Niketa Vakani is a Self-Love and Relationship coach helping individuals find a deeper love and acceptance of themselves, resulting in an improvement of their relationships and other areas of their lives. She has been a guest speaker on the podcast The Unfiltered Podcast: For some reason, I had to have MS and Sunday SoulDay.
Believing in yourself to an almost unrealistic degree might sound reckless, but it can be the key to unlocking extraordinary success. Delusional confidence and unwavering faith in your vision despite obstacles have fueled some of history’s greatest achievements. By harnessing this mindset, you can shift your reality, attract opportunities, and manifest the life you truly desire.
What is delusional confidence?
Delusional Confidence: When you are trying to manifest, it is the strong, rooted belief that you can attract something that you would otherwise think is impossible! It is a level of self-assurance or belief in your ability to create something despite evidence or feedback suggesting otherwise. It requires disconnecting from the norm and reality of life by having an exaggerated sense of your own skills, intelligence, and potential. When practised safely and dedicatedly, it can change the story of your life.
Imagine living in your dream home, having loving relationships, and the unwavering faith that the universe will always take care of all your financial needs. Do you know that you actually do have the ability to manifest these into your life!
It wasn’t always the case for me
Now, it is important for me to emphasise here that none of the above have been acquired easily by me in my life and that I still need to put in the daily work to maintain these. In my own life, within 3 years, I have experienced a debilitating health battle, an abusive relationship leading to an acrimonious divorce, the potential loss of my home, and the actual loss of a job in a profession that was considered secure. I truly believe that the universe wants to gift you specific lessons that will shake you, make you uncomfortable, and move you until you are forced to take some action!
Prior to my learning about manifestation, I would yearn for the things that I did not have- owning my home, maintaining perfect health, financial abundance, etc, often praying and wishing for them. The type of energy that I was emitting was a ‘lack’ kind of energy. These were the messages I was sending to the universe, and the universe was only giving me back more of what I was thinking and feeling!
Something needed to change
I could not continue worrying about paying my bills if I would be lonely forever, or how my debilitating health was going to affect my future. Losing a job after 23 years of service in the teaching profession made me realise that I really had to create a better life for myself and my children.
Mirror work saved me
I implemented Mirror Work into my life. It helped me to identify how my past traumas were shaping my life and my limiting beliefs and guided me to tune in with my regular patterns of thinking. The inner work enlightened me to the realisation that a lot of things were not materialising for me because I was not fully embracing an embedded positive mindset. Of course, this was challenging for me! My health battle had made me question why I had experienced this immense struggle. It made me feel undeserving of any good and think that perhaps I was being punished for something. My failed marriage made me question my ability to have chosen a more compatible life partner, and the guilt of breaking a family home consumed me.
Though I outwardly appeared to be exuding positivity, my inner dialogue was massively critical of myself.
You see, I knew that these thoughts were not healthy nor serving me in creating a more meaningful and fulfilling life. The Mirror Work also made me realize that I am deserving of all the good and abundance that life has to offer. It helped me carefully witness the thoughts that were holding me back in my life and learn how to create a new narrative of my future life story. This is where the delusional confidence came in.
Being delusionally confident is an excellent way of manifesting something you really desire.
The greatest thing about being delusionally confident is that you can use your wildest imagination to go to town with this! The fact that you know you are being delusional actually adds a bit of fun, lightheartedness, and adventure to it!
I would speak into a mirror (the camera on my phone!) every morning and delude myself into believing things about myself that I had not been able to previously.
I found it extremely tough to begin with
I had to force myself to tell myself that I loved myself and was doing my best! I faced a lot of resistance from my ego and even had to get the tissues out on a number of occasions. Undoing a lifetime of criticism, abuse, and judgement does not happen overnight, but I was determined to persevere and face all of my demons. It took time and consistency, but I finally got there!
I had terrible acne as a teenager, I was bullied at university for my looks, and I became obese on the long-term use of steroids due to my MS. I never felt confident about how I appeared to the outside world.
The ‘delusional’ resistance I initially felt faded away like a cloud. As I became more confident, I started adding things that I wanted to transpire in my life, such as my current, beautiful home. I even wrote down the exact delusional price I wanted to buy it for, and it manifested! Through Mirror work, I even started to tell myself ‘delusionally’ that I looked younger day by day, which started to manifest in comments from strangers telling me that I looked at least ten years younger!
When you start to see the fruits of your manifestations, you begin to have more faith in the process and believe that your life experience can also be more beautiful.
You start to crank it up a notch, challenge your preconceived limitations, and begin to think big!
You take the impossible out of it and say I am possible!
For example, if you want financial abundance or that perfect relationship, you have to delude yourself into believing that you already have it! Yes, that means feeling, thinking, and acting as though you already have it! You literally live your fantasy!
When you spend money, rather than feeling the dread of parting with it, you delude yourself into feeling fabulous at handing it over, knowing that you trust the universe to provide for you! You walk around glowing, satiated with the knowing that you are in a wonderful relationship with a loving partner who adores you and fulfills you physically, spiritually, mentally, etc.
Think about how you would feel if you really had all this. This is the feeling and frequency you hold onto in every moment of your day. The universe gives you more of what you believe you have, and the greater the positive vibrations you emit when feeling this, the more successful you will be in your manifesting ability.
I manifested my dream holiday in the Maldives
I had always wished for my perfect holiday in the Maldives. My previous limiting beliefs convinced me that this was a dream destination, which only the lucky and blessed have the opportunity to experience. For me, it was a far-fetched fantasy and one that, as a single mother, would never materialise unless, of course, I met a rich, handsome man who decided to take me on a honeymoon there! In reality, I did not have the finances either. However, I decided to work on deluding myself that my dream would come true!
How did I make this possible?
I flipped my thinking. I no longer perceived it as a ‘long shot’ of a holiday. Finances were no longer an issue in my mind. I deluded myself into imagining that I had the holiday already booked. I was swimming in the azure blue sea and walking on the soft, powdery sand. I was eating fresh, luscious meals every day and basking in the glory of Heaven on Earth! My kids were worthy and deserving of it, too! These were my recurring thoughts! Some are delusional, and some are empowered by a newly founded sense of self-love and deservability! You see if anyone qualified for it, it was me! I told myself that! Why not? I've had my rough dealing with cards in the past, but this time, the cards were getting it right!
Can you feel that energy? That pumpedupness? That is what you need to exude
Oh yes!
My dream and desire manifested into my reality! A Maldives picture on my vision board, which at one point had been shoved under my bed, buried along with the other dreams that had depicted themselves on that cardboard, became a reality for my family and me!
It takes unwavering faith and commitment to the process of becoming delusionally confident. You really have to believe it is possible, no matter how delusional the desire is!
If I can make it happen, so can you!
If you would like some more tips and guidance on how to make your own dreams a reality, please contact me so I can show you how to make it happen too!
Niketa Vakani, Self-Love and Relationship Coach
Niketa is a dedicated Self-Love and Relationship Coach, inspiring countless individuals with her story of resilience and personal transformation. Faced with immense challenges, including an abusive marriage and severe health issues leading to paralysis, Niketa has triumphed over adversity through unwavering faith and determination.
After being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, she fought her way back to health, relearning to walk and reclaiming her life. A Jay Shetty certified coach, Niketa now uses her experiences to empower others, helping them build self-love, strength, resilience, and confidence. Her life motto, "Face your challenges, dance with life," encapsulates her approach to overcoming obstacles and finding joy amidst adversity.
