Written by: Rebecca Helps, Executive Contributor
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Anger and anxiety often stem from a common root: fear. Understanding this connection can empower us to address these emotions effectively through problem-solving. By delving into the underlying issues and adopting practical solutions, we can regain control over our lives and diminish the grip of anger and anxiety. For more on understanding why you are angry check out this article.
Understanding the Fear Factor
"When fear takes hold, anger becomes its fierce companion. Only by unravelling the roots of fear can we find the peace that extinguishes anger." – Unknown
Fear indicates the presence of a problem. Whether it's an immediate threat like a bear in the forest, irrational fears like a monster under the bed, professional challenges such as a disapproving boss, or unresolved past experiences, the key lies in acknowledging the problem. Problem-solving serves as the solution to these concerns.
Identifying the Core Problem
Effective problem-solving starts with a clear identification of the issue at hand. It requires us to look beyond the surface and explore the underlying factors. For instance, while the apparent problem may be our boss disliking us, the real issue lies in understanding how this affects our job security, career advancement, financial stability, and overall well-being. Recognizing the actual consequences enables us to address the core problem.
Whose Problem Is It?
Determining the ownership of the problem is crucial. Is it solely our problem, a shared problem, or does it primarily belong to the other person involved? This distinction matters because the involvement and cooperation of all relevant parties are necessary for resolving shared problems. If the issue lies solely with the other person, we must acknowledge that we cannot single-handedly fix it.
The Power of Brainstorming
Brainstorming is a valuable tool in problem-solving. During this phase, there are no bad ideas. Sometimes, even suggesting unrealistic solutions can pave the way for more practical ones. It is essential to consider and evaluate every idea, assessing their practicality, affordability, reasonability, and feasibility. Do we have the time, financial resources, and capabilities to implement a particular solution?
Choosing and Testing Solutions
After careful consideration, select a solution to address the identified problem. Implement the chosen solution and closely monitor its effectiveness. Did it successfully resolve the problem? If not, analyze the reasons behind its failure and select an alternative approach to test. This iterative process allows for continuous improvement and adaptation.
Illuminating the Path
"Anxiety is like a shadow that thrives in darkness, but when you shine the light of understanding and resilience upon it, its power diminishes." – Unknown
Anger and anxiety thrive in darkness and uncertainty. By transforming them into well-defined problems with potential solutions, we can diminish their hold on us. Taking control over our fears diminishes feelings of helplessness and enables us to actively shape the direction of our lives rather than merely reacting to circumstances.
Acceptance and Moving Forward
Sometimes, despite our efforts, a problem may prove unsolvable. Acceptance becomes key in such situations. Recognize the limitations and understand that not all problems can be resolved. Sometimes, the best course of action is to accept things as they are or seek opportunities for growth and change in new environments or circumstances.
Conclusion
Problem-solving is a powerful approach to addressing anger and anxiety. By delving into the root causes, involving relevant parties, brainstorming creative solutions, and testing them, we regain a sense of control and reduce the impact of these emotions. Embracing problem-solving empowers us to navigate challenges and embrace personal growth, leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life.
Rebecca Helps, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Rebecca Helps grew up thinking she was fundamentally flawed and believed people didn't like or want her around. This left her alone, exhausted, anxious, depressed and afraid. Rebecca's anxieties and fears impacted both her personal and professional life. She knew she needed to do something to get her life back on track. Rebecca took action, signing up for a personal growth course, which was also the start of a 3-year counsellor training program.
As a Registered Therapeutic Counsellor, Rebecca uses her counselling skills to help individuals and organizations heal, grow, and be the best version of themselves. Rebecca believes that because we spend most of our day at work, it is essential to foster mental health by bringing psychotherapy directly into our places of work.
