Step into a World of Passion and Authentic Connection

There’s a new writer for Brainz! It’s me, Kres. A Licensed Psychotherapist and Certified Sex Therapist in Chicago, IL. I run a group therapy practice, and I love everything: spirituality, sex, and relationships. Before I get into article creating and truly providing tons of tips, resources, and wellness tools for us, I really wanted to dive into the work and why it’s important.

First, a little about me.

I believe the core of our existence and humanity is our connection with one another and our ability to create a life filled with our passions, interests, and desires. Pleasure is truly our birthright, and joyful living is a beautiful goal. I receive great pleasure in helping people break down barriers that prevent them from connecting with healthy relationships, internal desires, and the best version of themselves.

I have always been that go-to friend that people can share desires and thoughts with. To seek ideas on "if it's normal," and what I truly heard was them asking if they should have shame. My empathic attunement and non-judgmental spirit, mixed with a healthy dose of laughter and intuition, have allowed me to help many. I have always had the ability to help people find the space to feel safe, heard, and be honest with themselves and others. I love working to find our personal boundaries and seeing if they could be pushed a little, of course, to our most healthy version of ourselves. I am often described as passionate, bold, and encouraging.

Now, the work!

Have you come up against obstacles to a fulfilling sex life?

Do you have questions about your sexual identity? Are you looking to explore new erotic or intimate territory with your significant other? Or do you struggle with challenges related to your sexual health?

You may be experiencing doubts, questions, or limitations when it comes to your sexual identity. Perhaps you and your partner have differing wants and needs in the bedroom. Or maybe you’re curious about opening your relationship up and becoming polyamorous. 

It’s possible that your sexual functioning has changed over time, and you are now struggling with aspects of anxiety and grief when it comes to performing. Maybe a medical issue has caused a decrease in your desire, or perhaps you struggle with vaginismus (vaginal pain during sexual intercourse) or erectile dysfunction. If this is the case, you may become stressed or worried about the idea of being intimate, disappointed that sex is no longer as enjoyable or comfortable as it once was. 

When drive and desire between partners differ, it can create tension in the relationship. It’s entirely possible that you and your partner no longer experience the same passion and satisfaction as you once did. As a result, you may be looking for support. 

At Metro Sex Therapy, you can work with a sex therapist or coach who will honor your unique needs and desires within the relationship. Whether you identify as gay or straight, monogamous or poly, trans or cis, white or Person of Color (POC), therapy can help you identify and reach your goals for your sex life. 

Sex therapy gives you a chance to better understand yourself and your body

Like most of us, you may have developed negative associations with your body and sexuality throughout your adulthood. Yet sex therapy can normalize your experience and give you the necessary tools for overcoming obstacles to your passion, intimacy, and sexual fulfillment. And if you struggle with medical issues, including vaginismus or erectile dysfunction, counseling can help you to better understand what you need in order to feel satisfied on your sexual journey.

At Metro Sex Therapy, we see both individuals and couples for sex counseling, individual therapy, and coaching all over the world due to our virtual platform. Throughout your time in sex therapy, you will be invited to delve into your history as a sexual being. This includes examining the possible trauma and grief that have impacted your relationship with yourself and your body. Whether you’re participating as an individual or a couple, counseling provides a great opportunity to learn more about how your and your partner’s desires were shaped and the kinds of challenges that you both may face when it comes to issues of sexual intimacy. 

Moreover, your therapist will work with you to help you unlearn the negative or counterproductive tropes you’ve received when it comes to understanding your body. In doing so, therapy can help you develop a critical awareness of the emotional aspects of intimacy, as well as the tools for processing the relational, psychosexual, and mental elements of your sexuality. 

Our approach to sex therapy often involves mindfulness techniques and tools that revolve around a deeper awareness of the sensations occurring in your body. While sex therapy sessions are customized to meet the needs of each individual or couple, we are likely to draw from frameworks developed by such renowned sex and relationship therapists as Masters and Johnson, The Kinsey Institute, Lori Brotto, Esther Perel, and Emily Nagoski. These experts have pioneered the field of sex therapy and offer a new, nonbinary, and radically accepting way of exploring sex, intimacy, and the body. 

With the right support, it’s possible to have a satisfying and pleasurable sex life. No matter if your intimacy issues stem from physical discomfort, emotional distress, or cultural limitations.

Perhaps you’re interested in counseling for your sex life, but you have some questions

Is there nudity or any form of obscenity in sex therapy?

Sex therapy is meant to be a profound mental and emotional exploration of your sexuality. As such, counseling is not a workshop or instruction in the physical act of sex but rather an opportunity to overcome the various obstacles that have caused you to feel unsatisfied in the bedroom. We will certainly make space to discuss specific organs, acts, and physical sensations, but there is no nudity, nor is sex therapy intended to be obscene, uncomfortable, or profane.

Do you offer sex counseling for couples? 

Absolutely. In fact, if you are partnered, we would prefer that you attend sex therapy as a couple or group (for those in polyamorous relationships). That way, everyone can benefit from the perspective of a sex therapist as you learn more about your sexual needs both as individuals and as a couple/group. 

Is sex therapy a good place to explore BDSM or other kinks?

If you are curious about introducing something new and exciting into your sex life, therapy is a great chance to explore that possibility. All of our therapists are professional and sex-positive clinicians who can help you better understand your desires, including desires within the context of a kink or BDSM. We welcome all sexual appetites and varieties! 

You can develop a sense of ownership over your body and desires

If you would like to learn more about you and your body or your relationship and how to enhance it to its fullest potential, please fill out the form (I guess I need a form).

Sexual health is a part of our humanity. It encompasses the wellness of our physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being; it is not merely the absence of disease and dysfunction. It can be a healthy part of human connection and growth.

Sex therapy can be used to treat:

• Low sexual desire

• Conflict over different sexual desire levels

• Erectile dysfunction

• Premature ejaculation

• Performance anxiety

• Inability to reach orgasm

• Unconsummated marriages

• Vaginismus

• Arousal difficulty

• Female sexual pain

• Sexual addiction or compulsivity

• Past sexual abuse

• Vulvodynia

• Affair recovery

Now that we understand me and my work, I hope my articles, in even the smallest way, bring you one step closer to the healthiest erotic you, sacred you, embodied you, whole you.