The Core Erotic Blueprint™: A Pleasure Map To Our Erotic Power
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 13, 2021
- 6 min read
Updated: Feb 13, 2023
Written by: Beth Brown, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
In my previous article for Brainz Magazine, I introduced you to a brief overview of the five primary Erotic Blueprints™ and how knowing them is key in helping us in the great awakening and reclaiming of our erotic power, aka our divine creative life force.
Now let’s take a deeper look into the three elements that make up a Core Erotic Blueprint™:
Our Sexuality Stage
Our Erotic Blueprint type (I shared about the blueprint types in my previous article)
Our Obstacles/Pathways to Sexual Health and Pleasure
The Core Erotic Blueprint (CEB) is a map that helps us understand how our bodies are uniquely wired as divine instruments of pleasure. The CEB is a powerful tool in teaching us how to learn to play our own instrument and instruct our partner(s) on how to do the same.
Once we understand all the elements of our Core Erotic Blueprint, we then have a delicious “pleasure map” of who we are as erotic beings at the moment, giving us valuable insight into how to honor that for ourselves and our partners with compassion and understanding. It also helps us to uncover where we want to explore and expand in the fluency of our sexuality.
As a certified and licensed Erotic Blueprint™ Coach, one of the first areas I look at with my clients in determining their Erotic Blueprint is determining what state or stage they are currently in around their sexuality. It’s important to remember that the mood or state of our sexuality is fluid and ever-changing. We are not static beings, and neither is the state of our sexuality. Knowing at what stage we are around our sexual health gives us the tools to manage and expand into the stage/state that feels most comfortable.
The Five Stages/States of Sexuality
Resting is a stage where taking a break from sex is by choice; could be a sexless marriage; taking resting time from sex between relationships; choosing to be celibate for a period of time perhaps before the consummation of marriage; resting and healing from giving birth. A conscious Resting stage can actually lead to hotter and juicier sex!
Healing is a stage of healing from past traumas such as sexual abuse or from an abusive relationship that was toxic toward your sexuality; healing from sexual shame, guilt, or fear that is an obstacle toward your ability to experience sexual pleasure; healing from childbirth or trauma after surgery, as well as erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. A Healing stage is a powerful place of regeneration that can greatly improve sexual vitality. A shadow side of the Healing stage is that we can get caught up in the loop of a perpetual state of healing which can be super challenging if we are with a partner who desires frequent sex.
Curious is a stage where we desire to learn all the things about our sexuality and how to have more mind-blowing passionate sex. In this stage, we’re interested in upping our erotic IQ and expertise as lovers to ourselves and to our partners by learning proper techniques of all the ways, such as erotic massage and how to be the ultimate giver of pleasure as well as how to open up fully to the receiving of pleasure. Be wary of the trap of the Curious, however, which can be that we fail to actually implement the delicious erotic techniques we’ve spent so much time learning.
Adventurous is the most exciting stage where we give ourselves permission to explore the edges of our sexuality by stepping outside of the box into a new frontier of pleasure—unabashedly opening ourselves up to what has previously been taboo to us. Exhilarating liberation awaits in the Adventurous stage, where dipping your toes into new-to-you realms of erotic play such as role-playing, new toys, bondage, open relationships, or other normally unspoken or uncharted areas becomes quite the fulfilling new playground.
An important thing to remember is that it’s crucial to establish healthy and proper boundaries and consent with your partner or partners (if you have more than one) while exploring the Adventurous stage.
Transformative is an extremely spiritual stage of wanting to experience transformational or sacred sexuality, such as Tantra, Shamanism, or Taoist practices. In this stage, there may be a conscious focus on using our divine erotic power to tap into an elevation of consciousness and explore what’s possible utilizing our creative erotic energy. Connecting to an ultimate sense of Oneness through our sexuality is the main objective in this stage. A shadow of this stage is that we can get a wee bit arrogant and think we know it ALL in our supposed “sexual transformation.”
In determining what our blueprint is, it’s also incredibly important to take a close look at the
Four Obstacles/Pathways to Sexual Health and Pleasure
And how they may be affecting our sexual vitality.
Physical: Here, we take inventory around anything that involves the physical body, health, or flexibility, such as physical pain or body trauma from accidents or other health issues, including hidden scar tissue from childbirth or other surgeries, etc.
Chemical: We dive into issues of body chemistry such as hormonal health, neurotransmitter dominance, blood health, medications, and supplements that could interfere with libido, addictions, diet, and also, we look at the actual sexual chemistry between you and your partner.
Emotional: This is where we explore areas of personality psychology, including any past traumas or abuse; what your parents taught you or didn’t teach you about sex; your first erotic experiences and history; abortions or miscarriages; emotional traumas as a result of divorce or difficult separations: ways of communication in relationships; or whether or not you are feeling seen, heard and understood in your relationships.
Energetic: Because we are bio-energetic beings, we look at our sensitivity to the energies around us, as well as the energetics of polarities. For example, are lights blown out when we enter the room? Is our cortisol high? Is there sensitivity to computers and EMFs? In looking at polarities, is your energy primarily yin or yang? Light energetically or dark energetically? Are you normally more controlling than surrendering in the bedroom? It’s important to be aware of where we are in the operation of energetic polarities as polarity is the energy that creates super hot and exciting attraction!
Ahhhh, beloveds, now that I’ve given you a glimpse into this “Pleasure Map” that helps us determine who we are as erotic beings, in which stage of sexuality would you imagine yourself to be at the moment? What obstacles to your sexual health and pleasure can you see are getting in the way of your being fully self-expressed, free, and on fire in your erotic power?
In other words, if you could have whatever you wanted around your sex life, what does that look like? It’s a question we rarely allow ourselves even to consider. For so many of us, when it comes to our sexuality, we’ve become completely numb, disconnected, and resigned, believing there’s nothing we can do to transform the situation. We simply settle for a mediocre sex life and remain in that unfulfilling, dead-zone state of existence for the rest of our lives.
But beloveds, there’s so much more! We can have super hot, spicy, and orgasmically fulfilling sex for a lifetime once we know how to tap into our own inner fire and reclaim the sacred erotic power that is the seat of our vital life force!
Allow yourself to break yourself open to the inquiry of what you want around your sexuality; letting your desires around your sexuality and pleasure become crystal clear. Pleasure is our birthright and our bodies were uniquely designed as instruments of pleasure. It’s time to reclaim.
For a deeper study into the stages and obstacles of the Core Erotic Blueprint click here for the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Course.
And if you’re curious about what your own Erotic Blueprint is, take the quiz here. In my next article, we’ll explore a little deeper determining, feeding, and speaking the Erotic Blueprints.
Beth Brown, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
As a Certified and Licensed Erotic Blueprint™ Coach trained directly by world-renowned Somatic Sexologist, Jaiya, Beth is clear on her mission to anchor the frequency of love and to help shift consciousness on the planet around sexuality from shame to full self-expression. Her passion is helping middle-aged women reclaim access to their divine creative life force and erotic power so that they are shining in their full radiant bloom. Beth is also a gifted and internationally known therapeutic harpist and sound healer, incorporating her talents to enhance and deepen her clients’ healing and embodiment experience. She is a graduate of the International Harp Therapy Program in San Diego as a Certified Therapeutic Harp Practitioner (C.H.T.P.) and studied sound healing at the Globe Institute of Sound & Consciousness in San Francisco. She is also an Accelerated Evolution Transformational Guide, having studied under the tutelage of Satyen Raja of the Accelerated Evolution Academy.
