a life that is both fulfilling and peaceful.
Known for her bold, no-BS approach, she challenges conventional self-improvement methods, turning inner work into lasting transformation and tangible results.
