Nadija is a multi-award-winning trauma and empowerment specialist and holds a double diploma in Hypnotherapy, Mind Coaching, and online therapy. She is also a Reiki master as well as a grief educator and trained with the international grief specialist and best-selling author David Kessler. Nadija is also an end of life doula.
We often hear people around us talk about the importance of letting go. The first thing I want to mention is that there is an intricate dance between holding on and letting go. At times, we cling fiercely to what we know, fearful of relinquishing control. Yet, it is in the act of surrendering, of releasing our grip on the familiar and the ‘comfortable' that we discover a profound sense of freedom and limitless possibilities. In this article, we explore and delve into the art of letting go (and yes, it is an art), as well as the meaning of letting go, unveiling its deep transformative power in creating a life of joy, purpose, and abundance.
In the pursuit of happiness and fulfilment, the phrase "letting go" is tossed around like a magic potion promising to unlock the door to our dreams and amazing life. But what does it truly mean to let go? And how does it differ from simply giving up? Let's embark on a journey of understanding, empowerment, and deep transformation.
I love this quote by the famous spiritual teacher Deepak Chopra "In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself." This quote shows the importance of embracing the essence of letting go to unleash the boundless potential that resides within you. For in the art of letting go, we discover not only the life we desire, but the greatness that has always been within us.
Defining letting go
Letting go is not about relinquishing control or surrendering to defeat. It is a courageous act of releasing our attachment to outcomes, expectations, and fears that hold us back from living our fullest and best lives. When we let go, we loosen the grip of our ego and open ourselves up to the infinite possibilities that lie beyond our limited perceptions.
Contrary to popular belief, letting go is not synonymous with giving up. Giving up implies defeat, resignation, and a surrender of hope. Letting go, on the other hand, is an act of real empowerment – a conscious choice to release what no longer serves us and embrace the freedom of possibility. It is not about abandoning our dreams, but rather, freeing ourselves from the chains of fear, anxiety and doubt that hinder our progress and our growth.
At the core of the concept of letting go lies a profound understanding of our true nature as energy beings. We are not merely physical bodies traversing the landscape of this physical life; we are vibrant, dynamic expressions of energy, interconnected with the vast web of existence. When we let go, we shift our energy – releasing stagnant patterns, allowing new energy to enter our lives, and allowing the flow of abundance to permeate every aspect of our being.
By letting go, we liberate ourselves from the events and experiences of the past and create space for new beginnings, growth, and expansion. We release the need to control every outcome and trust in the inherent wisdom of the universe and higher powers. In doing so, we align ourselves with the natural rhythms of life and unlock the power to manifest our deepest desires and create the life we desire and deserve.
Famous American author and poet Maya Angelou once said, "Hoping for the best, prepared for the worst, and unsurprised by anything in between." This sentiment summarizes the essence of the art of letting go. It is about embracing the uncertainty of life with an open heart and a resilient spirit. For many, the concept of letting go may evoke feelings of apprehension or even resistance. After all, we are conditioned to believe that control is synonymous with power, that holding on is a testament to strength. However, true strength lies in the willingness to surrender, to release our attachment to outcomes and trust in the inherent wisdom of the universe and the higher powers.
Understanding the illusion of control
At the core of our struggle to let go lies the illusion of control. From a young age, we are taught and conditioned to strive for mastery over our circumstances, to believe that with enough effort, hard work, and determination, we can shape our lives according to our desires. Yet, as we travel through life, we inevitably encounter moments of upheaval and uncertainty, curveballs, challenges, and reminders that there are forces beyond our control. Whether it is a sudden loss, a medical diagnosis, a career setback, or a relationship ending, these experiences serve as poignant reminders of the fragility of our perceived control.
According to ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu, "Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like." This wise advice speaks to the futility of resistance, of clinging to the illusion of control in the face of life's inevitable flux. When we loosen our grip and surrender to the flow of life, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities, allowing space for growth, transformation, and unexpected blessings.
The power of surrender
Surrender is not a sign of weakness; rather, it is an act of courage and faith. It is the willingness to release our attachment to outcomes and trust in the inherent wisdom of the universe and the higher powers. When we surrender, we relinquish the need to micromanage every aspect of our lives, freeing ourselves from the burden of unrealistic expectations and self-imposed limitations. According to the famous spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle, "Some changes look negative on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge."
By easing our resistance and embracing the present moment, we create space for miracles to unfold. Doors that were once closed suddenly swing open, pathways to growth and self-discovery reveal themselves, and we find ourselves moving effortlessly towards our true purpose. Surrender is not about giving up; it is about letting go of what no longer serves us, trusting that in the void left behind, something beautiful and transformative will emerge. We cannot create some great new changes if we do not make room for them by letting go of anything no longer serving us.
But how do we master the art of letting go? How do we release our grip on the illusion of control and surrender to the flow of life? Enter hypnosis – a powerful tool for rewiring the very fabric and garden of our minds. Let’s now talk about hypnosis, what hypnosis is and how this powerful healing and therapeutic modality can help us with the process of letting go.
Defining hypnosis and hypnotherapy
Hypnosis, often misunderstood and misrepresented in popular culture, is a powerful tool for transformation and self-discovery. At its core, hypnosis is a state of focused attention and heightened suggestibility, wherein the critical faculty of the conscious mind is bypassed, allowing access to the deeper recesses of the subconscious.
Hypnosis is an altered state of consciousness.
Contrary to what you have seen in movies, therapeutic and clinical hypnosis involves a lot more than traveling into a trancelike state after looking into someone’s eyes.
During a hypnosis session, you undergo a process that helps you relax and focus your mind. This state is similar to sleep, but your mind will be very focused and more able to respond to suggestion. Hypnosis is a heightened state of awareness.
Through the power of hypnosis, we can reprogram our neural pathways, shedding old beliefs and patterns that no longer serve us, and embracing new ones that align with our deepest desires. By harnessing the power of suggestion, we can plant the seeds of transformation within our subconscious, paving the way for profound shifts in our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.
Hypnotherapy is the application of psychological therapy during a state of hypnosis, to change or modify behaviour patterns.
Hypnotherapy can deal with psychosomatic problems, that is, problems that are rooted in and controlled by the subconscious mind. Hypnotherapy can bypass the conscious mind, allowing positive, life-affirming suggestions for change, to be fed directly to the subconscious mind and acted upon. Hypnotic suggestions have a cumulative effect; over time, there is a buildup of reinforcement in the subconscious that will be acted upon by the conscious mind.
While in this relaxed state, you are more willing to focus on your subconscious mind. This allows you to explore some of the deeper issues you are dealing with.
The practitioner, or therapist, is there to help guide this process. They are not there to control your mind.
Demystifying hypnosis
Brain scans have shown that hypnosis can alter brain activity patterns, highlighting and emphasizing the significant role of the subconscious mind in our daily lives.
Contrary to common misconceptions, hypnosis is a valuable tool that taps into the depths of your subconscious mind. It is not about losing control; it is about gaining control over our subconscious mind, your thought patterns, feelings, and behaviours.
The role of hypnosis in letting go
Through hypnosis, we can rewire our brain, releasing deep-seated beliefs and emotional patterns that hold us back from letting go. By accessing the subconscious mind, hypnosis allows us to plant seeds of positivity and empowerment, facilitating profound shifts in perception and behaviour. Whether it is letting go of limiting beliefs, fears, or symptoms of past traumatic experiences, hypnosis provides a pathway to healing and transformation.
But hypnosis is just one piece of the puzzle. To truly master the art of letting go, we must cultivate a mindset of surrender and acceptance. Here are some tips to help you along your journey.
Tips for letting go
Practice mindfulness: Cultivate present moment awareness through practices such as meditation, deep breathing, and yoga. By grounding yourself and anchoring yourself in the present moment, you can observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment, allowing them to pass through you like clouds in the sky.
Release attachment: Identify areas in your life where you are holding on too tightly and consciously choose to release attachment. Whether it is a relationship, a job, or a belief about yourself, loosen your grip and trust that the universe has something better in store. Release attachment to the outcome and remain open to the infinite possibilities that await.
Trust the process and trust in divine timing: Have faith that the universe has a plan for you, even if it may not align with your own. Trust in the inherent wisdom of life and allow yourself to surrender to the flow of divine timing. Understand that everything unfolds in perfect timing, according to the greater plan of the universe. Trust in the process and allow yourself to surrender to the flow of life.
Cultivate gratitude: Gratitude is the antidote to resistance. By focusing on the blessings in your life, you shift your perspective from scarcity to abundance, opening your heart to receive the infinite gifts that the universe has to offer.
Embrace the power of intention: Set clear intentions for what you desire to create in your life and trust that the universe will conspire to bring it to fruition.
Visualize your ideal life: Take time each day to visualize the life you desire in vivid detail. See yourself living with joy, abundance, and purpose. By focusing on your vision, you align your energy with the frequency of what you want to manifest.
Practice self-compassion: Be gentle with yourself on this journey of letting go. Understand that it is okay to feel discomfort and uncertainty. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion as you navigate the process of release and surrender.
Final words
"The only thing that's keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself." American author and motivational speaker Tony Robbins.
The art of letting go invites us to rewrite the narratives that no longer serve us, to release the chains of fear and doubt, and to step boldly into the unknown with courage and conviction. By mastering the art of letting go, we open ourselves up to a life of infinite possibilities, where joy, purpose, and abundance abound. Let us embrace the transformative power of surrender and create the life we desire and deserve. Embrace the unknown, trust in the wisdom of your heart, and surrender to the magic of letting go. For in the art of letting go, we find not only freedom, but the key to unlocking the life of our dreams.
Nadija Bajrami, Strategic Hypnotherapist, Mind Coach
French by birth, Nadija lived in Scotland for 7 years and travelled the world. After recovering from some serious health issues, Nadija had a wake-up call and came to Ireland to find her path. She has been living in Dublin since 2017. Nadija is working mostly online worldwide and shares her time between Ireland, France, and Switzerland.
Nadija is a multi-award-winning trauma and empowerment specialist and holds a double diploma in Hypnotherapy, Mind Coaching, and online therapy. She is also a Reiki master as well as a grief educator and trained with the international grief specialist and best-selling author David Kessler. Nadija is also an end of life doula.
She is dedicated to helping her clients get empowered, supercharge their confidence and self-esteem, overcome their limiting beliefs as well as manage anxiety, and trauma responses. She also helps people on their grief and healing journey through her therapy, coaching, grief education and support programmes and spiritual work.
