Dr. Lauren, founder of Resilience Unlimited, is a seasoned educator, life coach, and entrepreneur, bringing unparalleled expertise to the organization. As a black woman with ADHD, she profoundly understands diverse challenges, covering trauma healing, education, parenting, and more.
Most people don’t deeply understand their triggers, why they’re triggered, or how to interface with the world. If you aren’t doing the inner work to understand who you are, life can become a cauldron of resentment, anger, fear, and anxiety. Interpersonal relationships are the foundation for building and creating the life you deserve. Everyone deserves inner peace and happiness. It takes courage to dig deep, understand who you are, and how to make the life you want. Through working with clients and my inner work, I’ve found two key things people need to thrive and live a happy, holistic life: understanding your life tasks and core values.
Alfred Adler, a pioneer in psychotherapy, wanted to help people get along with their family, friends, and others. He valued the role of cooperation and connectedness with the world around each person (Adler, 1938; Ansbacher, 1992a; King & Shelley, 2008). His message emphasized the power of personal choice, the universal fellowship of human beings, the importance of a positive, encouraging life focus, the eradication of social inequality, and the importance of social relationships. Adler believed that for all people, there are three fundamental life tasks: work, friendship, and love or intimacy. The work task is realized when work is meaningful and satisfying. The friendship task is achieved through fulfilling relationships with others.
Understanding these tasks equips you to make sound choices that lead to a more fulfilled, stress-free life. When you know your core values, placing people on the metaphorical bullseye is much easier. Think of each ring as a layer, and the further out you go, the less connected you are with those people. If you work with someone who fundamentally goes against your core values, you can place them on the outer ring. You work with them, and that’s it—they don’t need to be closer to the bullseye because they don’t align with your worldview or values. But people closer to the bullseye know more about you, share similar values, and may even interface with the world in the same light. Knowing your values and understanding your interpersonal dynamics make it much easier to navigate the world.
Working with women of color who are neurodiverse and who seek to regulate their emotions, understand their life purpose, and feel like they’re contributing to society is the core of my coaching services. Life is simple, but we often make it more complicated than it needs to be, even being women of color. By understanding your life tasks and core values, you can begin to untangle the complexities and create a path to a more peaceful, fulfilled life. If you are looking to learn more about our coaching program, head over to our website to learn about the Resilience Pathway Framework.
Key takeaways
Inner work is essential: Understanding your triggers and how to interface with the world is crucial for a peaceful, fulfilling life.
Interpersonal relationships matter: Building solid and meaningful relationships is the foundation for creating the life you deserve.
Courage and self-discovery: It takes courage to dig deep and understand who you are, but it's necessary for creating the life you want.
Life tasks: According to Alfred Adler, focusing on work, friendship, and love/intimacy can lead to a more fulfilled, stress-free life.
Core values: Knowing your core values helps you navigate relationships and place people appropriately in your life.
Coaching for women of color: Helping women of color regulate emotions, understand their purpose, and contribute to society is central to my coaching services.
Simplicity: Life is inherently simple, but we often complicate it unnecessarily. Understanding your tasks and values can simplify and enrich your life.
Dr. Lauren McClenney-Rosenstein, Neuro-Holistic Life Coach & Educational Therapist
Dr. Lauren, founder of Resilience Unlimited, is a seasoned educator, life coach, and entrepreneur, bringing unparalleled expertise to the organization. As a black woman with ADHD, she profoundly understands diverse challenges, covering trauma healing, education, parenting, and more. With over twelve years of experience internationally and domestically, Dr. Lauren prioritizes transformative journeys for families and women of color, emphasizing growth over survival. Committed to personal transformation, she guides clients with a compassionate, non-judgmental approach tailored to their unique needs. Embark on your journey to success with Dr. Lauren as your empowering guide at Resilience Unlimited.
