Written by: Suzie Ayonna Suttles, Executive Contributor
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The prison of psychological abuse is the same abuse a person experiences while being incarcerated or spending time in the military. It has a profound effect on how you view yourself, others, and you become fearful of being vulnerable and open with people due to the trauma and pain you experienced from psychological abuse. Releasing the thoughts and insecurities surrounding these experiences can be a long and hard journey, but the good news is, it doesn’t need to be. I’ve listed 5 tips to assist you along on your journey of releasing your heart and mind from the trauma and pain of psychological abuse.
Affirm yourself daily - I know this can be tough for people who experienced psychological abuse because negative views about yourself were spoken over you daily. You were mentally programmed to believe things that were contradictory to what your soul knows to be true about you. Whenever a negative belief about yourself crosses your mind, spend some time in the mirror speaking something opposite of that belief. For instance, if you were led to believe that you weren’t good enough, contradict that thought with, “I AM deserving.” Releasing your mind from the prison of psychological abuse will require the same energy as the negative images that were programmed into your psyche. It requires you to form new and positive beliefs about yourself because you are MORE THAN ENOUGH!
Learn to be alone - I know being alone is a hard pill to swallow and we all desire to connect with other people, but if the people in your surroundings are negative and unsupportive, it has a negative impact on your mental and emotional health. If you can’t find people who are positive, supportive, and uplifting, learn to be alone and cultivate that within yourself. Spending time alone is necessary for a healthy relationship because you’re no longer codependent on the validation, attention, or opinions of others. If you experienced psychological trauma and abuse in your childhood, you have unhealthy thoughts and opinions about yourself. Spending time alone with yourself and by yourself allows you to create a healthier version of yourself without placing that responsibility on another human. Entering a relationship with a healthy mindset and outlook about yourself creates a healthy foundation that fosters growth and genuine partnership.
Accountability - You are not responsible for the emotional and mental abuse you experienced as a child, but you are 100% responsible for seeking out the tools and resources you need to heal the trauma and abuse you experienced in your childhood. Unhealthy personalities, traits, patterns, behaviors, mindsets, and beliefs were passed down to you through generations. The time has come for you to take 100% accountability for healing the wounds that were passed down to you through generational abuse.
Talk about it - You don’t have to share your story or what you went through with the world, but seeking out therapy, counseling, or getting involved with a support group will assist you with releasing the unhealthy emotions attached to your childhood trauma and abuse. Depression often arises when you are attempting to mask or hide the emotions you feel toward the people of your past who hurt you, and speaking about these feelings will only benefit your growth, healing, and letting go of the past trauma and abuse.
Create new habits - Insanity is doing the same thing expecting different results. You can’t heal successfully from the trauma and psychological abuse of your past by holding onto the same unhealthy patterns, behaviors, mindsets, and beliefs. To heal properly you need to attain new knowledge and implement healthy patterns, behaviors, mindsets, and beliefs. The psychological abuse you experienced is learned behavior, so now it’s time to learn something new.
These are just a few tips and suggestions, but add your personality and your own creative ideas to fit your needs. With the right amount of assistance and determination, you can unlearn unhealthy patterns and behaviors and heal your mind from psychological abuse.
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Suzie Ayonna Suttles, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Suzie is a Certified Intuitive Guide, Healer, and Reader, who is a survivor of childhood psychological abuse, and domestic violence abuse. She is a thriver of PTSD, bipolar disorder, ADHD, and an Intuitive Guidance Coach fostering the heart of men beyond the abuse of their past. Empowering men to move from the mindset of the victim to the mindset of the victor. She is a published author of 6 books, and her work was featured on HubPages, HealDove, and The GTCC Titan Review. Suzie is a proud member of the Phi Theta Kappa National Honors Society.
