Written by: Corrussal Gee, Executive Contributor
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Many of us are not aware of the power of infinite life given to us at birth. We go through many challenges that living on this planet may present. From those challenges, we encounter fear, insecurities, hurt, poverty, disease, worry, depression, anxiety, disappointments, desperations, despair, discouragement, anger, confusion, loss, grief, and even strife. These challenges groom us to create walls and patterns of thought. We see it in our lives over and over again when we have been through something: what we received from that opportunity is a learned experience whether we recognize it or not. However, we are the only creatures on earth who have been given the ability to think and create. It is when we become aware that something is wrong that we know there must be something right. I'll say this again. Love is what brings life so until we become aware of what is wrong, only then we can become aware of something right. When we become aware of what is right then we get to choose.
What a wonderful opportunity to get to choose! From those opportunities, we ask ourselves "why are we here, what is our purpose, who are we, and are we making the best decisions? Why do we believe what we believe? Whose suggestions or whispers do we answer, respond to, or react to?
I am humbled to share my position in life with others. As I reflect on my position, I get to relive the process which now brings joy to my heart. Twenty years ago, I would not be able to confidently say this because of fear of the unexpected. My mother died at a very young age and we had not obtained a headstone for her. I had only visited the grave site once since her burial in 1987. I often wanted to go to the burial site but due to no visible marker and uncertainty, I did not follow through. It was only two years ago when I was allowed the sacred space with a coach to think of something I would like to see or accomplish. I thought clearly and spoke out that I wanted to honor my mother by giving her a headstone; something tangible to say that she was alive, vibrant, and special to many people. My coach asked me the best questions and I was able to discover that the uncertainty was about not being clear about getting permission from others and myself to move forward as well as choose an action set up by me to take the next step. By unfolding and releasing through the powerful questioning, I was able to see why I had not taken that first step years before. At the same time, I learned to embrace receiving the confidence and desire to follow through. I felt a burden lift from my chest and my breathing became less shallow as my chest cavity opened into the freedom of living. I knew after that moment, that I hoped to share with others the same sacred space I was given; a gift of life to choose from. Today, I am going to share with you something that will hopefully introduce you to the choice to live in freedom.
I have no techniques …
The gift of life gives us opportunities to ask questions needed to grow. One of my favorite books provides the clearest explanation of why ask questions to help us grow properly. "Questions hold the power to cause us to think, create answers we believe in, and motivate us to act on our ideas. Asking moves us beyond passive acceptance of what others say or staying stuck in present circumstances to aggressively apply our creative ability to the problem (Stoltzfus, Tony, 2008, "Coaching Questions, A Coaches Guide To Powerful Asking Skills" pg. 8). The questions become how we will choose to live our lives when making tough decisions.
Many of our lives have been tainted and at the opportune time, we have chosen or made choices that do not create the best results for us: some choices to choose what is not best for us are intentional: and many are not. So, at what point or what moment of clarity do we move into what is best for our lives and the good of life (humankind)? It is not always based on what feels good because many things in life feel good but when chosen, they form unwanted consequences and/or unforeseen demise.
When choosing what is best by the creator and gift of life, we choose what is not seen or often what is not seen before our natural eyes. It is when we ponder and accept the infinite life that is given when we took our first breath at birth.
I have no techniques…
I only invite you to be asked the best questions by individuals who have been trained to help you discover what is best for you. You are born with infinite power and the gift to choose wisely. When you allow yourself to be asked the best questions and open your heart to be vulnerable with a desire to discover the answer that our infinite Creator gives you. That opportunity, in a safe space, will allow you to answer so fully and honestly so that you can begin to uncover the unknown, revive from scarcity, heal from hurts, and create your best life ahead of you.
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Corrussal Gee, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
I am excited about serving women who are members of non-traditional families who face hardships within, also women who feel as though they are unable to break from unfulfilling patterns and to heal from broken relationships.
References:
Stoltzfus, T. (2008). Coaching Questions, A Coach's Guide to Powerful Asking Skills, 8.
