Written by: Eleni Poling, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
You don’t want a man that you can tame.
Many men fear that if they stand firm in their ‘No’ or in their boundaries that their woman will get upset or leave.
And so they cave.
Fearing that he will lose love.
Fearing that he will lose her.
Each time that she presses on him and tests him, he loses trust in himself and the unhealed inner boy starts to run the show instead chaotic inner Feminine and emotion
The most important thing that a man can do if he is with a strong woman is to hold the mountain by standing firm in his integrity.
His woman will poke and she will test (and this isn’t always a conscious thing that she does) but an unconscious part of her wants to test because she wants to see if she can let go and trust him.
Will, he waiver when I press?
Do I have power over him?
What the Feminine desires from a man in these moments are to actually HOLD the Masculine pole, although on the outside she may be showing something else, this is in fact her deeper desire
As long as a man holding the pole isn’t coming from stubbornness but from his heart integrity
Know the difference
If a man holds himself in moments when it is called for, her ego will begin to dissolve and her system will begin to register that she is safe to let go and be receptive to him.
There is a masculine gift here for the feminine.
The Feminine doesn’t want a man that she can control.
Her deeper desire is for her Masculine partner to not bend to her will.
If a woman is trying to get a man to ‘do’ anything there will be resistance anyway and so there should be.
There should be no one in a relationship trying to have ‘power over’ anyone, be manipulative to try and get something, or even trying to tell another what to do.
Note: A woman that is trying to direct and lead is taking the masculine pole, and so if a man is also in his Masculine, there is no magnet nor inspiration from her for him to rise.
The Feminine inspires Masculine leadership.
It is she that creates the magnet.
Example: Using the word ‘should’ feels like a demand.
”You should do ‘x’ feels demanding and feels as though a mother is telling a young boy what to do.
‘Do it this way is also very directional Masculine
A softer, more inspiring, and also inviting approach may be something saying something like, “Have you thought about it from the ‘x’ angle instead? or ”Have you thought about taking this approach?”
And so, if we look closely here at this dynamic, it is in fact the Masculine that creates the structure and holds the vision for the relationship, and it is the Feminine that sets the tone.
Eleni Poling, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Eleni Poling is a teacher, mentor, and healing channel who supports women to embody their most authentic spiritual and sexual expressions in the areas of intimacy and life purpose.
Through live training, workshops, group programs, and private mentoring, Eleni provides women with wisdom and somatic-based practices to embody their deepest love and deepen their capacity for intimacy within themselves as well as in their relationships.
Her brand of coaching is far from generic. Through her intensive studies in vibrational healing and mindset work, she created her own approach to transformational healing that allows her students and clients to crush limiting beliefs, break free from self-sabotage, and step into being the woman that they know they were always born to be.
