Written by Royce Morales, Transformational Facilitator, Teacher, Podcast Host, Speaker, Author, Columnist
Royce Morales is a renowned trailblazer and creator of an innovative, spiritually-based approach to inner transformation. Her program, Perfect Life Awakening, emerged from a lifetime of frustration searching for inner work that worked. She discovered that by revealing specific subconscious origins of self-sabotage and removing its persistent influence, life can shift.
You’ve undoubtedly heard the famous 60’s phrase, “Go with the flow.” But what does it really mean? And is it possible or even desirable to do that? There are countless negative attitudes about that concept. Some judge it as being opinionless, following the beaten path as you sheepishly tail along with the majority. It’s labeled as being ‘wishy washy,’ conforming, complacent, even apathetic.
On a positive note, going with the flow can imply not wasting time trying to change others but working on changing yourself instead. It can mean going around obstacles rather than trying to plow through them and or being open to new directions when life presents changes or challenges.
Going with the flow means harmonizing being part of a chorus of voices, with each tone blending in with the others yet adding your uniqueness to the whole. That translates to doing what you are meant to be doing in this life, your purpose.
Being out of flow can mean that you have bought into hopelessness. Like feeling stuck in a bad job, believing there’s nothing better out there and not even trying to find something else.
Being in the flow means asking yourself what you really need rather than sticking to those unbendable demands dictating in your head.
Intuition is flow
Most humans have lost touch with or have never met their intuition. Intuition is your higher consciousness ‘antenna’ that’s always trying to help navigate life, free from the voice of fear. Intuition is the clear, nagging knowing that happens when you’re about to do something you shouldn’t do or say yes to something you should say no to.
It prods you to go in the direction you need to go, leading you to who you should meet, urging you to say something without knowing why, and take a leap even when you’re terrified.
Intuition is inner wisdom, going in your soul’s direction. Its goal is to awaken your true purpose, and not surprisingly, it can take some unexpected routes and odd experiences to help you get there.
It might take a while, but you will always find out what happens from not listening to that inner power. You feel out-of-whack, endlessly manipulating, struggling helplessly in fear, confusion ,and doubt. Things fall apart. Nothing works. Yes, there is lots of floundering.
After enough time ignoring your intuition and discovering why you should have, it becomes more of a priority unless it gives up on you, which it can choose to do.
Going with the flow is trusting your inner wisdom, knowing it’s accurate even when it doesn’t make logical sense. The more you listen, the stronger it gets and the more confident you feel, trusting wherever it’s leading. Or pushing.
Flow means non-resistance
In judo you learn that true power is in not resisting your partner’s moves. In boxing it’s understanding how to roll with the punches. Ballroom dancing shows that the one being led is actually the one in control. Lamaze teaches mindful breathing, going with the pain of labor rather than fighting it.
Nature offers profound lessons about non-resistance. Trees don’t fight the wind as it blows their leaves to the ground. They accept their role of enriching the soil for a snowy winter and feeding wildlife with acorns. Buds don’t resist blooming into flowers or battle attracting bees to gather their pollen.
Trusting vs fighting
Sadly, humans have difficulties trusting. No matter how often they are reminded by spiritual dogma as well as psychologists to graciously accept change, to turn lemons into lessons, they still fight it.
In my experience, once you live immersed in trust, you are fully supported. You discover that this is a friendly universe whose job is to say yes all the time. If it appears to not be supporting you, take a look at what you are really putting out there.
The adage, whatever you resist persists is a profound truth to remember. In other words, there’s no fighting, no running, no second-guessing. Just trust the process even when surfing what looks like unpredictable tides of life, knowing that the wave will carry you to shore. That’s its job.
Does that mean you are not supposed to make waves or rock the boat? Should you be more concerned with fitting in, adapting and even caving in? Or be constantly compliant, even if it feels wrong or goes against your principles?
Does it mean perish the thought of giving up rather than standing up?
My short answer is a defiant no! However, it depends on where you are coming from when you choose to stand up. If it’s from anger, judgmentalness, feeling superior, needing attention, or fear, it won’t work. That just adds more resistance.
Go with the flow purposefulness
Once you know that, on some level, you have chosen everything in your life, you know you have the power to either resist it or choose something else. Recognizing, confronting and challenging your negative, self-sabotaging beliefs is the first step.
The more you are in touch with and living your purpose, the more you are going with the flow. Life automatically steps up to assist in that flow, providing opportunities, coincidences and even miracles.
So, what is purposefulness? It’s a deep knowing that you brought with you as to your role in life. We all have the same Universal Purpose: giving and receiving love in the form it is meant to take.
Purposefulness provides confidence that where you’re heading is the right place to land even if you’re not sure where that might be. Even if you are shaking in your boots, resisting every illogical step you feel led to take. And, even if it appears to be a dead end.
When you follow where your intuition pulls, even if it doesn’t seem logical, eventually, things do make sense. Reasons show up. Lessons are learned. Situations resolve. Clean-ups occur. Shifts happen.
Being in the flow allows you to sense that there is a way for everything that happens. It’s trusting that the Big Picture of your life will unfold and that everything you go through and every choice you make will all make sense.
Keep in mind that real flow can’t be faked. On a higher consciousness level, you might be acting like you trust and pretending to go with the flow, but it boils down to your true intent. Impossible to pretend to let the current direct you when flailing wildly.
What pulls you out of flow
Going with the flow is scary. You have to absolutely trust, trust, trust. If you have ever tried to let go like that, what stopped you? Were you concerned with losing respect or approval, being judged as weird? Hearing those behind-your-back whispers about why doesn’t she try harder? Why is she just sitting there? Why did she make such a stupid, irrational choice?
Another branch of that fear is relinquishing control. Yet, not being in the flow means trying to swim against the current, which certainly is not being in control. Resisting the direction you need to go is exhausting, eventually leading to dead ends and frustration. You will be admonishing yourself, saying, why didn’t I trust?
When living in alignment with your Soul’s Purpose, you feel empowered; every aspect of life feels effortless, flowing, and right. You don’t feel the need to push yourself or others too hard; you never feel burned out, struggling to start or finish things, procrastinating or feeling unmotivated.
Being in the flow allows you to take inspired, consistent action and you also know when to let go. Flow means trusting and allowing the Universe to work for you, which it will do if you allow it!
Most importantly, feel the pulls of your soul and trust the direction it is destined to go. If you don’t, you’ll always be swimming upstream without a paddle.
Royce Morales, Transformational Facilitator, Teacher, Podcast Host, Speaker, Author, Columnist
Royce Morales is a renowned trailblazer and creator of an innovative, spiritually-based approach to inner transformation. Her program, Perfect Life Awakening, emerged from a lifetime of frustration searching for inner work that worked. She discovered that by revealing specific subconscious origins of self-sabotage and removing its persistent influence, life can shift.
She developed a clearing technique that releases programmed, false beliefs from this as well as previous lives. Negative patterns and hidden fears resolve so paralyzing issues lose their impact. This exclusive, time-tested work takes students from triggered to empowered, uncovering their authentic, purpose-driven life.
PLA also provides applicable tools to navigate daily life – ways to rapidly shift from anger to calm, fear to acceptance, judgement to connection. The work emphasizes awareness of, trusting and following one’s innate intuitive wisdom, then taking bold, inspired, real-world action.
The Perfect Life Awakening courses take place remotely and are presented in small groups to provide individual attention. Royce offers private inner discovery sessions to facilitate deeper work, utilizing her proprietary spiritual clearing technique called Spiritual Cognition Integration.
Royce is the author of three books about her teachings: Want – True Love, Past Lives and Other Complications; Know: A Spiritual Wake-up Call and Back: Rebirth After Stroke, all available on Amazon.
Go to Royce’s YouTube channel where she shares enlightening information about her teachings. She posts weekly blogs and writes articles for several other publications.
