Written by: Chi Quita Mack, MSW, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Let’s get right down to it and discuss the most common conversation I have with my mommies...Mom Guilt!
Q: Does this really exist?
A: Absolutely!
Q: Can I overcome this?
A: Yes, you can! It just takes time and practice but, it’s definitely do-able.
Q: Do other mommies suffer from this or is it just me?
A: Listen, you are not alone! I have definitely suffered from mom guilt and I still have my moments! Just know, you have a whole community behind you that is ready to support.
Here are 3 strategies to help you work through your feelings of mom guilt; whether you are taking time for yourself or are a working mama trying to juggle it all.
1. Tell Yourself, “I’m Sorry.”
Now you may be asking yourself why on Earth am I apologizing to myself? Well, as mothers we often over criticize ourselves for the choices we make on a day-to-day basis. We feel guilty for taking care of ourselves, working late, and missing a practice or school activity. We talk ourselves out of doing what makes us feel good, happy, and smile because we feel that time and energy should be poured into our children at all times. STOP! Forgive yourself for your choices as each choice you make is for a reason and serves a purpose.
2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Her.
Just stop! Stop comparing yourself to other moms! It is always important to remember that you are doing the very best that you can do. Each mom has their own lifestyle and is parenting in a way that best works for them. That means that their way is not always your way! You got this! Your children appreciate you for who you are.
Love who you are. Continue to be the best that you can be! Remember, there is only ONE you!
3. Build Your Mommy Community.
Remember the saying…"It takes a village?" Well, that is still true today! It is so important to surround yourself with those that mean the most to you. Those that are experiencing similar situations to you, and sometimes just to have that person to vent to! Trust me, I have my days where I just need someone to hear me complain and other times I need that mommy advice! Sometimes I need a mini break and it is great to know I have my support squad that will watch the kids for a few hours! Build that support system! I promise you it will definitely come in handy.
When Mom Guilt Kicks in start with some positive affirmations:
I am doing my very best each and every day
I am capable and worthy
Each day I am learning to love myself more and more
I am leading by example
I am in control
I can do this
For more guidance and encouragement for your mommy support group and to work with me, Chi Quita Mack, MSW Book Your FREE 30-Minute Clarity Call Here
Chi Quita Mack, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Meet Chi Quita Mack, MSW: A Major in the United States Army, Social Worker, Author, Life Coach, wife, and mother of 3. She currently holds a Master of Social Work from Our Lady of the Lake University, a Bachelor of Science in Biology with a minor in Military Science from West Virginia State University-Historically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCU).
Chi Quita is the founder and CEO of The Chi Quita Mack, LLC, a safe place she created for all women to come relax, get empowered, and be constantly reminded they have not lost the ability to be who they once were. Chi Quita reminds women that they are more than just mommies and with a positive mindset, attitude, and motivation all those dreams that were set aside can come true.
Chi Quita just released her workbook called “The Beauty in You: A Guide Created To Help You Discover The Best Version of You."
