Written by: Laura J. Wellington, Executive Contributor
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Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss? Where's My Box? Earlier in the week, I was asked to fill out a questionnaire. It began by requiring me to define my title prior to filling in my first and last name. I thought about how uncomfortable I was in doing so…not because I had a problem with any of the titles offered – Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss – but because none of those exactly fit me. They all stopped “fitting me” years ago, if ever they had.
You see, I wasn’t born a Mr. I did use Miss as a young woman, but I happily traded that title in for Mrs. when I married my husband. When he died while I was in my mid-thirties, I embraced the title of Ms. because it seemed to suit me best at the time. To me, Ms. always depicted a woman who was “all business,” and frankly, I was. Being left with four little ones to raise alone and two failing companies to turn around in the aftermath of my husband’s death, I couldn’t be anything but.
However, somewhere between the age of forty-five and fifty-five, I morphed into a woman who finally 'came into her own' as a result of all of those previously mentioned titles and everything that came with them. Thus, I outgrew each and, in that, currently remain title-less.
Admittedly, I did research whether or not there were any additional titles available that I might have overlooked in my quest to fill in the proverbial box. The most reasonable ones that I came upon were “M’ or “Madame.” The former merely confused me. No doubt, it would confuse others too. The latter made me sound like a character straight out of Bridgerton and although I am a big fan of the series, I just can’t.
I find it truly ironic that, with all of the varied pronouns we recently adopted, that same train of thought hasn’t been applied to titles. I certainly can’t be alone in the gray abyss I continue to find myself. And although to many, it might be a small thing… to me, I’d like a proper box to check, one which makes me feel included too.
That said, by bringing the topic up doesn’t mean that I am pushing to eliminate all titles from our vernacular or society, especially those earned through remarkable accomplishments and degrees. I simply think we need to add one or two more to the group of titles considered mainstream simply because women have evolved beyond the present-day offerings. Otherwise, I may just have to create my own, such as Me.
Me. Laura J. Wellington, leaving everyone either wondering or laughing upon reading or hearing me refer to myself. I could probably live with the giggle as it would, once again, remind me of how far I have come and who I currently am today – a woman who has seriously moved beyond being able to be defined even by progressive standards. And again, I say, I’m not alone.
Laura J. Wellington, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Laura J. Wellington is the Founder of Celebrity-Lifestyle blog THREAD MB. A Media-Tech Entrepreneur, Wellington is also an Award-Winning Children's Entertainment creator and Author. Critics have called her most recent book "Be Careful What You Wish For" a 'magnum opus. A TEDx Speaker, Wellington's newest venture is called ZNEEX, an app that combines fitness and socializing for users and their dogs in a fun, new way that has partners saying "it's the best idea that they've heard in a very long time" (coming to you May 2022). A mother of five, Wellington was widowed at thirty-five years old. She has won The Forbes Enterprise Award, Multiple Telly Awards, The Buzz Award, and many more.
