Written by: Myrto Mangrioti, Executive Contributor
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Do you ever do something and then regret it or think how you could have done it differently after the fact? And then you say to yourself, it won't happen again. But sooner or later, it does! And you don't seem to be able to break free from this pattern.
There's a solution to your problem.
Practice self-observation. Be present in the moment and notice your thoughts and your actions. How you're being.
Why? Because when you're aware, in presence, you also have the power to change what you don't like. You're no longer reacting, but you can choose to respond in a way that will bring you the results you want.
Start by doing a reality check on your life
Take a mental note or write down any negative thoughts, bad habits, patterns, or impulsive reactions you have and wish to do differently. Examples could be angry outbursts, excessive eating or drinking, complaining, negative self-talk, getting into arguments, procrastination, or whatever else you want to change about yourself.
Then start practicing self-observation
How? It all begins with setting the intention.
What is the intention? To be present in the moment. To be here, now.
This is a lot easier said than done! You'll go through the following 5 stages:
Stage 1
In the beginning, you may realise the event after it has happened! Oops! I did it again! Don't beat yourself up about it! It's very natural. You're learning to pay attention. You're training yourself to be present. Be patient and keep committed to your intention.
Stage 2
As you practice, you'll maybe notice it as it's happening. Maybe you'll be unable to change your reaction, but try to stay with it as the observer. That's ok. Don't force anything. You're just watching as if you were another person. Let yourself be angry, frustrated, passive or reactive. Notice and forgive yourself for not being able to control it. Let it go.
Stage 3
What you can expect as you continue practicing being the observer is that the negative thought, emotion or reaction will begin to subside a lot faster. By being present in the moment, you'll be more connected to your heart, your intuition and your true essence. This will get you into a more peaceful state. You'll begin to realise what's important, what's true and what's not, as it's happening. And you'll be able to let go… faster.
Stage 4
Until, at some point, you'll catch it just before it begins… and stop it. It will go away not by forcing it but because you'll become aware of it. Through your presence, you'll create the necessary spaciousness and peace in you that will make the matter not worth pursuing or not important anymore. You'll feel who you want to be or how you want to act in that present moment.
Stage 5
At last, it's no longer an issue. You've outgrown it. Congrats!
The more you practice, the more you'll improve. So, keep it up. Have patience and give yourself a break. It won't happen overnight, but you'll see and feel the results as you get better at it.
The most important thing is that practicing self-observation accelerates your transformation… your awakening… finding your true essence, your inner or higher self, your purpose in life. Peace and joy. Meaning and fulfilment.
Welcome aboard this wonderful, exciting journey!
Myrto Mangrioti, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Myrto Mangrioti believes life is a learning playground that shouldn't be taken too seriously. Struggling with her "good girl" attitude all her life, she found peace by embracing it. That’s when she founded Loving Living to pursue her passion for helping people awaken to their true selves, enjoying their lives to the fullest by living in the present moment. Myrto is a certified Deep Coach, a Canfield Success Principles & Methodology Certified Trainer, and a No.1 International Best-Selling Amazon Author. Early morning, you can find her at the beach. She's vegan and loves nature. Meditation, yoga, music and cooking inspire and ground her. She lives by one word: EMBRACE… yourself, your life, the present moment.
