Written by: Lisa Nicks Balthasar, Executive Contributor
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As a love and intimacy coach I have often told my clients, if you want to feel a deeper connection and spice up your intimacy, sleep naked.
Yup, that’s right. It can be that simple and that complex, just sleep naked with your lover and partner.
This practice of sleeping naked, aligns with my teachings as a Love and Intimacy coach to share and communicate with an open heart and raw vulnerability with your lover and partner. The practice of sleeping naked — sharing raw vulnerability with your partner — helps to create a space that fosters intimacy, healing, and a deeper heart connection.
When I speak of experiencing deeper intimacy by sleeping naked, I am not just speaking of sexual intimacy, although sleeping naked entwined with your lover does definitely foster more opportunity and likelihood for sexual intimacy. But what my client’s experience with this “sleep naked practice” is also a deeper, more vulnerable connection to their partners.
There is a warmth and vulnerability, being enveloped in each other’s naked skin, that creates a deep and healing feeling; two people sharing a profound heart and soul connection. Naked. Raw. Vulnerable. Together. In the calm of the night.
There is a reason that they put newborns naked against the chest of their mothers and fathers. This practice of skin-to-skin creates a bond, a feeling of deep human connection. A bonding of two souls.
According to sleepfoundation.org there are also many health benefits from sleeping naked. “Sleeping naked may improve health, partner intimacy, anxiety, and self-esteem.”
For my clients that say they think they will be too cold to sleep naked, I remind them that, according to survival guidelines, one of the recommended ways to treat or prevent hypothermia in an emergency situation, is via shared bodily warmth; skin-to-skin contact. You might feel cold at first, but once those sheets warm up, you won’t want it any other way. Indeed, you won’t want any barriers between yourself and your lover.
Raw vulnerability.
Sleeping in the raw.
It creates the space, the perfect energy and synergy to drop into the sacred intimate place of sharing one’s deepest feelings, fears, dreams and life experiences that makes each of us unique and special.
Opening up your heart and feeling held in that “naked” space of vulnerability and sharing with one another creates a deep profound intimate bond that I believe is only deepened by doing so entwined lying next to one another feeling the warm skin and heartbeat, the breath and essence of your lover.
Some of the most powerful and deeply life-changing experiences you will experience with this practice (tool) will not be centered around the act of sexual activity, but more often, it’s the connection of one’s heart and soul that is deepened; a feeling of safety and being held in these calm, quiet, intimate and sacred moments.
These moments of raw vulnerability are where we grow as a couple and as individuals, when we can be naked in our deepest truths and held in that space. If you find this kind of connection, someone who can hold you in that sacred space, while you return the same energy, don’t let it go. This type of human soul connection and deep love is a gift. Love is the greatest gift of all.
I am not saying you cannot experience this type of connection and intimacy in your favorite jammies, but I urge you try sleeping naked for just one night. Heck, even a week!
And let me know how it goes. I am willing to bet it will be a life changer for you in many ways!
So many of my clients report great benefits from this practice. With smiles on their faces and a renewed glow about them, they can appear more alive, energized, and happy as they share feedback, not only of more sexual intimacy, but most of all, of a positive and transformative shift in the connection with their partners. This fosters interpersonal growth, and a more deeply entwined and connected relationship.
So, you see, it’s really a very easy tool to create a deeper connection and can be a lot more fun in the process too!
Stay tuned for more articles as I share more of the ten tools I teach my clients to deepen or call in the love and soulmate relationship you envision.
And as a little sneak peek to my next article I ask you to take some time to start to really feel and picture what it is you want to experience in a love & soulmate connection. Really “feel it” make it seem real and attainable. And it doesn’t hurt, may I add, to imagine doing it naked entwined in bliss under the covers with your lover and partner!
Trust me, this has been a rule in my bed with my partners for the last forty-plus years and I’ve never had a complaint! I’ve experienced not one, but two deeply healing soul connections and marriages grounded in profound love. I would still be with my first husband had he not passed from brain cancer. You can experience more than one soulmate connection… I shared that story and tools to keep your heart Open to Love after loss in one of my previous articles, “Are you really Open to Love?” and also in my best-selling inspirational memoir, Believe, A Woman’s Odyssey from Tragic to Magic.
For more information regarding my private coaching around Love and Intimacy and my Sacred Soulmate Power coaching sessions (discover your deepest subconscious blocks that sabotage and close of your heart to love ) Learn more here (plus as an added bonus you will receive one of the top tools for deeper intimacy and connection!)
Lisa Nicks Balthasar, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Lisa Nicks-Balthasar is a best-selling author, inspirational/keynote speaker, and expert Love & Intimacy coach who has been featured on multiple podcasts and on the TEDx stage. Her 1 bestselling memoir, Believe, A Woman’s Odyssey from Tragic to Magic, was supported by Academy Award-nominated screenplay writer Scott Marshall Smith (“Men of Honor”) who stated, “Lisa’s powerful story is filled with magical movie moments.” Lisa is currently looking for the perfect home for her book-to-film project.
Through her inspirational/keynote speaking, writing, coaching, and numerous retreats, as well as her TEDx talk, Lisa has inspired people from all over the world to “Believe” in love again, to uncover and overcome their subconscious, self-sabotaging beliefs, and to manifest deeper intimacy through a life and love of their dreams.
The tools and methodologies she teaches are extracted from her own success in manifesting not one, but two soulmates (after her first tragically passed), as well as her vast experience with personal coaching and retreats offered through Sacred Soulmates which she founded in 2016. She has dedicated her life to helping others attract and deepen the love of their lives.
