Having experienced drug addiction, divorce and burnout, Mark and Monica are now Mindset and Relationship Coaches who help people take control of their lives. In addition to celebrating 20 years of marriage in a blended family, they are also celebrating 10 years in business. They have helped hundreds of people change their relationship with themselves to turn their lives around. Monica and Mark help couples and individuals shift their thinking to thrive in all aspects of their lives. Their services have been recognized as the best life coaches in Adelaide.
Monica and Mark Sandercock , Mindset, Relationship and Executive Coaches
We have a lot of misconceptions about shifting our mindset, what’s the biggest one?
Often, people who come to us believe that they are unable to change their circumstances because they have experienced challenges for many years. Perhaps they have been seeing a therapist or a couple's counsellor and have only noticed small changes, but not had the breakthrough they seek. Once our clients become aware of how powerful their mindset is and how to feed it the right information, they report having big shifts fast. The majority of our clients are able to shift their mindset in a way they never imagined was possible, and they notice the ripple effect it has on both themselves and others.
What are the most common problems you solve through Mindset Coaching?
Often, we work with high achieving professionals who have lost the spark in their lives. They feel stagnant and may even feel lost in who they once were. In their busy careers, they have lost purpose and have forgotten to have fun. They don't even know what fun is anymore. Their health may be declining due to their workload as well as strained relationships with their loved ones, and they may have trouble feeling present and in the moment. Eventually, they ask themselves if this is all there is to life, work, eat and sleep. Is it time for me yet? As their pain around lack of fulfilment grows, they feel this voice inside of them becoming stronger and stronger. Working together, we assist them in restoring purpose, fulfillment, fun and excitement for life in general, with a whole lot of self-confidence in their ability to achieve it all. Then they realized something needed to change, but they didn't know what it was or how to do it.
What made you interested in Mindset and Relationship Coaching in the first place?
Monica was traveling in Australia from Sweden when they met 20 years ago. Upon moving to Australia, Monica became a stepmother to Mark's two children from a previous marriage. Their relationship became more challenging after they had a child together. Monica didn't know Mark was a functional drug addict and hid this from her, which adversely affected their relationship. In her search for anything that could save their relationship, Monica discovered coaching. At that point, Monica had been coaching for a year and had learned she could handle anything. Mark finally shared his secret with her. Rather than blaming Mark for not telling her, Monica was able to open her arms to him and thank him for sharing his deepest secret with her. As a result, Mark also began his coaching journey and joined Monica to help others change their lives.
Can you describe the difference between coaching and counselling?
In coaching, we focus on the future so that our clients can excel without spending a lot of time talking about their past. We assist our clients to heal past hurt from childhood through well proven methodologies however we do not focus on the past. We help our clients rewire their mindset so they can let go of old beliefs that have kept them stuck for years. We both have a direct and no-nonsense approach, which helps our clients stay committed to their goals. Our goal is to walk beside them on their journey with us, believing in them more than they believe in themselves, until they do. Clients love our authenticity, and we share our story and challenges to help others.
Which changes make the biggest difference for your clients and what are they able to achieve as a result?
We can achieve incredible results in every area of our lives when we learn to trust ourselves in a way we have never done before. Then, we can take on new risks and opportunities that might have been beyond our reach before. The relationships we have with our family, friends, partners and children improve, and we become great role models for them. When we work on all the things holding us back, we become a force to be reckoned with. After working with us, our clients often feel more fulfilled from the inside out, no longer placing their worth on what they have achieved rather than who they are as human beings.
Is there one Magic tool that you would give away to make a big difference in someone’s life?
Our ability to have fun and enjoy ourselves on a regular basis has a huge impact on how happy and fulfilled we are in life and how confident we are on many levels. It is important we take time out from our busy lives on a regular basis and do things that fill us up.
When it comes to shifting our mindset, this seems very basic and is often overlooked. Whether it's health, wealth, or relationships, joy accelerates success in every area of our lives. Our quality of life increases when we have many opportunities to experience fun and adventure on a regular basis. By engaging in stimulating, new activities, we grow and learn, feel alive, and experience a new sense of purpose. We become very attractive when we bring this energy to our work, our relationships, and our health. Through this, we move from the "treadmill of average and sameness" into possibilities and opportunities.
