Written by: Alicia Drew, Special Guest Writer
Being snowed in with your partner can be an opportunity to put some spice back into your relationship. By focusing on communication, romance, playfulness, surprises, shared interest, and intimacy, you can keep the flame alive and create lasting memories. Embrace the coziness of the season, and let the snow outside be the backdrop for a warm and loving connection inside your home. I work with high achieving individuals facing marriage challenges, this can be an opportunity to not only weather the storm outside but also strengthen the bond within. Be sure to put the work aside for a bit and enjoy being present with your partner, which means putting your phone and electronics away and giving them your full attention. Here are some tips to keep your relationship happy and spicy while snowed in this winter.
Communication is Key; healthy and effective communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Take advantage of the cozy setting to engage in open and honest conversations with your wife. Use this time to discuss your feelings, desires, concerns and goals. By being attentive and actively listening, you can deepen your understanding of each other, fostering a stronger emotional connection. If you need some conversation starters, some books like “If…” or “Conversation Starters” can offer good questions to get the ball rolling, I just always say there’s no right or wrong answer. I love that when I use this book, my parter of 32 years and I can still learn new things about each other.
Create a Winter Wonderland Date Night: Transform your living space into a winter wonderland for a romantic date night. Dim the lights, light some candles or the fireplace and enjoy a homemade dinner and cuddle up under a warm blanket. Share stories, reminisce about your favorite memories together, and express your gratitude for having each other. These simple yet meaningful gestures can reignite the spark in your relationship. Consider cooking together, there's something special about preparing a meal together. Use this time to experiment with new recipes or recreate old favorites. Cooking together fosters teamwork and promotes shared experiences this shared activity can be a fun and intimate experience. Set the mood with soft music and create an atmosphere that encourages relaxation and closeness. Don’t be afraid to dance, touch and be playful, sensual and connected as you cook, dance or play games.
Embrace Playfulness: A snowed-in scenario provides the perfect opportunity to embrace the playful side of your inner child. Engage in activities that bring joy and laughter, like playing board games, building a snowman, making ice cream out of snow or even having a friendly snowball fight. Sharing playful lighthearted moments can break down barriers and strengthen the emotional connection between you and your partner.
Surprise Each Other: Keep the excitement alive by surprising each other with thoughtful gestures. It could be a handwritten note expressing your love, a small gift, or a spontaneous dance in the living room. Surprises demonstrate your commitment to keeping the relationship dynamic and fun, even during the snowiest of days. the opportunity as a chance to express your love in unexpected ways, keeping the spark alive even when you're stuck indoors. For bonus points, take The Five Love Languages Quiz, & taper the surprise to your partners top two love languages. This allows them to really feel loved and cherished in the way that most speaks to them.
Explore Shared Hobbies: Discover or rediscover activities that you both enjoy. Whether it's binge-watching a new series, reading books together, or engaging in a creative project, working on a puzzle, finding common interests can strengthen your bond. Use the time indoors to connect on a deeper level by exploring hobbies that bring you joy as a couple.
Last but not least, Prioritize Intimacy: Intimacy is a vital aspect of any romantic relationship. Use this time together to reconnect on a physical and emotional level. Share your desires, be attentive to your partner's needs, and explore new ways to express your love. Intimacy fosters a deep connection and reinforces the emotional bond between partners. Talk about each other's likes and dislikes from a place of curiosity, not judgment, and discuss anything new you’ve always wanted to try. Take advantage of the cozy setting to cuddle up, share intimate moments, and express your love physically. Experiment with new ways to connect intimately, fostering a sense of closeness that can endure long after the snow has melted.
What makes you feel most connected and loved by your partner? Use this article as a guide for tips or as a starting point for conversations with your partner to to reignite the flame in your relationship while it’s cold outside.
Alicia Drew, Special Guest Writer
Alicia Drew, MA, LPC, LCPC, and Relationship Expert. I am a licensed therapist, own a group private practice and coach high achieving men and women to understand their partner so they can have a happy marriage and reignite passion.
