Sheryl Maharaj is well-recognised globally as a Relationship Consultant, specialising in multifaceted workplace dynamics and interpersonal relationships, with a unique focus on breaking patterns for transformative change. Sheryl integrates her love for ancient traditions and science-based methodology in human development for meaningful results.
Are you a complainer, a talker, or a doer? These three archetypes shape how we navigate life, whether we drain energy by blaming others, indulge in endless talk without action, or step forward with purpose and create real change. While we all shift between these roles, awareness is key to breaking free from stagnation and stepping into a more fulfilled, intentional life. Which one resonates with you?
The complainer
The complainer moves through the world with psychological drama and dread, most of the time. If life happens the way they think it should happen this brings happiness only momentarily. The rest of the time you find them taking no responsibility or accountability in any situation.
Everything is an issue and everyone is to blame. It’s easier to complain than to make a difference in a dreary world. You mostly feel drained of energy after walking away from this interaction.
There is a lack of understanding of how thought creates feelings and the world around them. Just ask the complainer if they are grateful for anything in life. Wait and watch how they react to this question.
The complainer will tell you that it cannot be done, it won't be done and do their best to shut down and persuade you out of your dreams. Why?
Often, the complainer is scared to watch your progress. This would mean the need for them to take ownership, face reality and live life fully.
The talker
The talker generally knows what to do in context and takes minimal action. Incongruent in their words, actions, emotions and intentions.
For the talker, it is a shock to learn that “you become what you do and not what you say you will do”. The talker loves intellectual debates and seeks the limelight to dominate the conversation, get their point across and showcase knowledge.
Other people's time is barely considered in the world of the talker. You may feel unheard and can hardly get a word in the conversation in this interaction.
In the talker’s world, listening as a form of communication is less favoured. People either leave halfway through the conversation or the talker finds themselves surrounded by people who have nothing to say.
The talker forgets that the ego is noisy. Since talking is favoured, action is minimal, so objectives and creative endeavours are kept on the back burner for another day only to eventually be forgotten and unfulfilled.
Trademark of the talker, unfinished projects, half-baked ideas and no follow-through on promises to themselves or others.
The talker forgets they exist as a creator, not just a creation.
The doer
The doer is not the best at everything. They find people who are best at different things, learn from and empower others to act and shape fruitful outcomes.
The doer's attention is focused on who they are becoming in the process and not on who they have been in the past or the outcome in the future.
Whether motivated or unmotivated the doer works with their timeline and has well-dialled-in habits to get them closer to their desired outcome.
This group view setbacks as the fuel that ignites their energy to recalibrate and keep moving forward without becoming consumed by what others think, say, misunderstand or expect of them.
The doer is not highly talented nor needs to be and achieves more with less effort by operating from the core of who they are.
It seems the doer is aware that both inaction and action, speak louder than words. Observe them living in congruence with mind, body, emotions, intention, purpose and energy.
Lessons unique to you
We all flex in and out of each type and fixate on one more than the other. The key is awareness.
Fundamental shifts in awareness and profound insight will ask that you walk through an experience and learn the lesson, unique to you.
Faced with feeling unfulfilled, dissatisfied, lonely and without purpose – all symptoms of your psychology and an unlived life. To go through life as a spectator that duplicates most of your lessons from others' is to cheat yourself out of the experience of your existence.
Without a doubt, lessons gained from others can and will expedite time and assist your success if applied intentionally towards your purpose.
No two individuals are meant to follow the same path and no one's life is the same. Who you become depends on the depth you wish to experience in this lifetime and how you choose to act and impact others along the way.
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Sheryl Maharaj, Relationship Consultant And Founder, Nourish
Sheryl Maharaj is well-recognised globally as a Relationship Consultant And Founder, Nourish. Her services aim to bring awareness to the forefront for individuals, team and organisations with pragmatic tools for moving through conflict, breaking patterns, creating connection, mastering effective communication and decision-making and maintaining sustainable change. She has a background in human development, conflict resolution, polyvagal/nervous system integration and transformative change.
