A dynamic force in the entrepreneurial world, Natasha B. Russell Darby (NBR) is the Founder & CEO of NBR Global Solutions Inc. With a passion for empowering purpose-driven ventures, NBR Global Solutions offers coaching, speaking, training and consulting services that equip entrepreneurs, businesses & non-profits with the tools they need to succeed.
Do you struggle with self-sabotage? Trust me, you’re not alone. Self-sabotage is a common yet often misunderstood behaviour that can hinder personal and professional growth. It manifests in various forms, such as procrastination, negative self-talk, and self-doubt. Self-sabotage is one of the many reasons why people remain stuck. I’d love to help you overcome self-sabotage so that you can truly become all that God intended you to be.
Let’s explore the roots of self-sabotage, and I’ll provide practical strategies to help you overcome it, enabling you to unlock your true potential.
1. Understanding self-sabotage
Definition and forms: Self-sabotage refers to behaviours or thought patterns that undermine your success. Common forms include procrastination, perfectionism, and self-criticism.
Psychological roots: Delve into the psychological roots of self-sabotage, such as fear of failure, fear of success, and low self-esteem. Understanding these underlying causes is the first step toward overcoming them.
2. Recognizing self-sabotaging behaviours
Self-reflection: Take some time to engage in self-reflection to identify your self-sabotaging behaviours. Journaling and mindfulness practices can be helpful tools to help you reflect and become more mindful of these harmful behaviours.
Common signs: Highlight common signs of self-sabotage, such as setting unrealistic goals, avoiding challenges, and engaging in negative self-talk.
3. Strategies to overcome self-sabotage
Set realistic goals
Emphasize the importance of setting achievable goals. Break larger tasks into smaller, manageable steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
Develop self-compassion
It’s important to practice self-compassion and gratitude. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend. Forgive yourself and learn to let go! You can’t change the past, but you can be present in the moment and work toward building the life you’ve always dreamed of, the life you truly deserve.
Challenge negative thoughts
Teach readers to recognize and challenge negative thoughts. Replace self-critical thoughts with positive affirmations and constructive feedback. Each time a negative thought enters your mind, refute it with something you know to be true and positive. I like to call these “anchor statements,” and I enjoy using Bible scriptures and/or positive quotes.
Create a support system
Highlight the value of having a support system. Surround yourself with positive influences who encourage and motivate you. It’s so important to spend time with people who inspire you to become a better version of yourself, a circle of people who are positive, productive, successful, God-loving, and ambitious.
Seek professional help
Sometimes, overcoming self-sabotage requires professional help. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help. You will find that talking to someone actually helps you feel more at ease, and, more importantly, can help you discover the underlying root of your self-sabotage behaviours. My clients always discover things about themselves that they never knew were holding them back, and truly, that’s one of the reasons I love coaching.
If you want to connect and book a coaching session, please email me directly here, and we’ll set up a time to chat virtually that works for both of us. I believe there is power in coaching because it provides you with an opportunity to truly transform your thoughts, behaviours, and habits, which will lead you to greater success, joy, peace, and happiness.
4. Building resilience and confidence
Celebrate small wins
It’s important to celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Recognizing progress builds confidence and motivation. Growing up, I lacked confidence, but by spending a lot of time affirming myself and with God, I was able to overcome it, slowly but surely. I focused on what I could learn and do instead of what I couldn’t, which led me down a path to great success. And I know if I can overcome self-sabotage and build my confidence, so can you!
Embrace failure as a learning opportunity
I honestly don’t believe in failure. I believe in lessons learned. Learn to shift your perspective on failure and view it as a valuable learning experience rather than a setback. Take what you’ve learned and apply it moving forward. Don’t look back and criticize yourself constantly, it will only hinder you. Cheer yourself on for every attempt because that shows your resilience. I strongly believe that absolutely anything and everything is possible as long as you truly believe in God and yourself.
Stay persistent
Please understand that overcoming self-sabotage is a continuous journey. It won’t happen overnight; however, by putting the above-mentioned strategies into place, you will overcome self-sabotage sooner than you think. Persistence, consistency, and patience are key to long-term success. Don’t ever give up on yourself because God will never give up on you.
Overcoming self-sabotage is a transformative process that requires self-awareness, compassion, consistency, and perseverance. By recognizing and addressing self-sabotaging behaviours, you can unlock your true potential and achieve your big goals and dreams. Remember, the journey to self-improvement is ongoing, and every step forward is a victory.
Trust and believe, BOSS (Brilliant, Optimistic, Sophisticated, Successful), the very best is yet to come!
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Natasha B. Russell Darby, Motivational Speaker
NBR is driven to transform lives and businesses through impactful leadership and strategic communication. With a passion for purpose-driven leadership, she empowers clients to lead with confidence and clarity.
NBR's expertise in communication, branding, and public relations enables her clients to achieve their business goals and unlock new opportunities. As a sought-after speaker and event host, she inspires audiences to reach their full potential, both personally and professionally.
Dedicated to making a positive impact globally, Natasha actively volunteers her time in support of youth.
Learn more at nbrboss.com.
