Written by: Jules Francis, Executive Contributor
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Do you set health, weight, or exercise goals and then set the same ones again the year after? And the year after that? I see hundreds of people all wanting to change something significant about the way they look, feel, or eat and for many, they have got to the point of total frustration. Their patience is running low, their symptoms are increasing, and their motive has now become urgent.
Without a strong motive and a must, any excuse will get in the way, like boredom or deadlines or school holidays, and BAM- the goal goes out the window.
Does this sound familiar?
Some people, on the other hand, don’t have a strong enough motive in the first place, and it’s my job to help them find one that would drive them to make these life-changing transformations more easily.
Once the motive is strong, the goal needs to become a must. No matter what.
When the motive is more powerful than an urge or a craving, magic can be made!
How to create a must
First, get in touch with the consequences of what would happen if no changes were made. What is the pain, the outcome, or the effect on others if your goals are not met?
How would you feel 1, 5, or 10 years from now if your condition or feeling gets worse and what would the consequences of this be on you or your family?
When you’ve visualised the outcome of not achieving your goal to the point that you can feel it in your body, shift your focus to how you would feel if you do achieve it.
How would you feel if you woke up in the morning with this goal very much resolved?
What positive thoughts could now come in if you were no longer worrying about the issue you used to be challenged with?
Having a positive mindset
A positive mindset is everything when it comes to changing one’s perspective around food.
Thinking about eating healthily instead of losing weight will make a difference. Focusing on thoughts that make you feel lighter instead of focusing on feeling heavy in your body. This will make a huge difference.
Minimise the effort
Forcing yourself to do something you really don’t want to do, like going to the gym when you hate it or depriving yourself of a piece of cake even when at a party, is bound to have the opposite effect on the one you truly desire.
This mindset of deprivation can cause the body to be under stress which can, in turn, cause weight gain. It also is a great breeding ground for strong emotions such as guilt or resentment, again, perfect for weight gain.
The more a person feels bad about themselves, the more they attract unhelpful behaviours, and the more these emotions get stored in the body, putting them at risk of turning un-resolved emotions into dis-ease.
Measuring success
It is vitally important to have clarity on how you measure your success.
The number on your weighing scales is not a good measure of success and I encourage my clients to put their scales out of sight.
Instead, measure your success by feeling how much vital energy you have. Or your mood during the day and how it changes depending on what you’re doing, eating, or who you are with.
Seeing yourself being able to walk further, fit into clothes you haven’t worn in a while, or have a more positive outlook are better measures of success for health or lifestyle-related goals.
How to learn more about long-term changes in food
If you have made your goal a must and are serious about transformation, come along to my LIVE masterclass on 22nd August on how to effectively change the way you see food and eating. It’s virtual and it's FREE, so it couldn’t be easier.
Simply use this link to save your space!
Places are limited and filling up fast, so click the link today!
I can’t wait to see you there.
Jules Francis, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Jules Francis is the go-to expert for career-driven women who are looking to transform their relationship with food.
She has helped hundreds of people from all walks of life to help them understand the underlying causes of why they have unhealthy eating behaviours.
With three decades of experience, Jules has the insight and experience to see what truly underpins low confidence and how people often choose to compensate behaviors for dealing with it.
Jules is a multi-award-winning health coach, co-author of 2 best-selling books, and creator of 2 online courses, The Food Breakthrough Academy and The Reset Button.
