Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally recognized marriage and family therapist with decades of experience in private practice and media. She is an expert in love and relationship intimacy, authoring her latest book, "Am I Lying to Myself? How To Overcome Denial and See The Truth", published in 2023.
February is often seen as the month of love, making it the perfect time to focus on deepening your connection with your partner. Love is not just about grand gestures but also about the small, intentional actions that build trust, intimacy, and understanding. As a therapist, I often remind couples that it is these thoughtful moments that nurture the emotional foundation of a relationship. Date nights are a wonderful way to create these moments, offering an opportunity to reconnect and invest in your partnership.
Whether you are in a new relationship or have been together for decades, carving out time for each other is essential. Life’s demands can sometimes pull us apart, but setting aside even one evening to prioritize your partner can bring you closer and reignite the spark in your relationship. Here is how to make your date nights in February truly meaningful.
Celebrate love with intentional conversations
Use your date night as a safe space for open and honest dialogue. Ask each other questions like, “What has been bringing you joy lately?” or “What is one thing you have been wanting to share with me?” These types of questions foster intimacy and help you connect on a deeper emotional level. A key to this connection is truly listening to your partner, hearing not just their words but the emotions behind them.
Create moments of gratitude
Take a moment to express appreciation for each other. Reflecting on what you love about your partner and sharing those thoughts aloud can make a date night extra special. Gratitude has the power to shift your perspective, helping you focus on the positives in your relationship. Use the power of a simple thank you often.
Engage in activities that bring you closer
Shared activities can strengthen your bond and create lasting memories. Whether you decide to try a cooking class, take a stroll under the stars, or simply watch a movie at home, the act of doing something together reminds you of your connection and shared goals.
Reflect on your relationship’s journey
February is also a great time to reflect on how far you have come as a couple. Think about the challenges you have overcome, the growth you have experienced, and the dreams you have built together. Reflecting on your journey can bring a renewed sense of gratitude and admiration for one another.
Set intentions for the future
As part of your date night, consider discussing your hopes and goals for the future, both individually and as a couple. Setting intentions together can strengthen your emotional bond and give you something to look forward to as a team. Planning a joint desire is a great way to do it.
Takeaway questions for your next date night
What is a favorite memory of ours that makes you smile?
What is something you have been dreaming about that we can work on together?
How can I show my love for you in ways that feel most meaningful to you?
A month to celebrate love and connection
Love is about more than just one day in February. It is about the continuous effort to understand, support, and cherish each other. As you celebrate this month of love, remember that small gestures often have the biggest impact. By prioritizing your relationship and committing to moments of connection, you are creating a partnership that will thrive for years to come.
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Dr. Jane Greer, Marriage and Family Therapist, Author, Radio Host
As a marriage and family therapist who has spent decades working with clients in her private practice and through her media work, Dr. Jane Greer has become a nationally recognized expert and authority in love and relationship intimacy.
