Written by: Nadija Bajrami, Senior Level Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
When I was younger, people felt drawn to me and would open up to me very easily. They would love to tell me what was on their mind.
From a very young age, I had a deep desire to be a crucial part of others’ lives, to help people unpack their emotions and difficult memories. At the time, I did not really have a clear idea of how I would do it, I just knew I wanted to do it. I wanted to hold a sacred space for people to be able to open up and share what they had on their minds and even share any of their traumatic experiences. As a result, as I was growing up, I constantly pondered why a part of other people’s pain stayed with me. Why did I feel their pain, and what could I do to help them? And that feeling followed me throughout my whole adult life…
Early on in my career as a trauma focused hypnotherapist and more recently now in my career as a certified grief educator, I realized that burnout and compassion fatigue are real issues that affect many therapists and mental health workers worldwide. While therapists help their clients to heal their diverse mental health issues, their own lives can be filled with unexpected ups and downs. Recognizing burnout and compassion fatigue before they set in has served as a saving grace for me while facing the harsh moments of my own realities.
In the world of therapists and mental health workers, where empathy and compassion are at the forefront, we often find ourselves facing the silent adversary we mentioned previously, known as burnout and compassion fatigue. As devoted healers, therapists and mental health workers invest their energy and emotions in helping others navigate the complexities and hardships of life. However, in the process, they may sometimes neglect their own well-being, leading to a state of exhaustion that affects not only their professional lives but also their personal ones. In this article, we explore the nuanced world of compassion fatigue, its signs, and most importantly, how therapists can safeguard themselves against its dangers.
Understanding compassion fatigue
Compassion fatigue is the emotional and physical exhaustion resulting from the cumulative burden of caring for others. Therapists, due to the nature of their work, are particularly susceptible to suffer from compassion fatigue at some point in their career. As they immerse themselves in the challenges of their clients, often absorbing their pain and struggles, they risk depleting their own energy and emotional resources. This emotional exhaustion can manifest as compassion fatigue, a condition that diminishes their ability to feel empathy and connect with their clients on a deep level.
Burnout vs. compassion fatigue
Mental health professionals have a professional responsibility to ensure that their clients are safe and that they are working within the highest standards. At the same time, they have a personal responsibility to look after their own wellbeing and mental health. A therapist who is experiencing burnout will very rapidly be unable to care for their clients; needs or their own! Burnout can occur easily when these two aspects get out of balance, and sometimes we tend to ignore the early symptoms, which include the following:
Feeling overwhelmed
Feeling tired or drained most of the time
Feeling helpless, trapped and/or defeated
Feeling detached/alone in the world
Feeling frustrated
Anger
Negativity
Withdrawal
Having a cynical/negative outlook
Self-doubt
Procrastinating and taking longer to get things done
Burnout stems from deep exhaustion and a lack of motivation due to overdoing. Compassion fatigue, however, comes from the fatigue caused by dealing with other people’s issues, trauma and sufferings, and it is common in any type of profession that focuses on helping others, let it be therapists, mental health workers or healthcare professionals… Recognizing the signs of compassion fatigue is crucial for therapists to address the issue before it escalates. If left unchecked, compassion fatigue can lead to burnout, negatively impacting both our professional performance and personal life. Here are some of the key indicators and warning signs of compassion fatigue:
Feelings of helplessness and powerlessness in the face of clients’ issues
Reduced feelings of empathy and sensitivity
Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted by work demands
Feeling detached, numb and emotionally disconnected
Loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy
Increased anxiety, sadness, anger, irritability and impatience
Feeling grief
Lack of intimacy
Difficulty concentrating and making decisions
Difficulty sleeping and sleep disturbances like nightmares
Physical symptoms like headaches, nausea, upset stomach and dizziness
Increased conflict in personal relationships
Neglect of our own self-care
Withdrawal and self-isolation
An increase in substance use as a form of self-medication
Addictive behaviours
Sometimes, it can be quite difficult to determine if you are experiencing burnout or compassion fatigue. As a therapist and mental health professional, you will experience compassion fatigue when you are overwhelmed from focusing too much on your clients’ well-being and unable to manage their stress and sometimes their expectations. If you experience constant headaches, distressed feelings, unwanted and negative thought patterns, and increased irritability or even anger that are affecting your overall life, you are likely experiencing compassion fatigue.
If you feel hopeless about the nature of your work and feel it has little positive impact on your life, however, you are probably experiencing burnout and are overworked. Burnout often occurs if you work long hours and are undercompensated for your workload. These factors place you under extreme stress and if left unattended can have a deep impact on your life.
Therapists dedicate so much of their time to others that it can be difficult for them to recharge, replenish and focus on themselves. Compassion fatigue can be a short-term experience during a particularly stressful time, or it can be a long-term state of being that affects your life and your practice.
We spoke about burnout and compassion fatigue and now, I would like to take a closer look at compassion fatigue.
Preventing compassion fatigue
Preventing compassion fatigue begins with a commitment to self-care. Therapists must prioritize their own mental and emotional well-being to maintain the strength needed to support others. Establishing clear boundaries is paramount; therapists should learn to differentiate between professional empathy and personal involvement in their clients' issues. Setting limits on work hours, taking regular breaks, and incorporating stress-reducing activities into our routine are essential strategies to prevent burnout and compassion fatigue.
The importance of self-care
Self-care is not a luxury but a necessity for therapists. In the words of inspirational writer Eleanor Brownn, "Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel." This quote underscores the significance of therapists prioritizing their own well-being to be effective healers. Incorporating mindfulness practices, engaging in hobbies and activities not related to their work, and seeking supervision or peer support are powerful ways to recharge and maintain a healthy life hygiene.
Early intervention: A crucial imperative
The danger of compassion fatigue lies in its potential to escalate into burnout, affecting not only the therapist but also the quality of care provided to their clients. Early intervention is paramount. Therapists must be attuned to their own mental and emotional states, regularly reflecting on their experiences to identify signs of fatigue. Seeking support from colleagues, supervisors, or mental health professionals can provide valuable insights and preventive strategies, ensuring that therapists can continue their work with passion and dedication.
Maintaining boundaries: The key to longevity
One of the most critical aspects of preventing compassion fatigue is establishing and maintaining clear boundaries. Therapists must remember that while they are dedicated to helping their clients, they are not responsible for solving all of their problems. Creating a healthy separation between professional and personal life allows therapists to be present for their clients without absorbing their burdens. This boundary-setting is an act of self-compassion and a fundamental element in building a sustainable and fulfilling career in therapy.
Spotting compassion fatigue and prevention
To spot compassion fatigue in its early stages, therapists must be attuned to their own emotional responses. If they notice a decline in their ability to empathize, increased irritability, or a persistent sense of dread before sessions, it is crucial to take a step back and evaluate their own well-being. Regular self-assessment, supervision, and engaging in ongoing professional development are effective tools for therapists to prevent compassion fatigue. By acknowledging the signs and proactively addressing them, therapists can ensure they are delivering the best possible care to their clients while tending to their own needs.
Final words
In the sacred world of therapy, where healing is both an art and a science, therapists are the unsung heroes. However, they, too, are susceptible to the silent erosion of their own well-being through compassion fatigue. By understanding the signs, prioritizing self-care, and establishing clear boundaries, therapists can not only prevent burnout but also thrive in their roles as compassionate healers.
As we embark on this journey of helping others heal themselves, let us always remember the wisdom in Lao Tzu's words: "Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. Do your work, then step back. The only path to serenity." May therapists find serenity in their dedication, embracing self-care as the cornerstone of their resilience.
Nadija Bajrami, Senior Level Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
French by birth, Nadija lived in Scotland for 7 years and travelled the world. After recovering from some serious health issues, Nadija had a wake-up call and came to Ireland to find her path. She has been living in Dublin since 2017. Nadija is working mostly online worldwide and shares her time between Ireland, France, and Switzerland.
Nadija is a multi-award-winning trauma and empowerment specialist and holds a double diploma in Hypnotherapy, Mind Coaching, and online therapy. She is also a Reiki master as well as a grief educator and trained with the international grief specialist and best-selling author David Kessler.
She is dedicated to helping her clients get empowered, supercharge their confidence and self-esteem, overcome their limiting beliefs as well as manage anxiety, and symptoms of traumatic experiences and help people on their grief and healing journey through her therapy, coaching, grief education and support programmes and spiritual work.
