Janet is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Hypnotherapist, and Certified Conscious Parenting Coach. Janet helps adults heal from the emotional pain and trauma of their past. She is the owner of Janet Philbin, ACSW a private psychotherapy and hypnotherapy practice. For 21 years Janet has been successfully helping people recover from their emotional wounds and change their lives with the power of transformational healing and hypnotherapy.
She’s the author of, Show Up For Yourself: A Guide to Inner Awareness and Growth. Her book offers readers a framework to heal their emotional wounds and become emotionally whole once again. Show Up For Yourself hit Amazon’s bestseller status and won as a finalist in the 2020 Readers Favorite book contest. She works closely with Dr. Shefali Tsabary, NY Times best-selling author and Oprah’s favorite parenting expert, as an ambassador in her Conscious Parenting Coaching Method Institute.
Janet Philbin, Hypnotherapist & Parenting Coach
Who is Janet?
I am a seeker. For as long as I can remember I have always been searching to understand myself in relation to the world around me. Even as a young child I often found myself wondering about the universe and what my place in it really was. As a child, I can recall wondering how I fit into the bigger scheme of life. I always believed there was something greater than just me and what I knew in the world around me like there was more to be explored. I did not have the words to describe it then nor did I know what it meant or even what I was looking for specifically. I had an inner knowing that there had to be more than what I could see with my eyes, feel with my hands and sense with my senses. I had a great imagination for playing and exploring my world. I think my childhood imagination and curiosity laid the foundation for the person I have now become and who I am still becoming.
I was born in Brooklyn, NY, and raised on Long Island. I am the oldest of 3 girls. My sisters and I had a very close relationship with our grandparents. When they came to visit, we would devote our entire day or weekend to spending it with them. The relationship with my grandparents was one of the strongest building blocks for the person I am today. What I learned through them as I grew up informed my values and belief systems. My grandparents were Holocaust survivors who lost almost everyone in the concentration camps they taught my sisters and me the value of nurturing relationships, unconditional love, and the importance of family.
Inspired by my close relationship with my grandparents I decided that I wanted to work with the elderly and when I began my career as a social worker. I eventually got to do what I always dreamed of doing which was to be a nursing home social worker. I spent the first 8 years of my career in health care before beginning my private psychotherapy and hypnotherapy practice in 1999 which I still have to this day. I am also an author. I wrote the Amazon best-selling and award-winning book, Show Up For Yourself- A Guide to Inner Awareness and Growth. It was published in 2020.
I am married to an amazing man and have 3 children- two are grown and one still in high school. We have 2 rescue dogs. Both are 12 pounds but think they are German Shepherds, typical doggie Napoleon Complex. They make us laugh every day.
Professionally, I am a licensed clinical social worker, certified hypnotherapist, certified conscious parenting coach, and master energy healer. I combine all my skills and gifts in my work with clients.
What is it that you do for your clients?
I work with adults who want to heal from the emotional pain and trauma of their past. My passion is working with clients through transformational hypnotherapy. Over the last 30 years, I have never stopped learning. When I work with clients, I employ all my eclectic skills as a clinician along with my gifts as a healer, hypnotherapist, and coach to guide clients back home to their very own hearts. Most of us have experienced at least one significant event in our life that has left a scar. The challenge is the subconscious mind does not know that the hard time in your life is over. As a result, you cope with challenges in your life now as if the struggle from back then was present in this moment in time. I believe you must heal at the source of the pain; you must uncover and deconstruct the patterns you live and the limiting belief systems you have internalized and put new healthy coping skills in their place. When you do this, you create the emotional freedom you have always craved to create the life you want to live now.
Clients come to me when they feel there is an emotional block within them, and they are feeling stuck. They know there is something inside getting in their way of reaching their goals and understanding themselves better. It may sabotage relationships, affect work, impact their self-care. They may feel angry, sad, shame, or guilt-ridden, and they are ready to feel better. I help clients find compassion, understanding, forgiveness, and love for themselves. For so many, these very important aspects of self-care are missing. The healing process I guide my clients through includes understanding the healing paradigm I work with, which is my theory called, The Spiral of Healing. We come to understand that all healing happens from the inside out and that it is a process. The process includes going through and feeling what is going on in our body and mind, we heal these aspects of the lost self and wounded inner child, we grow which is a process of breaking free from the old limiting beliefs and coping skills and we find love, self-love, which includes self-care, compassion, forgiveness, and understanding.
Who should hire/work with you?
Anyone who is open and ready to heal should work with me. I help people break free from the painful stories of their past by healing from the inside out so they can become emotionally whole once again. If you are ready to do deep work, if you want to understand why you are stuck, if you want to get to know yourself better then you are the right client for me. I do not believe in quick fixes. That is just a band-aid that covers up the wound underneath. My goal with and for my clients is to help them heal the wound.
What is your big goal? Where do you see yourself 10 years from now?
Ten years from now I would love to be teaching on a bigger platform. My dream was always to be able to share the healing work I do to reach more people. It was one of my big reasons for writing my book. I would love to teach other healers, hypnotherapists, coaches, therapists the healing modality I use and my theory of the Spiral of Healing. I would also love to do a TED talk. I think that would be a ton of fun.
What is some advice you can offer people to help them right now if they are struggling emotionally?
Pause. There is so much power and self-empowerment in the pause. What I mean is that when things feel hard, when you are overwhelmed, when you want to avoid all your big feelings it is time to slow down and take a hard stop. You do this by pausing. You sit down. You feel your feet on the floor. You focus on your breath and the rise and fall of your chest as you breathe.
Breathe. Take a shorter inhale and a longer exhale. When you breathe like this, like a long sigh, it helps to reset and regulate your nervous system. Once you pause and take a few long sighs that will help you calm down to move onto the next steps.
Orient yourself to the present moment. Anxiety comes from being stuck in the past with regret or lost in thought about the future with worry which has not happened yet. You may even find yourself trying to control the future outcome of something but, that is not possible. However, what you can do and where you do have control is in the present moment. Once you have taken the moment to pause and breathe then you orient yourself to the here and now. Take in the details of where you are. Where are you sitting? What time is it? What clothing are you wearing? Is it day or night? What is the date? Look around and take in your environment noting as many details as possible. This will bring you into the present and into your body.
Be in the moment. Take 5-10 minutes or longer and be mindful about being present. In the present moment, there is no anxiety. At this moment you are ok just as you are and then in the next moment, you will also be ok. Keep reminding yourself to be in the moment. We cannot control the future, but we oversee how we cope in each moment.
Journal. Take a little time to write down the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that were overwhelming. There is no right or wrong way to journal. The important part of journaling is the process of writing. Writing allows you to get the thoughts out of your mind and body this offers you a way to decrease stress.
Resume your activities. Once you have done the above steps you can go back to what you were doing and take the mindfulness of staying in the present moment with you. You can come back to this practice many times throughout the day to find balance.
