Written by Rebecca T Dickson, Leadership Coach
Rebecca T Dickson is recognized as one of the most transformational leaders in the world. She is the founder of The Yes Method, teaching leaders how to feel and process emotions; an intuitive author, a horse medicine practitioner, and a huge fan of nature-based therapies.
Your trauma doesn't want a meditation app. It wants revenge. After 16 years of guiding thousands of clients and coaches through the depths of shadow work, I've witnessed this truth. And I’m fully aware most healing spaces won't acknowledge that.
The rise of toxic positivity in wellness culture has created a generation of people performing healing rather than experiencing it. They try to journal their pain away, breathe through their rage, and wonder why they're still having panic attacks at the grocery store. What they're missing is permission to embrace their darkness.
It’s time to recognize that true healing often looks like warfare
When a client comes in drowning in anxiety, they're not experiencing a mindset issue. Their body remembers every time they made themselves smaller to survive. Every forced smile. Every swallowed scream.
To be clear, the shadow self isn't darkness to be cleared. It's buried power demanding resurrection. In my Trauma Healing with Shadow Work program, we discover that what society labels as 'negative emotions' are actually portals to authenticity.
That rage you're choking on? It knows exactly where the bodies are buried. That bitterness they shame you for? It's your soul screaming for truth.
Honoring your shadow means allowing it to have its revenge, not through violence, but through the most radical and revolutionary authenticity you can muster. It happens through speaking truths that shatter comfortable lies. Through refusing to make yourself palatable. Letting your existence become an act of rebellion against everything that tried to break you.
The shadow's revenge is your freedom to finally become everything they feared you might be
“Nice” is just trauma-wearing lipstick. In my craft, I’ve seen how being nice is often a trauma response, a survival mechanism that kept us safe but is now slowly killing us. The “good girl” we created becomes a cage built from our own bones.
Meanwhile, the wellness industry tells us to choose joy while our bodies hold decades of buried screams. They sell us gratitude journals while our shadows beg for vengeance.
But here's what they won't tell you: Your darkness isn't asking for peace. It's demanding liberation.
When we stop performing for people who want us broken, something revolutionary takes place.
We reclaim our right to exist without permission. We transform our wounds into weapons.
We become the force they warned us about.
This isn't about healing pretty. It's about healing true
It's about turning trauma into power and letting our true selves rise from the ashes of who we were told to be.
The future of personal development and healing isn't in making peace with our shadows. It's in letting them lead us back to ourselves. The person we were before they told us who to be.
As more coaches embrace this approach through Trauma-Informed training, we're witnessing a pivotal moment in healing spaces. One where truth trumps appearance and where our darkness becomes our greatest ally.
Your shadow's revenge isn't destruction. It's resurrection. It's becoming everything they tried to kill in you. It's letting your darkness dance on the grave of every “should” that kept you caged. It's turning your wounds into wings and your trauma into a throne.
Because the most devastating act of rebellion is becoming exactly who you were before the world taught you to be nice.
Remember: They didn't want you to be healed. They wanted you to be convenient. So, let your shadow feast on their expectations. Let your truth burn down their comfort. Let your existence be the revenge your soul has been screaming for.
When they tell you you're too much, just remember you were never meant to be digestible. You were meant to be devastating.
Rebecca T Dickson, Leadership Coach
Rebecca T Dickson is recognized as one of the most transformational leaders in the world. She is the founder of The Yes Method, teaching leaders how to feel and process emotions - and rise. During her 16 years in the coaching industry, she has served tens of thousands of clients globally. The mission: Be yourself.
