Written by: Jules Francis, Executive Contributor
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Have you ever been stopped in your tracks by won't power? I bet you have. You may just not have realised it.
We all have heard of willpower. Some of us even complain that we might not have enough of it. And it is due to that lack of willpower that we are the weight that we are.
Today, I would like to share two things that might help you along your journey to a transformed opinion of yourself and your body.
The first is that your eating choices have absolutely zilch, zero, nada to do with how much willpower you have. It is a popular weight loss myth that can get people in a pickle – they focus their attention on having a lack of willpower instead of focusing on what is truly important - which is they are enough just as they are.
Who is Will anyway?
Why do we put so much attention on willpower? Replace Will's name with your name and make it your power.
This subtle shift is so powerful. Once it is yours to own, you’ll notice it changes depending on your mood, current situation, and the people you surround yourself with.
Your power is your reality, willpower is the myth.
One of the most destructive things we can do is compare ourselves to others. It can leave us feeling negative, and insecure and question more than we need to about ourselves.
Would you agree that we only really see the sides of others that they are willing to show us? We never get to see the entire picture. How then can the comparison to others be a good option?
A client of mine brought her relationship challenges to our session the other day. What became apparent quickly was that when she felt a sense of low self-esteem when connecting to her partner, it was a direct result of comparing herself to how her younger self used to be in relationships, with far fewer challenges than she has now in her life.
We did a powerful exercise of letting go of who she used to be to welcome her present, wiser, more experienced self. By the end, she felt like she had dropped kilos!
Carrying around the pressure of trying to be someone she no longer was, felt like an extra physical weight. Some of which can manifest into actual weight. No amount of eating broccoli and seeds will shift that weight.
The second point to share today is that won't power is far more powerful than willpower.
That self-destruct button can get easily pushed. That unique skill we as human beings have means we can get in our way yet somehow make something else the reason for our non-action.
What is your best excuse for eating food you know is bad for you yet do it anyway?
It was Easter. My birthday is coming up. The day ends in a Y. You know the excuses you make for yourself – that is won't power at play.
Won't power means you give up on yourself. You somehow lose your vision and drive to achieve your goals and desires.
Having too much won't power can, unfortunately, contribute to weight challenges, ill health, and poor lifestyle choices. Therefore, I am here to draw your awareness to it.
Once you realise you use your willpower in a negative sense, and it is a myth, you will also realise there is never a reason for comparison to others, feelings of inferiority, and resorting to won't power.
If you are keen to hear some other myths about weight loss, I invite you to listen to my free masterclass on the five steps to transforming your relationship with food, eating and your body without restricting what you eat.
Join me here https://www.julesfrancis.com/5stepmasterclass
To your health!
Jules Francis, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Jules Francis is the go-to-expert for career-driven women who are looking to transform their relationship with food.
She has helped hundreds of people from all walks of life to help them understand the underlying causes of why they have unhealthy eating behaviours.
With three decades of experience, Jules has the insight and experience to see what truly underpins low confidence and how people often choose compensating behaviours to deal with it.
Jules is a multi-award-winning health coach, co-author of 2 best-selling books and creator of 2 online courses, The Food Breakthrough Academy and The Reset Button.
