Sex And God – Are They So Far Apart? Or Can We Have Both?
- Feb 27, 2024
- 4 min read
Written by: Bruna Rocha, Executive Contributor
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A question that I am often asked is: How can we feel loved by God or love God while being beings that normally indulge in carnal desires? The number of people who have been made to believe that one cannot exist with the other, the amount of confusion, and fear instilled in many humans by religious leaders and social norms are frightening. This is what prompted me to research and explore the connection between sex and spirituality.
In a world that often pulls us in different directions, finding a deep connection with God while embracing our physical desires can be a transformative journey. Balancing spiritual and physical intimacy is not only possible but can lead to a more fulfilling life. The false belief that engaging in sexual intercourse, specifically outside of a monogamous or heterosexual relationship, will condemn you to burn in the eternal flame of hell is misleading.
In my own experiences and studies regarding sexuality and my soul, I have come to understand and believe that this theory of eternal suffering is contradictory and sad. Allow me to explain why. The reason why I think it is contradictory is that, in many parts of the scriptures – the Bible, God is always depicted as a being of forgiveness, often referred to as a "Happy God," who created us to enjoy Earth and His other creations. Hell, based on the original translations in Hebrew ("Sheol") and Greek ("Hades"), actually means grave. So, even when reading the scriptures, nowhere is it said that anyone will be punished by God in a lake of fire.
The part that, for me, is sad is the need for anyone who believes it or fears this form of punishment. From my point of view, it is a form of self-torture. It seems easier for us to believe in being punished than to believe that we have a higher being, energy, or God – call it what you want — that wants us to grow, be happy, enjoy our lives, and be loved on a more profound level.
My idea is not to change anyone’s ideas or beliefs because that is not my job. But I would love to bring a bit more comfort regarding the relationship between sex and spirituality.
So, let's explore some insights into how one can foster a profound connection with God while enjoying sexual intimacy
Mindful presence
Start by cultivating mindfulness in every aspect of your life. This way, we can learn to forgive ourselves and develop a deeper friendship with the divine. Be present in your thoughts, actions, and interactions. When we are present and get to know our partner, we can have a better experience during and after intercourse. Avoid being intoxicated during sex, as it makes us more susceptible to receiving not only the good but also the bad, sharing both joy and aches as one soul during sex.
When this mindfulness extends to your intimate moments, it creates a sacred space where you can connect both spiritually and physically, letting go of shame and guilt.
Open communication
Establish open communication with the divine and your partner about your spiritual beliefs, concerns, and desires. Just as we talk with people, the divine is also there to listen to us. There is no formal way to do so, and when we don't know the right words to say, we can speak from our hearts. Share your journey towards a deeper connection with God, and encourage your partner to express their own spiritual insights. This vulnerability fosters a stronger emotional and spiritual bond.
Sacred habits
We are all creatures of habit, and developing spiritual habits is just as relevant as eating. Despite negative experiences with religions, people, or even with God, it's crucial to recognize that nourishing our spiritual side is essential and cannot be lightly discarded. Incorporate spiritual rituals into your daily life and relationships. This could include prayer, meditation, or reading sacred texts together. By intertwining these practices with your physical intimacy, you create a holistic experience that honors both the spiritual and physical aspects of your being.
Respect and consent
Always prioritize mutual respect and consent in your intimate relationships. Regardless of gender or how we identify ourselves, we should never impose our needs or desires upon others. Respect must be a two-way street, and it's crucial to discuss it more openly, perhaps even more so than in the "ordinary" world. Recognize the divine within each other and approach physical intimacy with a sense of reverence. Even from someone with unconventional experiences like mine, maintaining the divine as a priority allows for enjoyment, respect, and mutual respect in extreme situations.
This creates an environment where both partners feel spiritually connected during moments of vulnerability.
Gratitude and reflection
Cultivate a habit of expressing gratitude for the spiritual and physical aspects of your relationship. Reflect on the connection you share with your partner and with God. This acknowledgment deepens your appreciation for the sacred union you are nurturing.
To enjoy intimacy is a gift from God. We are the only animals that can plan it, exercise control, and experience conscious purpose and pleasure during sex. The key point here is to learn how to integrate your spiritual and physical selves authentically so you can fully enjoy it. Recognize that both aspects are essential to your overall well-being, allowing you to live a more fulfilled life in peace and with true happiness.
Bruna Rocha, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Bruna Rocha, is a former fashion and erotic model, that has being dedicating over seventeen years of her life to understand suffering, and how one can move from it, and live a more fulfilled life. Growing up in a neglected environment, Bruna' developed a deep interesting in human psychology, and spirituality, learning that is possible to live to the fullest as you nurture your soul, and become the fullest expression of your been. She is the CEO of Coach Me Bruna, a versatile investor, explorer and artist, her teachings has reached people all over the world. Her mission: There is no guilty, on pleasure.
