Written by Ashish Singh, Life Coaching and Healing
Ashish, founder of the calm mind life coaching in Toronto GTA, ranks among the top 10 life coaches, blending eastern wisdom and western techniques in his 'Medit-action' approach. With 15 years of experience, he's committed to enriching lives, promoting peace and clarity, and charting paths to success and happiness—one mind at a time.
In the relentless pace of life, we play many roles: employee, spouse, parent, and caregiver, all of which demand our time, energy, and attention. We bend over backward to meet expectations, juggling our responsibilities with the belief that if we just do more, we’ll feel more accomplished and more worthy. But here's a harsh truth: while we’re busy fulfilling everyone else's needs, we often neglect the most crucial role we have, the role we play for ourselves.
One of the most common challenges I’ve encountered is how people often deprioritize their own needs. It’s as if taking time for ourselves is a luxury rather than a necessity. Yet, in doing so, we become disconnected from our core from the person who needs us most.
Ask yourself: When was the last time you intentionally carved out time in your day for yourself? When did you sit quietly, listen to your inner thoughts, and nurture the silent conversations with your soul that crave your attention? How often do you make a list of things that bring you joy, fulfillment, and peace and actually take steps to do them?
“Me time” goes beyond just taking a break from daily tasks. It’s about connecting with ourselves in a deep and meaningful way. It’s about reflection, mindfulness, and giving space for the quiet but persistent whispers of our inner self, the voice we so often ignore. True yoga, beyond the physical exercises, is a union, a re-alignment with your inner being. It’s time spent reflecting, realigning your thoughts, and nourishing your soul, which is often drowned out by the noise of life.
Personally, making time for myself has been one of the most important habits I’ve developed. In the toughest of times, this practice helped me navigate challenges and kept me grounded. Those quiet moments where I could pause, reflect, and tune into my needs were the anchors that kept me steady when everything else felt overwhelming.
The mental health and happiness benefits of "me time"
Research clearly shows that carving out time for yourself significantly enhances mental health. It’s not just about feeling good. It’s about creating space for your mind and soul to breathe, recalibrate, and thrive. Studies have shown that mindfulness and moments of stillness can reduce stress, improve focus, and boost emotional well-being.
When you take time to do what you truly enjoy, whether it’s reading a book, painting, going for a walk, or simply sitting in silence, you’re tapping into something deeper. Activities that align with your personal joys create a sense of fulfillment and reduce feelings of burnout. According to a study published in The Annals of Behavioral Medicine, engaging in enjoyable activities regularly not only enhances mood but also lowers blood pressure and improves long-term mental health.
Reduced stress and anxiety: Practices like meditation and quiet reflection lower cortisol levels, helping to alleviate anxiety.
Improved self-awareness: Introspection enhances understanding of thoughts and emotions, promoting mindful decisions.
Better emotional regulation: Regular self-care fosters emotional stability and reduces mood swings.
Increased focus and productivity: Taking time to pause and reflect improves cognitive function and boosts productivity.
Improved sleep quality: Relaxation practices lead to better sleep and overall well-being.
Greater joy and fulfillment: Engaging in activities you love increases dopamine, fostering long-term happiness.
How to make “me time” a daily habit
While it’s easy to talk about the benefits of “Me time,” the challenge lies in consistently making it a priority. Here are some practical ways to turn this essential practice into a daily ritual:
Start small: If 30 minutes feels too overwhelming, begin with just 10 minutes a day. Small steps can lead to big changes.
Set a specific time: Choose a time when you’re least likely to be interrupted, perhaps early in the morning or before bed–and treat this time as non-negotiable.
Create a sanctuary: Dedicate a corner of your home to be your quiet space. Fill it with things that bring you peace–whether it’s a candle, a journal, or soft music.
Pair it with an existing habit: Attach your "Me time" to something you already do, like after your morning coffee or once the kids are asleep. This helps integrate it smoothly into your routine.
Take a break from technology: Set aside time to disconnect from screens and reconnect with yourself. Unplugging, even for a short period, can significantly improve your mental clarity.
Give yourself grace: Some days will be chaotic, and you might skip your "Me time." That’s okay. What matters is getting back to it without guilt the next day.
Reclaiming your most vital role
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. By prioritizing that relationship and giving it the attention it deserves, not only do you nurture your mental health, but you also become better equipped to show up fully for others. Because the truth is, you cannot pour from an empty cup.
Ready to reclaim yourself? Contact me for a free session and start your journey to a calmer mind today.
Ashish Singh, Life Coaching and Healing
Ashish Singh, the founder of The Calm Mind Life Coaching, has transformed his personal battles with anxiety and depression into a beacon of hope for others. His journey, marked by profound struggles and ultimate triumph over mental health challenges, fuels his passion to ensure that no one faces such trials alone. Through The Calm Mind Life Coaching, based in the heart of Toronto, Ashish offers a sanctuary for those seeking tranquility in the tumult of life.
Introducing 'Medit-Action', Ashish merges meditation's calm with practical steps, akin to a mental gym for building resilience against mental health issues. This innovative approach draws from Eastern and Western philosophies, guiding individuals towards lasting calmness and happiness.
