Written by: Vishal Saxsena, Executive Contributor
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In today’s world, people of any age and from all shores of life are suffering from stress and anxiety. Some are suffering more some are less.
I am sure you all will agree, that to overcome this ailment everyone is trying. It can be through medications, meditation, yoga, and visiting wellness coaches. Still, they are not able to overcome, WHY??
Let me give a bit of insight into my topic “SEEN ZONE – A life between two ticks”.
Seen Zone is all about the interaction between two persons or interaction between group of persons. There will always be a sender or the writer and a receiver or the reader. This practice has been always there since the time of cavemen and thanks to historians who have given enough proof of how the cavemen used to communicate. In short, our communication is seen zone.
With time this mode of communication kept on evolving and there was a time when we started to exchange letters and telegrams. I am sure many will still connect to how much fun it used to be to write letters and post them in the red colour letter box. Emojis were drawn, and emotions were poured through the ink.
We had pen friends whom we never used to meet, we used to write to them and feel connected. Official letters were sent across with a plan of the time it will take to reach and whatever instructions that were mentioned in the letter will be implemented.
All these activities developed one thing i.e. patience in everyone. Because the time that was taken from writing to delivering a letter and getting a response used runs into days and sometimes months.
We all know with time, technology keeps developing and with the advancement in technology, we as humans start to follow the new trend without thinking about how it is going to affect us. Likewise, technology has entered the field of communication and has made entire communication fast, simple and easy.
This is where the seed of stress and anxiety is planted and it is the root cause.
Everyone wants an immediate reply, and if they do not receive then go into stress, anxiety, panic and the list can go on. The excitement of receiving a letter or a document is missing, the essence of emotion that used to flow or sketched is now just a text.
The mode of communication that developed patience at one time has now developed mental issues with unnecessary arguments. In the current time seen zone has become one of the reasons for all breakups and disputes. I call it a silent killer.
Can it be please elaborated a bit with an example?
Let us take a situation where a boy and a girl are in a relationship. Ok? Now the boy sends a text to the girl or vice versa.
Once the message is sent and there is one grey tick. The boy thinks that the girl has yet to log on to the app on which they are communicating. The boy checks after every few minutes to check the delivery of the text. He is a bit anxious about why the message is not delivered.
Now the boy checks and he sees two grey checks means it is delivered. A happy moment is attached to anxiety. Has she read it or not? Rechecks again and when he sees the checks are in blue happy again now in more anxiety mode i.e. the girl has not replied immediately.
This is where the anxiety gets associated with panic and stress, why she has not replied and you start getting all negative feelings. A feeling of distrust, and anger. The boy has no patience or understanding that the girl might be busy with her family members or in some meeting where she cannot reply.
The delay of every minute is developing anger within the boy. The love emotions in the message are now of no meaning. What is more meaningful is why she has not replied. So all these negative unnecessary emotions together release negative signals which are spoiling health ‒ A silent killer.
This is the boy's side of the story, now what about the girl? What is she undergoing?
The girl who has read the message and cannot reply is undergoing the same stress, anxiety and panic because she cannot reply and she thinks about what the boy will think.
Now when the girl gets a few seconds of free time. she responds to the boy, and the boy is so furious that he texts her back and releases all his frustration. The girl who had replied a few minutes back tries to speak to the boy on phone to pacify him. The boy does not respond or if he responds he is in a furious mood.
If you observe a few minutes back the mood was all fine both were happy and now the entire scene has changed. The entire mood is spoilt. Happiness is now a heated argument.
And finally, they both block each other numbers. Issues in the relationship start and continue.
Tell me who is at fault?
If you have to see no one is at fault. It is a matter of patience and understanding. In the current times, this is missing and everyone undergoing the same mental turmoil.
In almost all relationships be it with parents, siblings, friends, peers, within your office, with clients, you name it everyone is going through mental suffering.
The time has arrived people are ready to pay for the two blue ticks. That means the trust level has started to go down or started to weaken.
With this mindset do you think any medication, meditation, or yoga, will help to remove stress and anxiety?
The answer is a BIG NO.
What is that we should develop to overcome seen zone – the silent killer?
Learn to love and accept yourself. Appreciate yourself, this in turn will make you appreciate others.
Learn how to focus on what you are doing without any distractions. This will help you to be present in the moment.
Learn how to trust, this will assist you to gain self-confidence and patience.
Understand and enhance your potential by writing at least 5 good things you accomplished in a day.
Stop complaining, start understanding and growing.
If you want to be a Master Piece, learn how to Master Peace.
Thank You.
Vishal Saxsena, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Vishal Saxsena an Author, Wellness & Transformation Coach. His journey in coaching started in the year 1997. While coaching individuals in groups or as individuals he noticed one common thing, i.e. Life Pattern of every individual keeps repeating and that keeps them stressed. He started to dig deeper into this issue and found that if the character of a child is designed in the conception & development stage these issues can be resolved & a child can become a better human being. This made him launch a unique program BELLY WITH A HEART where a pregnant lady can Design & Shape the character of her unborn child. He is the CEO & Founder of Design Your Destini & Academy of Spreading Happiness.
