Sanjana Thanik is a transformative hypnotherapist, Rei ki healer, and expert in RTT and QHHT. As the founder of Mindskapes, she empowers individuals to reconnect with their authentic selves, guiding them to rediscover the parts of their being that have been forgotten or lost.
In a world driven by external noise and endless distractions, it’s easy to forget that the most profound answers to life’s challenges lie within us. We search outward for validation, solutions, and clarity, but often, the key to healing, transformation, and growth is found by turning inward. This article takes you on a journey through self-discovery, exploring the power of connecting with your inner being to unlock the wisdom and answers you've always carried inside.
We are living in times where external distractions dominate and dictate our lives. Growing up amidst the struggles of keeping up with societal expectations, not feeling enough within ourselves, and constantly comparing our lives to the curated reality of social media, we drift further from who we truly are. The relentless pursuit of conforming and fitting in as a means of survival distances us from our authentic selves. In this process, we lose touch with our uniqueness, forgetting the essence of who we are. The truth is that the most meaningful connection we can cultivate is the one with ourselves.
Now, the question arises: what is this relationship with self? The 'self,' in the literal sense, is a person’s essential being, the core that distinguishes us from others. But in the race toward the common goals society sets for us, we forget this unique self. We forget that we are distinct from those whose lives we try to replicate and claim as our own. So, how do we reconnect with this unique self? We begin by delving within.
This inward journey starts with self-acceptance. We must first accept where we are as we are. Self-acceptance is the first layer we need to uncover to reach the core of our being. It calls for embracing both our flaws and our goodness, the dark and the light within us. Acceptance requires compassion, and the first to receive this compassion must be the self, which has spent so long trying to fit into what others expect while neglecting what we truly want for ourselves. There are layers upon layers of conditioning built to cater to the outside world that must be peeled away before we can reach the essence of who we are: our authentic, unique self.
And in peeling back these layers, there must be both compassion and patience. The build-up of conditioning, beliefs, and mindsets we’ve carried for so long were never truly our own; they were given to us by those who never connected with or understood their own uniqueness. It’s as if we were caught in a herd mentality, blindfolded by ideas that butchered and buried our authenticity. To reclaim who we truly are, we must gently unravel these inherited identities and allow our true selves, the ones that have always been waiting, to emerge once again.
Recognising the patterns of life that keep us stuck and addressing them with self-compassion is the only way to break free from the burdens that chain us to our present, unhappy reality. These burdens push us to seek answers outside of ourselves. While seeking externally may bring temporary solace and provide partial answers, lasting solutions to life’s challenges can only be found by looking within. You are the creator of your life experience because whatever passes through you is magnified in your physical reality. To truly shift your reality, you must first seek refuge within.
To seek refuge within, you need to become your own best friend. A best friend is someone who knows you deeply, your likes, dislikes, hopes, and desires and stands by you through tough times. To be your own best friend, you must cultivate this relationship with yourself so that when no one else is there, you can be your own cheerleader. You won’t wait for external help to lift you up; instead, you’ll reach out to yourself, providing the strength to feel whole and complete.
The best time to let your core self emerge from under the layers of conditioning is when you are waking up in the morning or winding down your day. These are the moments when your subconscious mind is most alive and receptive to the changes you wish to usher in. It is during these quiet, reflective times that your authenticity and uniqueness can rise to the surface and begin to shape your material world.
You are an energy being, and your life is shaped by where you focus that energy. Are you directing it toward anger, hatred, complaints, jealousy, or lack? Or are you aligning with the high vibrational qualities of love, compassion, peace, patience, and goodness? The energy you cultivate within becomes the energy you radiate outward, attracting the same into your life. This is not destiny; it’s a direct result of what you allow to flow through you. When you take charge and responsibility for your life and your actions, the need to blame others fades. You reclaim ownership of your destiny.
But the journey doesn’t stop at responsibility. You must also recognize that much of the weight you’ve carried for so long was never yours to bear. The burdens of others’ opinions, the expectations you never agreed to, the pressure to always hold it together, all of this has buried your true self. As you peel back these layers, you realize something profound: these burdens were never yours to carry.
Now, you understand that letting go isn’t surrendering its freedom. You were never meant to carry the world in your hands; you were only meant to carry you. This realization releases you from the bondage of external pressures and grants you the freedom to live as your authentic self.
To guide you on this journey back to yourself, here are steps you can take to reconnect with your core
Set aside time at the beginning and end of your day to connect with your energy, reflecting on your aspirations, hopes, and feelings.
Let gratitude be your constant companion. Wear it like a robe throughout the day to shift your perspective toward positivity.
Practice self-compassion at all times. When you are kind to yourself, it filters through to everything you touch.
Be mindful of each activity, whether big or small, paying attention to how you feel and what you think in the moment.
Remember that you are resilient. Nothing can waver your stance once you’ve made up your mind.
Be your own best friend. Treat yourself with the same kindness and support that you offer others.
Use deep breathing to center yourself when anxiety arises. Your breath is your deepest connection to yourself.
Spend time in nature, connecting with the elements that also make up who you are. Taking a walk in nature, being by the seaside, and engaging in other outdoor activities that you love reconnect you with who you are and give you clarity.
Listen to the inner voice that guides you; it’s always there, supporting you.
Affirm daily: “Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.”
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Sanjana Thanik, Hypnotherapist, Reiki, RTT & QHHT Practitioner
Sanjana Thanik is a certified hypnotherapist, Reiki healer, and practitioner of Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) and Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (QHHT). With her expertise, she guides individuals through deep healing and self-exploration. As the founder of Mindskapes, Sanjana is passionate about helping people reconnect with their authentic selves, unlocking emotional and spiritual well-being.
